Page 6 | To increasingly feel like men are more of a hindrance than anything else

Windiscrazytoday · 2026-08-20T15:43:52+00:00

They are responsible for so many evils in the world in comparison to females The females I know are just so much more capable and emotionally stable I love Dh but often find myself helping him to regulate his emotions or balancing things on days out to keep the mood good for the Dc My father, I adore, but my mother's life has not been easy with him in many aspects Is this a peri/late 40's thing? Feel like I'm seeing how things really are and it isn't great

TheAzurePeer · 20/08/2026 18:59

Shatteredallthetimelately · 20/08/2026 16:58

I've had far more bad experiences with women than I have with men throughout my life (54 now).

I'd have to agree here.

These so many awful, bitter women out there.

And they congregate on mumsnet.

VestibuleWeaver · 20/08/2026 18:53

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:45

I just get sick of whataboutery. Disagree that 'not all men are like that' by all means, like the Not My Nigels always do...., But the 'I know far more WOMEN who are horrible/vile/bitter etc,' type comments is whataboutery that has no place on this thread IMO.

So what if you do know more horrible women (than horrible men?) The thread is not about them is it?!

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It’s only whataboutery if someone is using women’s behaviour to excuse or minimise men’s behaviour. Saying “I don’t agree that men are uniquely or disproportionately a hindrance, because that isn’t my experience” is simply answering the AIBU question.

You don’t get to ask whether a generalisation about men is unreasonable and then declare contrary experiences irrelevant because they involve women. If only agreement with the premise is allowed, there wasn’t much point putting it in AIBU.

ownedbymydogs · 20/08/2026 18:52

The trouble is, @getthroughonemoreday , you are wrong. The ‘vast spectrum of evil’ you talk about is also mostly carried out by men, or women would be making up more than 4% of the prison population. And that’s just one metric.

But not my Nigel, obviously.

INX · 20/08/2026 18:49

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:45

I just get sick of whataboutery. Disagree that 'not all men are like that' by all means, like the Not My Nigels always do...., But the 'I know far more WOMEN who are horrible/vile/bitter etc,' type comments is whataboutery that has no place on this thread IMO.

So what if you do know more horrible women (than horrible men?) The thread is not about them is it?!

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Threads tend to evolve on chat forums.

It's a rare thread that doesn't have opinions and posts that don't stick absolutely rigidly to the topic.

MsIceSandwich · 20/08/2026 18:47

This thread is a shining example of the superiority of women 🙄

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:45

VestibuleWeaver · 20/08/2026 18:41

Or, feel free to not gatekeep on this one. OP literally asked if she's being unreasonable to feel this way. Some posters do feel she's being unreasonable, and it's not your place to tell them to get lost.

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I just get sick of whataboutery. Disagree that 'not all men are like that' by all means, like the Not My Nigels always do...., But the 'I know far more WOMEN who are horrible/vile/bitter etc,' type comments is whataboutery that has no place on this thread IMO.

So what if you do know more horrible women (than horrible men?) The thread is not about them is it?!

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getthroughonemoreday · 20/08/2026 18:45

I'm a woman and am definitely the needier of the two in my relationship. DH has more patience in almost every area of life and puts up with a lot from me, if I'm honest. That said, there are things I can do better than he can, and he's stuck around for 25 years, so we're doing alright. We balance over another out.

Certainly, some men are more trouble than they're worth, but the same can be said of some women, as well. I acknowledge that men are responsible for most violent crimes, but it's still unfair and unhelpful to tar all men with the same brush. There's a vast spectrum of evil apart from the type of violent crime that men are more likely to commit, and women are guilty of a lot of it, but that doesn't mean we should blame all women or say that women are more trouble than we're worth.

Activelife · 20/08/2026 18:44

WildGarlicSoup · 20/08/2026 16:48

I've had far more bad experiences with women than I have with men throughout my life (54 now).

Your husband sounds very immature and volatile. Probably not a good choice to have made.

I have to agree with this as well.

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:42

Well said @ownedbymydogs

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:42

risingup · 20/08/2026 17:17

YANBU I will never live with a man again because it honestly feels like having an additional part time job that you don't get paid for.

This. ^

ownedbymydogs · 20/08/2026 18:42

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VestibuleWeaver · 20/08/2026 18:41

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:34

Yep. Feel free to start a woman bashing thread.

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Or, feel free to not gatekeep on this one. OP literally asked if she's being unreasonable to feel this way. Some posters do feel she's being unreasonable, and it's not your place to tell them to get lost.

Howarewealldoing · 20/08/2026 18:38

no offence but are you sure you didn’t pick someone like your father ?. My husband is amazing and my life definitely would not be easier without out men in the world .

2ndNatureTime · 20/08/2026 18:38

My life is easier now im not with a hindrance. I couldn't go through that again so picked someone who would enhance my life not drag me down

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 20/08/2026 18:37

Another day. Another man bashing thread. How original. 🙄

sittingonabeach · 20/08/2026 18:37

INX · 20/08/2026 18:36

At least it gives dogs and their owners a break 😁

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Unless they are male!

INX · 20/08/2026 18:36

UniquePinkSwan · 20/08/2026 17:02

Is this the weekly man hating thread?

At least it gives dogs and their owners a break 😁

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:36

ginasevern · 20/08/2026 17:58

@Weeellokthen
"Very few men are decent human beings"😮
I am so sorry YOU have experienced shitty men in your life.
I choose only good men in mine"

It's completely fair to say it isn't your experience and I'm glad you have only good men in your life. But it is complacency of the highest order (not to mention extremely thoughtless) to imply that anyone who's husband, father, brother or son is nasty or difficult is entirely their own fault because they haven't "chosen" well.

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It's a ludicrous thing to say isn't it? I chose better men in my life than you.

Incredibly rude and thoughtless and tone deaf post.

ownedbymydogs · 20/08/2026 18:36

sittingonabeach · 20/08/2026 18:05

Have there never been any shit women in power?

This is a good question. And the answer is, of course there have. I suspect women leaders proportionally hold their place as far as corruption goes.
However, I think when we say ‘shit leaders’ we often mean random invasions and war mongering causing untold deaths and generational poverty, affecting much more the countries that are directly involved (think effect on oil prices after invasion of Ukraine).
I have for years despaired at the lack of women with power in the Middle East.

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:34

VestibuleWeaver · 20/08/2026 18:24

What is it about then? Just general man-bashing?

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Yep. Feel free to start a woman bashing thread.

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:34

WildGarlicSoup · 20/08/2026 17:32

Do not tell me what to do. However, in doing so you have proven my point. Bossy madam.

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😂

mangopine · 20/08/2026 18:34

I don’t deny that maintaining a marriage takes some work and patience at times, but my life is richer for having DH in it, and even richer with our sons.

My sons bring value to this world, not hindrance. The patriarchy is harmful, but so are attitudes and threads like this.

PrettyLittleRose · 20/08/2026 18:33

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No it's not stupid. How rude. That is this poster's personal experience. How dare you belittle it by calling it 'stupid.'

Hiredgun · 20/08/2026 18:30

I am a guy and know many amazing men but it’s hard to argue with the reality when we see so much horrendous acts committed by some men everyday.

Yes, there are many horrendous women out there too, and their modus operandi is more subtle, but they don’t commit violence and terror on the scale of men.

Cheese55 · 20/08/2026 18:28

UniquePinkSwan · 20/08/2026 17:02

Is this the weekly man hating thread?

Reductionist much?