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To be annoyed by this neighbour

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 06:59

New neighbour moved into a social housing bungalow behind our house a few months ago. He has been a bit of a nightmare to be honest. He doesn't make excessive noise as such but he is definitely impacting us and our immediate neighbours. Some examples are, letting his dog out for a wee at 6am every morning. It then barks when in the garden. It only barks 2 or 3 times and he ushers it back in the house but it is very loud, waking us up each time. He also has excessively loud phone conversations on speakerphone throughout the day. I mean really loud. I was in my bedroom the other night with the window closed and I could hear everything the person on the end of the line was saying it was that loud. It makes sitting in our garden a bit of a nightmare now to be honest. This happens at least 5 or 6 times throughout the day up until about 10pm. He has a loud car which he loves to rev up constantly and the exhaust has been modified to make it even louder. Is this just normal behaviour these days or do I contact the social housing provider? I will not speak to him direct as I've been warned he's quite aggressive.

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CopeNorth · 20/08/2026 07:35

Oh god, our dog went through a phase of announcing herself into the garden by barking early in the morning 🤦🏽‍♀️. I was like “think of the neighbours”! I think it was aimed at next doors dogs when we first got her as a rescue. She’s stopped now so maybe his dog will get used to it. We trained her by distracting with scent training/treats.

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:33

FlatCatYellowMat · 20/08/2026 07:30

The likely illegal exhaust is off (not least because it'll also mean that any insurance he has could technically be invalid - with some provisos)

The talking on the phone and the dog, there's not much you can do about though.

When I was growing up, next door was quite deaf, and we could hear her TV through the walls all the time. We counted ourselves lucky TBH, because it meant that we could make noise and it wouldn't disturb her :D

On the other hand the people 2 houses up with a little yappy dog really annoyed the whole close - because they had fancy double glazing, so when it started to bark at 3am they'd just chuck it into the garden to bark, and they were fine, the rest of us weren't - there were plenty of mutterings about that.

Thank you, I suppose it's adjusting to someone else moving into our little block. Up until this point it's been very peaceful and quiet and it sounds like we've had it really lucky for a long time x

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FlatCatYellowMat · 20/08/2026 07:30

The likely illegal exhaust is off (not least because it'll also mean that any insurance he has could technically be invalid - with some provisos)

The talking on the phone and the dog, there's not much you can do about though.

When I was growing up, next door was quite deaf, and we could hear her TV through the walls all the time. We counted ourselves lucky TBH, because it meant that we could make noise and it wouldn't disturb her :D

On the other hand the people 2 houses up with a little yappy dog really annoyed the whole close - because they had fancy double glazing, so when it started to bark at 3am they'd just chuck it into the garden to bark, and they were fine, the rest of us weren't - there were plenty of mutterings about that.

rwalker · 20/08/2026 07:22

Just sounds part and parcel of living with neighbours
the only thing that jumps out is the need to reference social housing that’s the only unreasonable thing in this thread

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:18

Aw fair enough. I wasn't sure as its always been really peaceful and quiet round here until he moved in x

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ShetlandishMum · 20/08/2026 07:05

Isn't this a quite common level of noise? Around here it is.

Morepositivemum · 20/08/2026 07:04

To be honest he doesn’t sound too bad if he ushers the dog back in- his dog has to pee! And a lot of people have hearing issues now funnily due to phones and their volume (was on the radio only yesterday!!!) so not necessarily his fault! The car isn’t great but otherwise I think you probably had it lucky last neighbour and you will make an enemy if you csll around asking him to not bring his dog out or talk loudly! You could mention the revving if you can be diplomatic!!

Venice93 · 20/08/2026 07:03

YANBU to find the noise irritating. HINBU for living his life. In my family I have some super sensitive hearers. Ear plugs? Headphones? Music?

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