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To think if you hate kids you shouldn’t have become a parent?

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SlappyHap · 21/08/2026 00:51

I see so much of “I hate kids, I only like my own” on here, and I just think it’s awful.

You became a parent but you will actively hate your children’s friends, school mates, any other child running round and playing with your child in the park/play area etc.? How on earth do you cope in child/family oriented settings?

If you hate kids (apart from your own) why did you become a parent?

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ColdAsAWitches · 21/08/2026 00:59

Maybe we didn't hate kids until we had them! And then realized how ungrateful,expensive, dirty, germ-laden and infuriating they are.

Boreded · 21/08/2026 00:58

SlappyHap · 21/08/2026 00:55

Why though?

They are so vulnerable and curious and innocent. I find that so sad.

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Because they’re also noisy, messy, annoying.

its the same with everything in life, some are good and some are bad. I don’t really care when people tell me about their kids unless I’m actually close with them, because I’m just not emotionally invested. I’ll still smile and pretend, but it’s no different than if I sat and told someone about a hobby I have, they don’t care but they’ll humour me.

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SlappyHap · 21/08/2026 00:55

Boreded · 21/08/2026 00:53

Because as much as we say it, we don’t actually ‘hate’ kids, we just don’t want to be around ones that we aren’t related to or that we haven’t got to know (like our kids friends)

Why though?

They are so vulnerable and curious and innocent. I find that so sad.

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Boreded · 21/08/2026 00:53

Because as much as we say it, we don’t actually ‘hate’ kids, we just don’t want to be around ones that we aren’t related to or that we haven’t got to know (like our kids friends)