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To think joining the Freemasons could maybe be beneficial for some young men?

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Jane379 · 21/08/2026 13:58

I've been thinking recently about the decline in mental health and friendships among young men on average and it occurred to me that third spaces have decreased, especially in some areas, but one that does remain, and has a long and apparently successful history, is the Freemasons.
I don't know much about them but I read an article in a history magazine recently which argued they're often seen in terms of secret networks etc but are generally beneficial and promote male friendship, mentoring, charity work and decrease polarisation through taking politics and religion off the table. If this is true, it sounds positive and potentially beneficial.

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Ablondiebutagoody · 21/08/2026 14:06

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Chattanoogachoo · 21/08/2026 14:05

KojaksLollipop · 21/08/2026 14:00

You need to believe in god, many people don’t.

Isn't it more about a supreme being, my cat is definitely a supreme being.

QPZM · 21/08/2026 14:04

Jane379 · 21/08/2026 14:01

Really? So agnostics and atheists cannot join? That seems unfortunate, I'm sure they would broaden their appeal by having an option to be non religious, but I suppose with such an ancient organisation it's hard to change things that are deeply rooted.

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I'm not sure they're short of members.

Why would they change anything?

MyCatIsAnAeroplane · 21/08/2026 14:03

“Friendships & mentoring” is code for the old boy’s club. There’s a reason it has the jokes about the funny handshakes. Who you knew, not what you knew. I am not sure encouraging more of that for men is what society needs.

Jane379 · 21/08/2026 14:01

KojaksLollipop · 21/08/2026 14:00

You need to believe in god, many people don’t.

Really? So agnostics and atheists cannot join? That seems unfortunate, I'm sure they would broaden their appeal by having an option to be non religious, but I suppose with such an ancient organisation it's hard to change things that are deeply rooted.

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KojaksLollipop · 21/08/2026 14:00

You need to believe in god, many people don’t.

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