Just walked out on kids

Honestly for all you posters talking about emotional abuse this is what’s wrong with society today. Dramatising things like this and wasting resources.
What OP did was a positive thing to protect her own MH and calm down before she actually said something more likely to be upsetting.
And gave a message to the dc that their behaviour was unacceptable and this is a consequence.
Seems that more of this is needed today to stop producing entitled little shits or wall flowers who can’t cope with life.

I'm frazzled too, OP. Week 7 of 8 and my 5DC are ready for school, we are all craving routine and structure. 🫠

Oh come on. You're just making stuff up now! 😆

I just wanted to reply, Thank you. 💕

You’re heroic. I mean it. If you feel better in a little while, splash some cold water on your face, one more deep breath, and when the time and circumstance are right, sit in your garden with a glass of wine. Read a book or watch trash Telly on your mobile. You did really well and it was hard.

You have privilege if your own child didn't have to be a latchkey kid at a young age, like my oldest was at 6 because I didn't have the privilege of available childcare, or the privilege to turn down a work placement when I was unemployed.

You're being a dick. Do better next time.

Oh well, never mind, the kids were fine and she didnt do anything extraordinary.

I spent two hours trying to get my two under 5 to eat and watch some school programs. My plans for taking them out somewhere specific had to be dropped as it's too late now. I put my shoes on and walked out, locking the door, to get the mail. They were convinced I'd gone out and left them at alone home. 😭
I'm now lying down in my room with the door closed and they are ready and waiting by the door.
I'm scrolling and practising deep breathing. 😂

Except, that she didn’t say anything at all like that. She just bunked off.

Anyway, the kids are fine. I knew that before your update, because obviously they'd be fine.

Glad you got a breather, glad all's well.

Look, I am genuinely not judging here. I think lots of posters have leapt to your defence saying you did nothing wrong. And it was those posters I was talking about rather than your own attitude.

Imo you did something wrong when you left the house without telling your kids where you were going or how long you were going to be with the wording “nope, not having this be my life“. Fair enough. No judgement. We all do things wrong. I do lots of things wrong. I try to do better next time - I don’t always manage it. I don’t think it’s helpful for hoards of posters to say that a wrong thing is not wrong and actually that will teach the kids to behave better next time etc.

There are posters saying they feel a similar incident from their own childhood caused permanent damage and they have been told to shut the fuck up and get over it, so no empathy for those people (again, from other posters here, not you).

I think something like this needs discussing, and working to improve the communication. This is something I’m not perfect at and have said on this thread: I lose my temper, I’m not a saint or a perfect parent, but an incident like this wouldn’t slip by with me thinking it was normal or ok.

I am truly sorry for the stress you’ve had today, and if I have in any way made you feel judged. I absolutely don’t judge people for making mistakes.

I think it's time to leave this thread and put it to bed, OP.
There are some unpleasant posters on here who I suspect are twisting everything you say for the sh*ts and giggles at this point.

You know your kids are fine now, they will be fine tomorrow and they will be fine in their adulthood.
You're not a bad mum, you're just human like the rest of us! x

I thought it was the OP who suggested that poster should report her and so that poster responded sarcastically. Albeit, the OP was also being sarcastic.

Anyway, I wouldn’t worry. The OP seems to be firmly reassured she has done nothing wrong and there’s nothing to see here, so that’s that I suppose.

The constant kicking and demanding of unrealistic standards and false claims of the law are, ironically pretty abusive and damage less confident parents with their scaremongering and lack of realism.

Accepting that it's OK to leave a 12 & 9yo for a short while mades it easier to say "your bickering is unacceptable and driving me mad. I'm going for a walk around the block and expect you to have sorted it out peacefully by the time I'm back" whereas false "rules" trapping a parent in makes it more likely that the reaction will become more emotionally charged

Excessive coddling can also damage children long term if they've been too insulated from the normal range of human emotions and how to resolve them, either by leaving them unaware of their effect on other people or not giving them the experience to work with other's needs.

Imperfect experiences often have the strongest learning moments.
Today, OP's children learned about the impact of their behaviour on their mum and mutual reconciliation. It was imperfect but it was not abuse.

At no point have I said no be should be 'bothered' about the incident in the OP. The OP herself has said she didn't handle it properly and it was a one off, which is why she was bothered enough to post in the first place.

That PP was not trying to be constructive at all. She made her point then kept sticking the boot in, inferring the neighbour's should report her and that anyone who can understand a parent having to leave a situation is somewhat 'bizarre'. Including the social worker who has commented (who apparently is not even a real SW according to the pp).

If she was that empathetic and worried about these kids she wouldn't be trying to continually put down the OP when she has already explained how under pressure she was. It was faux concern to make themselves feel superior.

Intelligent people look at the situation and offer advice, even if that includes some straight talking, they don't keep poking and prodding a person who has admitted their mistake, has said it won't happen again, and clarified that their children are fine.

EDIT - refuse to continually bash a stranger on how their children might be treated at home.

Thank God the real world isn't like an MN board!
Well, it isn't in my experience anyway.

So many fixed opinions, so much judgement and way, way too much OTT therapy speak.

How have you arrived at the conclusion that she won’t teach her children about empathy? Being bothered that someone else’s children might be affected by their mother threatening to an abandon them sounds like her empathy is functioning better than most people on this thread.

Someone with an attitude such as yours isn't great parenting. I'm assuming they are only taught strict rules and not how to be empathetic.

Or you have a really high bar. We're not all the same remember.

I predict your children may be slightly coddled.

People are crazy on here.
Hope you’re ok OP. Haven’t finished reading the thread but you’re a person too and still navigating life for the first time as everyone does. Absolutely fine to take yourself off for a breather at those ages. We are not martyrs. Does our children good to realise that we’re human too, and not the everlasting fountain of patience and calm. It’s not real life.
People seriously need to get a grip.

It seems the majority of posters have a very low bar when it comes to parenting. Perhaps I am perfect after all. Yay for me.

Good luck to all of your children.

Arguing over a face towel?

Oh you sweet, naive child. Have you never come across a pair of siblings before? 😂