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GreeneQueen · 21/08/2026 15:00

How can I help a child who is being exposed to weed on a regular basis.
I do my daily walk in the park and on several occasions I saw a boy about 5 yo with a male carer (?father) and a dog (dangerous breed type). The father always smokes a joint which I can smell from the distance. It leaves me outraged every time and my instinct is to want to protect the child but im not sure how to go about that. do i report to SS with the little info i can provide to identify them? or am i being altogether silly to think this can be helped?

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Stormwhale · 29/08/2026 20:36

HollyGolightly4 · 22/08/2026 22:11

No.

So you know better than their doctors who prescribe it for daily use, knowing they have children. What qualifies you to make that call?

HollyGolightly4 · 22/08/2026 22:11

RoseField1 · 22/08/2026 07:23

Again, it's legal when vaped or ingested via prescription. Should those parents not take their prescribed medication when around children?

No.

Timeforachange26 · 22/08/2026 14:12

HollyGolightly4 · 22/08/2026 03:52

I'm not arguing about the harm it doesn't- or does- cause. I'm pointing out that an adult shouldn't be taking illegal substances around a child.

Worrying that some posters think it enhances their parenting.

Simply because it's illegal then??

ObliviousCoalmine · 22/08/2026 07:50

Daygloboo · 21/08/2026 15:37

It's everywhere and it stinks. Ppl can do what they like...give themselves brain tumours....give themselves schizophrenia....I dont give but other people having to involuntarily breath in that shit really annoys me. My ex neighbour used to smoke it and it crept inyo the cortifors and under other ppls doors until we were all forced to smell it. I think thete should be a law tthat you csn smoke it do long as nobody csn smell ot who doesnt want yo smell it. Otherwise you are not a peaceful hoppie for smoking it but actuslly you are a fascist pig for imposing.the stench on others.

…have you been smoking today?

user1476613140 · 22/08/2026 07:47

Police don't have the resources to stop every single individual smoking a joint. It's commonplace where I live. You smell it in the neighbourhood. I don't agree with it especially for those with mental health problems as it often exacerbates them. I have a zero tolerance policy in the family home for any type of substance use. I also cannot stand the smell. It's disgusting.

It's doubtful anything will happen anyway if they're in a park. Many use it openly and don't care.

NeelyOHara · 22/08/2026 07:44

It’s legal in so many countries, who cares?

RoseField1 · 22/08/2026 07:42

LlynTegid · 22/08/2026 07:31

It's not just the taking of the substances, it is that the child could access them at home, and has happened, a dog ingest the remains of one depending on where the joint is put out.

Pity you did not feel able to go to a place out of earshot and call 111 as a safeguarding issue there and then.

Also by supporting the illegal trade you are in my opinion a racist given who dies as a result of it.

Do you mean 101?
What do you think a non emergency police report would have achieved?

rumplestiltskin88 · 22/08/2026 07:39

I don’t really think it’s much worse than a parent sitting having a glass of wine or two with a child present, aside from the second hand smoke .

LlynTegid · 22/08/2026 07:31

It's not just the taking of the substances, it is that the child could access them at home, and has happened, a dog ingest the remains of one depending on where the joint is put out.

Pity you did not feel able to go to a place out of earshot and call 111 as a safeguarding issue there and then.

Also by supporting the illegal trade you are in my opinion a racist given who dies as a result of it.

WhatNextImScared · 22/08/2026 07:24

Nobg · 21/08/2026 15:02

he is rather brazen to be strolling along with a joint! Is this a very remote walk?

It happens everywhere in London! Can’t walk 5 mins without being hit by a waft.

RoseField1 · 22/08/2026 07:23

HollyGolightly4 · 22/08/2026 03:52

I'm not arguing about the harm it doesn't- or does- cause. I'm pointing out that an adult shouldn't be taking illegal substances around a child.

Worrying that some posters think it enhances their parenting.

Again, it's legal when vaped or ingested via prescription. Should those parents not take their prescribed medication when around children?

HollyGolightly4 · 22/08/2026 03:52

Timeforachange26 · 21/08/2026 21:56

So does that make it more harmful in the UK then, and less harmful in countries where it's legal

I'm not arguing about the harm it doesn't- or does- cause. I'm pointing out that an adult shouldn't be taking illegal substances around a child.

Worrying that some posters think it enhances their parenting.

takealettermsjones · 22/08/2026 00:50

Stormwhale · 21/08/2026 15:42

This just doesn’t bother me. The parents I know who smoke weed are some of the kindest most attuned parents I know. They play and are relaxed around their children, it’s not scary or harmful for them in any way. I would say the opposite about the parents I know who drink heavily. Heavy drinking seems to often lead to violent arguments and scary situations.

That's how they are when they're around you. Behind closed doors it can be a different story.

Cel77 · 21/08/2026 22:49

chirrupybird · 21/08/2026 15:05

At least he's smoking outside not in a small room where the child would get a share.

He probably does that as well. How can you tell he's not if you're not inside watching him?

Timeforachange26 · 21/08/2026 22:46

Goatsarebest · 21/08/2026 22:45

We have normalised use of cannabis
We have a mental health crisis
No connection, nothing to see here. It makes you a better parent anyway.
If you don't think cannabis use is a significant public health issue then you've been smoking too much of it.

So what about alcohol then? Personally I think that does more damage

Goatsarebest · 21/08/2026 22:45

We have normalised use of cannabis
We have a mental health crisis
No connection, nothing to see here. It makes you a better parent anyway.
If you don't think cannabis use is a significant public health issue then you've been smoking too much of it.

Flannelfeet · 21/08/2026 22:30

Daygloboo · 21/08/2026 15:37

It's everywhere and it stinks. Ppl can do what they like...give themselves brain tumours....give themselves schizophrenia....I dont give but other people having to involuntarily breath in that shit really annoys me. My ex neighbour used to smoke it and it crept inyo the cortifors and under other ppls doors until we were all forced to smell it. I think thete should be a law tthat you csn smoke it do long as nobody csn smell ot who doesnt want yo smell it. Otherwise you are not a peaceful hoppie for smoking it but actuslly you are a fascist pig for imposing.the stench on others.

😬 fascist?

RoseField1 · 21/08/2026 22:17

HollyGolightly4 · 21/08/2026 16:26

It's illegal.

It's not illegal to vape or ingest cannabis with a medical prescription.

RoseField1 · 21/08/2026 22:15

flowersplease · 21/08/2026 21:50

I don’t think smoking outdoors with a child in the vicinity is a problem as long as they aren’t breathing it in. I am talking about smoking anything around children being harmful due to second hand smoke- I am certainly not making any judgement about people that smoke weed.

I know everyone from lawyers and magistrates to primary school teachers that smoke it, I used to smoke with my lecturer at university, just not where children could be getting second hand high or lung damage.

Exposing children to second hand smoke is definitely legally permissable harm under UK law.

Timeforachange26 · 21/08/2026 21:56

HollyGolightly4 · 21/08/2026 16:26

It's illegal.

So does that make it more harmful in the UK then, and less harmful in countries where it's legal

user28288 · 21/08/2026 21:53

Stormwhale · 21/08/2026 15:42

This just doesn’t bother me. The parents I know who smoke weed are some of the kindest most attuned parents I know. They play and are relaxed around their children, it’s not scary or harmful for them in any way. I would say the opposite about the parents I know who drink heavily. Heavy drinking seems to often lead to violent arguments and scary situations.

Came here to say this. It can improve your parenting when used in the right way imo

RoseField1 · 21/08/2026 21:52

Theunamedcat · 21/08/2026 21:48

Yes it can be

It's not physically addictive

flowersplease · 21/08/2026 21:51

Theunamedcat · 21/08/2026 21:47

People smoke it in town centres now they smoked it on the train last year the carriage STANK the driver came in as the doors opened and they legged it

Essentially its decriminalised in the Midlands where im from

Manchester too, I used to be the bus and people would light up at the back and smoke out of the windows. I was always too much of a coward for that but nobody was particularly bothered.

flowersplease · 21/08/2026 21:50

RoseField1 · 21/08/2026 15:50

They don't view it as a major issue because it's not one. Smoking a joint whilst outside with a child isn't causing the child significant harm so it's not going to meet the remit for social services intervention. In the UK parents have the right in law to parent how they choose even if those choices are less than optimal for their children. State intervention is not permitted for low level neglectful behaviour, which arguably smoking a joint might be (but then again it might not)

I don’t think smoking outdoors with a child in the vicinity is a problem as long as they aren’t breathing it in. I am talking about smoking anything around children being harmful due to second hand smoke- I am certainly not making any judgement about people that smoke weed.

I know everyone from lawyers and magistrates to primary school teachers that smoke it, I used to smoke with my lecturer at university, just not where children could be getting second hand high or lung damage.