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AIBU to think his solo holiday plans are selfish?

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Sam17062002 · 20/08/2026 23:41

For some background context, I have taken mine and my partners children on holiday twice. Once last year for a week and once this year for 10 nights. Both times my partner has opted out in coming due to personal extended family issues.
now my partner has decided he wants to go away in October for a week on his own to “somewhere with a sunbed where he can do nothing” am I being unreasonable in thinking this is selfish? Me and my partner have already been away for a weekend without the children and he has actually never been away with the kids.
I know I probably haven’t explained this the best but I am feeling annoyed that he thinks it’s acceptable to go away without even considering me or the kids

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BibbityBoppityTwo · 20/08/2026 23:53

It’s because in plenty of cases what he wants to do would be fine. In the context of leaving you to use all your holiday time managing family holidays on your own it is not OK.

Maybe tell him you wouldn’t mind a solo holiday of your own and see what he says to that.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 20/08/2026 23:52

You must have missed something out though. How can ‘personal extended family issues’ stop him traveling with his kids, but not alone or with his partner?

Sam17062002 · 20/08/2026 23:49

This is my first ever thread so please bare with me as I’m not good at explaining things, however no I have not missed anything out it is exactly how it’s put. I don’t think I am being unreasonable but it seems that my partners reaction says otherwise and I am questioning myself

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BibbityBoppityTwo · 20/08/2026 23:46

A holiday on your own is fine. A holiday on your own when you refuse to participate in family holidays and leave your partner to manage the kids is not OK. If he wants to get away and lay by the pool solo he needs to lift his game and participate in family holidays.

JustGiveMeReason · 20/08/2026 23:44

From the information you have put in the OP he is being so completely beyond unreasonable, I can't help wondering if you are missing out some information?

I mean, going on what's written, this can't even be a question, surely ?
He is so obviously BVVVVU

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