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To think Meghan Markle has every right to worry about her security?

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Hardware252525252525 · 20/08/2026 22:07

I’m not a monarchist and haven’t really taken much notice of the whole saga, but obviously do know the main points.

However, the comments across Mumsnet and multiple newspapers and websites are absolutely insane and unhinged. People who don’t know them insisting she’s leaving Harry and the kids, is controlling him, that they’re skint and tge
kids will have to go to state school if Charles doesn’t pay, people saying they hope a random stranger sees her and gives her ‘some home truths’.

It is absolutely crackers and I worry about the sanity of the people who seem to really believe they know them.

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OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 17:08

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 17:03

It’s a bit late in the day for that

Most odd.
How many times do people have to explain that no, Beatrice, Eugenie, Zara and Peter etc don't get taxpayer funded security as a matter of course?
Is it to buoy up the claims of H&M, do you suppose?.

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 17:03

Backtoschooloncemore · 23/08/2026 16:52

Twist it? Did you get out of bed the wrong side?

It’s a bit late in the day for that

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 16:54

Backtoschooloncemore · 23/08/2026 16:52

Twist it? Did you get out of bed the wrong side?

What? At 5pm?
How silly.
If you don't understand what it means that minor royals don't get security then it's you who has the problem.
It's not that hard to understand. fgs

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 16:54

lemmein · 23/08/2026 16:53

Sure…

I’m glad you agree

lemmein · 23/08/2026 16:53

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 16:38

No it doesn’t at all. It means we call out entitled behaviour and lies and not tug on our foreloc just because a member of the RF says it so.

Sure…

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Backtoschooloncemore · 23/08/2026 16:52

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 16:51

"may.....if"?
Yes, like anyone else who has received a threat.
Don't twist it.
The non working royals do not get taxpayer funded security as a matter of course

Twist it? Did you get out of bed the wrong side?

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 16:51

Backtoschooloncemore · 23/08/2026 16:49

That won’t quite be true - the minor royals may get security if a specific threat has been identified.

"may.....if"?
Yes, like anyone else who has received a threat.
Don't twist it.
The non working royals do not get taxpayer funded security as a matter of course

Backtoschooloncemore · 23/08/2026 16:49

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 14:56

Your last sentence is correct. There is only taxpayer funded security for the King and Queen, and the Prince and Princess of Wales. Anne, Edward and Sophie only get it when they do official royal duties. Beatrice, Eugenie, Zara etc get nothing.

That won’t quite be true - the minor royals may get security if a specific threat has been identified.

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 16:38

lemmein · 23/08/2026 16:06

Ahh I should’ve said I have the Royal Family board muted so I probably don’t see the worst of it!

The hate is bizarre - I genuinely don’t understand it. I think it makes us Brits look backwards. There’s nothing quite like plebs being so subservient that they’ll take personal offence at those who offend their masters.

It’s embarrassing.

No it doesn’t at all. It means we call out entitled behaviour and lies and not tug on our foreloc just because a member of the RF says it so.

2026letsgo · 23/08/2026 16:17

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:47

Just as the haters, and I use that word deliberately, can choose to pause and think before starting yet another thread, or another post criticising them, Meghan’s pregnancies, their parenting, their motivations that that can’t possibly know about…

And they can choose to not read another article written in the same vein…. Or not listen to another jeering podcast.

Many haters are gullibly taking in this huge volume of comment that is largely made for financial reward and are reproducing it on sm sites without asking themselves the question is this reasonable, sane, or proportionate?

I will openly say I hate liver. That’s not my entire personality. I am not a hater because I have a negative position on liver.

I also dislike HAM, I think they are inauthentic, disingenuous and have used their position and money to benefit no one but themselves.
But if they weren’t all over the press/TV/ social media I wouldn’t be discussing them.

Interesting that slagging off Trump on non policy matters doesn’t make you a “hater”. You can poke fun at his hair, skin colour, stupid mannerisms, general speech and be considered absolutely right thinking.

hahabahbag · 23/08/2026 16:12

Couldn’t care less about her but the obsession with security (when you’re from gun crazy America) and entitlement is off the scale. Princess Anne’s kids manage to live private lives and no tax payer money… why can’t H&M. Perhaps just knuckle down and work

lemmein · 23/08/2026 16:06

simpsonthecat · 21/08/2026 07:06

No, the tide hasn't turned in fact, on here I think it has got worse. The number of horrible insults and names she is called is unbelievable. Look at the long running thread about her and him, it's up to no. 29. That's 28,000+ posts and it is not balanced in any way. The regulars on there make it their life's work to disparage her, on and on. I reported a revolting post the other day, it wasn't deleted, mnhq said it was just an opinion. No other famous person on this forum could be called that and not have their post deleted. It has become a UK mindset for some people.

I think the hate has got worse. The less Meghan does, the worse it gets. People work themselves up into a complete frenzy about her and it will only take one batshit unhinged person to take it further and the media feeds it. I listened to Angela Levin and read Dickie Arbiter yesterday, they were almost frothing at the mouth.

Ahh I should’ve said I have the Royal Family board muted so I probably don’t see the worst of it!

The hate is bizarre - I genuinely don’t understand it. I think it makes us Brits look backwards. There’s nothing quite like plebs being so subservient that they’ll take personal offence at those who offend their masters.

It’s embarrassing.

AnitaCam · 23/08/2026 15:54

I’m waiting for a comedy skit on how to avoid racism while cooking and the pitfalls of haters in the coffee shop. Where’s Paul Whitehouse when you need him. Maybe Harry Enfield could print à leaflet.

rocklivia · 23/08/2026 15:29

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:47

Just as the haters, and I use that word deliberately, can choose to pause and think before starting yet another thread, or another post criticising them, Meghan’s pregnancies, their parenting, their motivations that that can’t possibly know about…

And they can choose to not read another article written in the same vein…. Or not listen to another jeering podcast.

Many haters are gullibly taking in this huge volume of comment that is largely made for financial reward and are reproducing it on sm sites without asking themselves the question is this reasonable, sane, or proportionate?

To clarify you are classing everyone who starts a thread or contributes to a thread where there is criticism of Meghan and Harry a " hater" ?

rocklivia · 23/08/2026 15:28

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:24

Oh the irony of this comment. Many posters who defend H & M, or at least question the volume of negativity towards them, are subject to personal comments and are questioned about their intelligence or even their right to even comment in the first place.

And yes I have seen posters openly saying they loathe or detest them, which in my book are good synonyms for hate.

Also the sheer volume of posts does imho amount to hate when it is out of all proportion to what they have supposedly done. General criticism is fine of course but when posters create long-running ongoing threads for the sole purpose of raking through every detail of their lives, claiming to know every single one of their inner intentions and motivations, yes that does amount to hatred and it is unhinged.

A good example is their recent visit to the UK. Meghan didn’t appear in public or comment while she was here and yet thousands of nasty comments appeared about her and her children. That also constitutes hate in my book.

And when negative biased articles appear almost every day in the DM and in other leading media sites, and every washed up royal commentator, as a pp wisely said below, is using negative comment against H and M, to revitalise their income streams, that also constitutes hate.

Especially as this negative rhetoric plays straight in to the hands of certain readers of said right wing racist populist press who love a pile on and to jeer and sneer at articulate confident mixed race or black females who they don’t perceive as “sufficiently subservient” and that also constitutes hate in my book too

Well done you managed to add racism into this . 👏👏👏👏

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 15:11

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:47

Just as the haters, and I use that word deliberately, can choose to pause and think before starting yet another thread, or another post criticising them, Meghan’s pregnancies, their parenting, their motivations that that can’t possibly know about…

And they can choose to not read another article written in the same vein…. Or not listen to another jeering podcast.

Many haters are gullibly taking in this huge volume of comment that is largely made for financial reward and are reproducing it on sm sites without asking themselves the question is this reasonable, sane, or proportionate?

Rubbish and so is your use of the word haters. So 2020

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 14:56

EricTheHalfASleeve · 23/08/2026 14:54

What is the royal security cut off? Do Beatrice & Eugenie or Zara get security? I genuinely have no idea. The Windsor's are a rich family - the intelligence service should monitor threats to all of them but I don't see why the taxpayer should pay for security for all of them - there needs to be a cut off. Only providing security for official engagements seems reasonable.

Your last sentence is correct. There is only taxpayer funded security for the King and Queen, and the Prince and Princess of Wales. Anne, Edward and Sophie only get it when they do official royal duties. Beatrice, Eugenie, Zara etc get nothing.

EricTheHalfASleeve · 23/08/2026 14:54

What is the royal security cut off? Do Beatrice & Eugenie or Zara get security? I genuinely have no idea. The Windsor's are a rich family - the intelligence service should monitor threats to all of them but I don't see why the taxpayer should pay for security for all of them - there needs to be a cut off. Only providing security for official engagements seems reasonable.

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:47

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 14:33

Well the simple answer to this is not to read any of it. You can ignore it and scroll by.

Just as the haters, and I use that word deliberately, can choose to pause and think before starting yet another thread, or another post criticising them, Meghan’s pregnancies, their parenting, their motivations that that can’t possibly know about…

And they can choose to not read another article written in the same vein…. Or not listen to another jeering podcast.

Many haters are gullibly taking in this huge volume of comment that is largely made for financial reward and are reproducing it on sm sites without asking themselves the question is this reasonable, sane, or proportionate?

OrangeAxolotyl · 23/08/2026 14:36

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 12:45

I wholeheartedly agree. There is a lot of weaponisation of mental health /illnesses being used as an insult towards those who disagree with their opinion. It’s lazy, childish and used by those who either think it’s 2020 when people might have believed these ridiculous statements or by those who have simply run out of road in their arguments so resort to petty insults.

I agree with you, using these mental health jibes? it's offensive. If you don't agree with something, if you challenge H&M you have a mental illness? That's such an unpleasant approach, much repeated on here, unfortunately.
Edited for clarity.

Benjithedog · 23/08/2026 14:33

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:24

Oh the irony of this comment. Many posters who defend H & M, or at least question the volume of negativity towards them, are subject to personal comments and are questioned about their intelligence or even their right to even comment in the first place.

And yes I have seen posters openly saying they loathe or detest them, which in my book are good synonyms for hate.

Also the sheer volume of posts does imho amount to hate when it is out of all proportion to what they have supposedly done. General criticism is fine of course but when posters create long-running ongoing threads for the sole purpose of raking through every detail of their lives, claiming to know every single one of their inner intentions and motivations, yes that does amount to hatred and it is unhinged.

A good example is their recent visit to the UK. Meghan didn’t appear in public or comment while she was here and yet thousands of nasty comments appeared about her and her children. That also constitutes hate in my book.

And when negative biased articles appear almost every day in the DM and in other leading media sites, and every washed up royal commentator, as a pp wisely said below, is using negative comment against H and M, to revitalise their income streams, that also constitutes hate.

Especially as this negative rhetoric plays straight in to the hands of certain readers of said right wing racist populist press who love a pile on and to jeer and sneer at articulate confident mixed race or black females who they don’t perceive as “sufficiently subservient” and that also constitutes hate in my book too

Well the simple answer to this is not to read any of it. You can ignore it and scroll by.

Filoparcels017 · 23/08/2026 14:24

rocklivia · 23/08/2026 12:32

How do you know people feel "hatred" for them ? Has there been a poll on that ? Has anyone on here actually said they hate them ?

Is this the same type of lazy comment pulled out time and time again along the lines of you don't know them/ why do you care etc?

Just because people criticise them it doesn't mean they " hate " them . That would be like saying people who praise their actions " love" them. It doesn't make logical sense.

People are entitled to their own opinions one way or another but please don't try to insinuate that there is something mentally wrong with people who criticise the Sussexes. Don't come back with a " I didn't say that " either as your insinuations are clear for anyone to see. There is nothing clever about taking a dig at people's mental health because they choose a different path from yourself. When people resort to personal attack they have already lost their point.

Oh the irony of this comment. Many posters who defend H & M, or at least question the volume of negativity towards them, are subject to personal comments and are questioned about their intelligence or even their right to even comment in the first place.

And yes I have seen posters openly saying they loathe or detest them, which in my book are good synonyms for hate.

Also the sheer volume of posts does imho amount to hate when it is out of all proportion to what they have supposedly done. General criticism is fine of course but when posters create long-running ongoing threads for the sole purpose of raking through every detail of their lives, claiming to know every single one of their inner intentions and motivations, yes that does amount to hatred and it is unhinged.

A good example is their recent visit to the UK. Meghan didn’t appear in public or comment while she was here and yet thousands of nasty comments appeared about her and her children. That also constitutes hate in my book.

And when negative biased articles appear almost every day in the DM and in other leading media sites, and every washed up royal commentator, as a pp wisely said below, is using negative comment against H and M, to revitalise their income streams, that also constitutes hate.

Especially as this negative rhetoric plays straight in to the hands of certain readers of said right wing racist populist press who love a pile on and to jeer and sneer at articulate confident mixed race or black females who they don’t perceive as “sufficiently subservient” and that also constitutes hate in my book too

TheHatTrick · 23/08/2026 13:57

They certainly seem to court drama.

I received good advice from a stranger when moving to a small town. “If you don’t want people commenting on your business then don’t tell anyone your business.”

The opposite holds true.

Noodles1234 · 23/08/2026 13:16

Thing is, they like the drama, any publicity is good publicity. You see they haven't actually publicly said much / anything at all and yet people comment good and bad. It is like a travelling crazy / bad circus.

One thing that I think is concerning for them, any couple in the world regardless of wealth, from having 3 houses around the globe or Bob and Jane in a 2 bed in Cleethorpes all this is a huge strain on a marriage. Think Court dramas, staffing changes, moving countries, schools, Nannys, family fall outs, trying to get employment etc. yes often their own making. I just hope for their kids sake the move across the Atlantic (again) is a good idea for them.

M seems a shrewd player, part of me feels sorry for her as H comes across as not shrewd and not a player.

TheHatTrick · 23/08/2026 13:00

Yes, yes, we’re all unhinged here.

Who is madder? The people housed in this asylum or the ones who claim they are wholly sane but choose to spend their time here anyway, surrounded by us lot.

It’s a hobby, stop making out you’re above it.