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To be annoyed by this neighbour

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 06:59

New neighbour moved into a social housing bungalow behind our house a few months ago. He has been a bit of a nightmare to be honest. He doesn't make excessive noise as such but he is definitely impacting us and our immediate neighbours. Some examples are, letting his dog out for a wee at 6am every morning. It then barks when in the garden. It only barks 2 or 3 times and he ushers it back in the house but it is very loud, waking us up each time. He also has excessively loud phone conversations on speakerphone throughout the day. I mean really loud. I was in my bedroom the other night with the window closed and I could hear everything the person on the end of the line was saying it was that loud. It makes sitting in our garden a bit of a nightmare now to be honest. This happens at least 5 or 6 times throughout the day up until about 10pm. He has a loud car which he loves to rev up constantly and the exhaust has been modified to make it even louder. Is this just normal behaviour these days or do I contact the social housing provider? I will not speak to him direct as I've been warned he's quite aggressive.

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Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 08:51

Attitudes like this around social housing is the reason successive governments have hit a brick wall when attempts have been made to increase the much-needed housing stock. “Not in my back yard”. This pushes the need for expensive private rentals and then the same NIMBYs bleat on about the ever-increasing benefits bill. Get your heads out of your arses.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:50

Ansells · 20/08/2026 08:46

How close do you live to him that you can hear every word of his conversation? As a phone can only go so loud so it sounds like you must live very close to each other, which will be part of the problem.

It doesn't sound like a normal speakerphone tbh as mine doesn't go anywhere near as loud as his. Im.not sure what phone he has but it is exceptionally loud and I could hear the conversation with his mate who was describing what he was drinking in the pub...I could hear every cocktail description . There's 2 gardens and a footpath dividing us so we are not that close!!

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:48

DoloresDelEriba · 20/08/2026 08:46

Stop flaming the OP. Anyone would take a dislike to these behaviours if their peaceful life was suddenly disturbed like this. Can you ask him not to use speakerphone. Suggest earbuds. Mention the car and general noise levels to housing association or whoever runs the bungalows. Sounds hard. Hope it gets better for you.

Thank you xx blimey, I wasn't expecting to have to defend myself like this haha. This level of noise might be normal for many people but it wasn't for us, hence the question on here x

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Raptors · 20/08/2026 08:46

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:42

I really haven't taken a dislike to him im not sure why you wpuld say that. I was simply asking if the noise is reasonable as this is an aibu thread and we've previously been lucky enough to live in a quiet area.

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It's the fact he's only been there a short amount of time and you're considering reporting him for what generally amounts to day to day noise. It also seems like you've formed an opinion on him being aggressive based on others hearsay?

Have you actually had a conversation with him in the time he has been there?

DoloresDelEriba · 20/08/2026 08:46

Stop flaming the OP. Anyone would take a dislike to these behaviours if their peaceful life was suddenly disturbed like this. Can you ask him not to use speakerphone. Suggest earbuds. Mention the car and general noise levels to housing association or whoever runs the bungalows. Sounds hard. Hope it gets better for you.

Ansells · 20/08/2026 08:46

How close do you live to him that you can hear every word of his conversation? As a phone can only go so loud so it sounds like you must live very close to each other, which will be part of the problem.

MerryUmberHedgehog · 20/08/2026 08:43

Record it and contact the social housing provider.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:42

Raptors · 20/08/2026 08:40

I honestly don't see that he's doing anything unusual or making any more noise than any other neighbour would. Yes the engine would annoy me but again it's hardly unusual. It does from this post sound like you've just taken a dislike to him to be honest.

I really haven't taken a dislike to him im not sure why you wpuld say that. I was simply asking if the noise is reasonable as this is an aibu thread and we've previously been lucky enough to live in a quiet area.

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Raptors · 20/08/2026 08:40

I honestly don't see that he's doing anything unusual or making any more noise than any other neighbour would. Yes the engine would annoy me but again it's hardly unusual. It does from this post sound like you've just taken a dislike to him to be honest.

AnImmenseDislikeOfPeople · 20/08/2026 08:40

I'm someone who would love to live in the middle of nowhere, as far away from my neighbours as possible, so I do sympathise OP. However, they do sound like relatively normal neighbourhood sounds.

My ddog is a barker. As soon as she barks, she's called in. I hate the idea that I'm irritating my neighbours, but I've been unable to stop her barking. She's a protection breed and is always alert, unfortunately.

The car revving - is he sat there continually revving and trying to make as much noise as possible? If it's just the start up sound, I'm not sure there's much anyone will do. If it's constant and attention seeking, see about logging a noise complaint with the council. I had to do one previously and had to log every sound, time, and the impact it was having on our household for three weeks. Neighbours basically just got told to be more considerate. They are to an extent, but still like to play music on speaker in the garden, or let their children scream outside for hours at a time.

The speakerphone seems very odd, as even in his own garden I'm surprised it'd loud enough to reach you behind closed windows.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:37

whatsnewbuttercup · 20/08/2026 08:36

Absolutely nothing.
That was my point. It wasn’t relevant to your post.

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But I would have said if he owned or private rented as it might have been relevant. Think you just desperately wanted me to have a problem with social housing ..I dont

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whatsnewbuttercup · 20/08/2026 08:36

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:35

Why, what's wrong with social housing?

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Absolutely nothing.
That was my point. It wasn’t relevant to your post.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:35

whatsnewbuttercup · 20/08/2026 08:32

He lives in social housing?
Is that you, Hyacinth?

Why, what's wrong with social housing?

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whatsnewbuttercup · 20/08/2026 08:32

He lives in social housing?
Is that you, Hyacinth?

KookyFish · 20/08/2026 07:57

There's only so loud a phone will go though surely?
It sounds pretty normal to be honest, my friend is partially deaf, no one would ever know but she does need to listen to things louder.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:50

ToKittyornottoKitty · 20/08/2026 07:47

If you don’t know him, you obviously have no idea if he’s deaf.

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One of the other neighbours know him....he is not deaf!!

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JohnofWessex · 20/08/2026 07:48

I would report the car to The Police and they can take action

Check on line for Tax & MoT as it might not be legal anyway.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 20/08/2026 07:47

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:43

He isn't deaf and I haven't taken a dislike to him .i dont know him x

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If you don’t know him, you obviously have no idea if he’s deaf.

AlwaysExtraHot · 20/08/2026 07:47

The car is fucking outrageous. There’s someone in my neighbourhood who revs a terrible old car and drives around in it blatting away. I’ve never seen him and don’t know where he lives, but he certainly makes himself heard. I’d cheerfully throttle him.
People saying the phone thing is ok, no, really, being able to hear every word from the person on the other end of the phone is not ok or normal. That’s beyond loud.
I’d try the housing provider, and maybe local councillors and/or your MP.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:43

JLou08 · 20/08/2026 07:42

The dog needs to wee.
He may be deaf.
The only think that might be unreasonable is revving the car if he's doing it deliberately, you complaining about the first two makes me think the car may also be normal sounds but you've just took a disliking to the man.

He isn't deaf and I haven't taken a dislike to him .i dont know him x

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JLou08 · 20/08/2026 07:42

The dog needs to wee.
He may be deaf.
The only think that might be unreasonable is revving the car if he's doing it deliberately, you complaining about the first two makes me think the car may also be normal sounds but you've just took a disliking to the man.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:39

CarrieOakie · 20/08/2026 07:38

If you can hear the conversation on his phone in your bedroom- that is loud.

Yes it is extremely loud. I've never heard a speakerphone that loud before. As someone else mentioned, I initially thought he might be deaf but apparently he isn't, he just likes speakerphone conversations

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CarrieOakie · 20/08/2026 07:38

If you can hear the conversation on his phone in your bedroom- that is loud.

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 07:37

Beachlover1993 · 20/08/2026 07:35

Sounds like hes deaf

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I don't think he is. Think he just likes his speakerphone on extra loud ..maybes to talk while he's doing other things?

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Beachlover1993 · 20/08/2026 07:35

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 06:59

New neighbour moved into a social housing bungalow behind our house a few months ago. He has been a bit of a nightmare to be honest. He doesn't make excessive noise as such but he is definitely impacting us and our immediate neighbours. Some examples are, letting his dog out for a wee at 6am every morning. It then barks when in the garden. It only barks 2 or 3 times and he ushers it back in the house but it is very loud, waking us up each time. He also has excessively loud phone conversations on speakerphone throughout the day. I mean really loud. I was in my bedroom the other night with the window closed and I could hear everything the person on the end of the line was saying it was that loud. It makes sitting in our garden a bit of a nightmare now to be honest. This happens at least 5 or 6 times throughout the day up until about 10pm. He has a loud car which he loves to rev up constantly and the exhaust has been modified to make it even louder. Is this just normal behaviour these days or do I contact the social housing provider? I will not speak to him direct as I've been warned he's quite aggressive.

Sounds like hes deaf