To think if you hate kids you shouldn’t have become a parent?

I've never quite understood having a blanket statement of preference about any group of people.

Kids are just people. I like some of them, I don't like others - depends what kind of a person they are. Same as any other group.

Nobody says things like "I LOVE adults, and can't understand anyone who doesn't" 😂

Generally though, other peoples children are annoying.

Then throw in the parents who want to bore you to death about their 5 year olds reading record. No one really cares about this accept you, the parent.

My relative is constantly posting about how amazing her child is. How clever her child is blah blah blah. Her child also has zero manners and can’t play nicely. Her child is bloody annoying to be around.

i don’t hate kids. What I hate is parents that won’t wipe their children’s mouths, won’t discipline their children when they’re being loud and naughty in public, I hate parents that call their kids little c*nts in public and screaming at their scruffy little boys while their daughters are lovely and clean in princess dresses. I hate chavvy families. I do not hate kids. I hate shit parents who in turn make shit kids. I do not want to be sat next to a mucky, snotty, screaming child while their mother does sweet FA to clean up said child or shut them up. My mum could never. Faces wiped, clean clothes. Manners. If all kids were like that maybe i wouldn’t mind being in the vicinity of them.

Can never relate and in my experience these types were selfish long before they had children.

It’s a bit like dogs though - they’re inherently innocent but if their owner is an irresponsible dick, their animal can be really annoying and imposing on other people.

Same with children - most people don’t ‘hate’ children, they just find their behaviour and habits unlikeable and irritating. That’s why good parenting is so important to society.

To think there is no blanket rule that everyone has to fiollow, if people spent more time on their own lives and less coming up with a rule everyone has to follow, just because they have thought about it, then would be less issues in the world?

They are also expected to behave in public places and not be a nuisance to adults.

Didn't know this was a thing. Mine are all grown up so these days so I would say that I hate the noise some kids make, eg when you're on a plane and trying to get some sleep..

But to actually say that you hate kids, then I think there's something amiss there. That's just weird. How can you hate a group of people you don't know..You wouldn't say you hate the Irish, you hate blacks, you hate women. To hate an entire demographic seems just wrong. That's a failing on the part of whoever says that.

Do you have children? Sometimes when your own children consume you to such an extent your main thought about other kids is thank God they're not my responsibility.

And I love kids and always have. But with my own intense kids I'm not open to loving all kids for the sake of it right now. Would I always grab a kid who'd skinned their knees or whatever and offer sympathy etc absolutely I would.

I agree. In Italy, all children tend to be cherished from what I’ve observed. It’s an us problem 😂

Round my way they are a massive pain in the arse that cause no end of trouble. Even the young ones.

I don’t think our culture in particular is very pro child. There is a general cultural sense that they should be ‘seen and not heard’. Other cultures seem to be more prone to liking and engaging with other people’s kids, they just seem to have a more central place. It is a bit sad I agree.

I completely agree - YANBU. I don’t know how anyone can hate children. I think some people have kids just so that they have a potential future carer for themselves.

Because I like my children and I tend to like my friend’s children.

But most other children are at best annoying. Not necessarily their fault but their parents
ineffective parenting.

Shrieking children, children running riot in shops, children who are parented so gently that they are just a pain in the ass getting anyway with everything.

Children who have zero parenting being arseholes.

Yeah give me teens any day.

They are interesting, have views of their own they can speak about and plans if things to do.

Only 60%

But you didn't used to be a cat.

Well I also hate 60% of adults, and since presumably 60% of those kids will become adults one day...🤷

Oh god. I cannot stand kids. I will leave a restaurant, cross the street, politely decline any event with them in. I don’t hate them. I intend no harm to them. Much like people who don’t like cats. I will be kind, polite, and caring to one I come across, but I wouldn’t choose that. I love my children, though whilst I adored the baby stage- toddler through child was hard . I didn’t enjoy it. Teens, now, teens I LOVE. They are interesting engaging and thoughtful. They have lost the tedium of childhood. Of course they are challenging but in a stimulating way. But when people announce their hatred of teenagers that’s socially acceptable.

Agree, I can't see why anyone could dislike kids as a group. The needs they show, their behaviours , what they demand of you - it's what makes you an adult, engaging with them with grace. To understand how they are developing is to understand how you yourself developed. They are hilarious and interpret the world in endlessly rich ways.
And it's a moral question - we should all strive to go at the pace of the most vulnerable.

I'm afraid I judge people who dislike kids as not really having grown up themselves, as they sigh and get huffy, they can't handle younger people having more important needs which must be met before their own.

They are so …… innocent

Do you know any children?

If you had some of the charming individuals that live in my area around you, I don't think vulnerable, curious and innocent would be the correct adjectives to use!