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To be annoyed by this neighbour

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 06:59

New neighbour moved into a social housing bungalow behind our house a few months ago. He has been a bit of a nightmare to be honest. He doesn't make excessive noise as such but he is definitely impacting us and our immediate neighbours. Some examples are, letting his dog out for a wee at 6am every morning. It then barks when in the garden. It only barks 2 or 3 times and he ushers it back in the house but it is very loud, waking us up each time. He also has excessively loud phone conversations on speakerphone throughout the day. I mean really loud. I was in my bedroom the other night with the window closed and I could hear everything the person on the end of the line was saying it was that loud. It makes sitting in our garden a bit of a nightmare now to be honest. This happens at least 5 or 6 times throughout the day up until about 10pm. He has a loud car which he loves to rev up constantly and the exhaust has been modified to make it even louder. Is this just normal behaviour these days or do I contact the social housing provider? I will not speak to him direct as I've been warned he's quite aggressive.

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SuzieGotYourNumber · 20/08/2026 11:31

rwalker · 20/08/2026 07:22

Just sounds part and parcel of living with neighbours
the only thing that jumps out is the need to reference social housing that’s the only unreasonable thing in this thread

Not unreasonable to mention it's a HA bungalow. It's relevant because she can report him to the HA. Most new developments have a 3 strikes policy for HA tenants.

jackstini · 20/08/2026 11:24

My only thought was does he have any idea you can hear every word?

If he knows, he might turn it down!

Would it be obvious if an anonymous note was from you?

I would send something saying, just to let you know people living around can hear every word when you are on speaker phone. No issue, but wanted to advise in case you are ever having a conversation which needs to be confidential

(& I get the relevance to social housing - if you were to report then private rent, council house, owned etc. would make a difference as to where to!)

AlwaysExtraHot · 20/08/2026 11:18

Halafel · 20/08/2026 09:21

So what was the relevance of social housing in your OP?

Christ Almighty, some people have a real chip on their shoulder.
She says, 'do I contact the social housing provider?' and some posters have advised her to do so.
If he was a home-owner she'd have asked/been advised about something relevant to that. If he was a private renter she'd have asked/been advised about something relevant to that.

theemmadilemma · 20/08/2026 11:10

Sad as it is, it's all largely just noise of daily life. Some people are simply noisier than others.

I can completely understand how annoying it must be though if you've had the gift of lovely quiet neighbours until now.

But largely (bar possibly the car) he's doing nothing reportable other than making more noise than you are used to.

Glittertwins · 20/08/2026 10:55

Imdunfer · 20/08/2026 09:02

Report the modified exhaust anonymously. It is illegal and it may well mean that the car has no MOT or insurance either.

Not necessarily illegal. One of my old cars was heavily modified but everything was legally declared to the insurance company.

Itiswhysofew · 20/08/2026 10:54

He's being inconsiderate with the loud phone calls and the noisy car. He may just be a loud person in general?

Report the noise to social housing if it continues. I would.

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 10:49

NovaForesta · 20/08/2026 10:48

The context of his housing situation is not relevant in this case. Why would it be? The fact you mentioned he lived in social housing is giving the impression YOU as the OP find it relevant to your post.

OK thank you

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NovaForesta · 20/08/2026 10:48

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:37

But I would have said if he owned or private rented as it might have been relevant. Think you just desperately wanted me to have a problem with social housing ..I dont

The context of his housing situation is not relevant in this case. Why would it be? The fact you mentioned he lived in social housing is giving the impression YOU as the OP find it relevant to your post.

NeedACoffee26 · 20/08/2026 10:42

I feel for you OP.

The social housing bit is only relevant in terms of recourse to address the anti social behaviour, so I get why it was mentioned. It's a shame if you can't have a word with him directly, or perhaps someone else can?

Barking dogs at 6am isn't acceptable. A speaker phone conversation you can hear in your bedroom with the windows shut is clearly too loud but he may be unaware of the impact of this. Obnoxious engine revving/ exhaust.. well there's legislation on this so you're right to complain.

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 10:18

rwalker · 20/08/2026 10:10

Nice try but there absolutely no relevance to include if they own ,rent or HA
It was a dig at HA
why an earth would you say if they own or a tenant if your are complaining about a car exhaust

You are looking to cause shit and you won't get it from me ..have a good day x

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rwalker · 20/08/2026 10:10

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:37

But I would have said if he owned or private rented as it might have been relevant. Think you just desperately wanted me to have a problem with social housing ..I dont

Nice try but there absolutely no relevance to include if they own ,rent or HA
It was a dig at HA
why an earth would you say if they own or a tenant if your are complaining about a car exhaust

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 09:28

Halafel · 20/08/2026 09:21

So what was the relevance of social housing in your OP?

Good god how many times? OK, once more, I mentioned it in exactly the same way I would have mentioned he was a home owner, private rented etc. In case it has relevance to my aibu request. Once agian, my parents live in social housing as did i when i was growing up. I hope this makes it clear to anyone else who I trying to cause unwarranted shit about this

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Bonden · 20/08/2026 09:26

Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 08:51

Attitudes like this around social housing is the reason successive governments have hit a brick wall when attempts have been made to increase the much-needed housing stock. “Not in my back yard”. This pushes the need for expensive private rentals and then the same NIMBYs bleat on about the ever-increasing benefits bill. Get your heads out of your arses.

i live in a quite little street. Local HA moved in a guy on the same principle that “good” children and made to sit next to “difficult” children at school - that is, the hope that the “good” would rub off on the “difficult”.

within a month he had had a full-on row in his front garden with his ex during which he yelled and swore relentlessly at her; yelled at his visiting children (“come in now, you fucking cunts”); taken to sitting outside smoking weed and talking on his phone using speaker until 3 in the morning; got a bully dog which was never muzzled and never walked but left outside in the front garden; left his parked car idling for what felt like half an hour every morning; played what some might call music at astonishing levels; dropped cans of energy drinks and fag ends and Greggs wrappers all down the street …

don’t tell me that my visceral contempt and disgust, my rage that he’d been dumped here, is classist and snobbery, because it wasn’t. He was at best thoughtless and struggling and at worst a selfish bullying oaf.

Halafel · 20/08/2026 09:21

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 09:06

You are obviously trying to imply i have an issue with social housing tenants. You have an awful attitude as you know nothing about me and if you did, you would know my parents live in social housing. Keep your shit comments to yourself please x

So what was the relevance of social housing in your OP?

Halafel · 20/08/2026 09:16

A single man being allocated a social housing bungalow must have some additional needs? At least here, single men have no chance of getting any kind of social housing.

Imdunfer · 20/08/2026 09:12

Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 08:51

Attitudes like this around social housing is the reason successive governments have hit a brick wall when attempts have been made to increase the much-needed housing stock. “Not in my back yard”. This pushes the need for expensive private rentals and then the same NIMBYs bleat on about the ever-increasing benefits bill. Get your heads out of your arses.

Sadly, I can guarantee that the cars with the straight-through illegal exhausts on this estate always come up the roads from the pockets of "affordable housing" round the boundaries, the rubbish is only in the front gardens of the affordable houses and the bins are only out on the verges where everyone has to see them round the affordable houses.

Social housing is included by law in every housing development over 10 houses and no planning this century has been turned down because the neighbours didn't want social housing near them. The type of person they will house is not a valid reason to turn down an application.

I think it might be your own head up your arse.

Thecomedyclub · 20/08/2026 09:08

I sympathise OP. It doesn’t matter how quickly the dog gets taken back in, once you’re awake that’s it. Council environmental officers won’t care because it’s not a lengthy time. I have the same but from 5am. I don’t buy the “my dog is special “ argument because all dogs can be trained - it’s all about their owners - and I love dogs in case pp think this is dog bashing. Our ndn has rescued dogs but cba to train them (told us!) and just shrugs. Anyway that’s not helpful but I wish some people could be less selfish - and I know there are too many now who just don’t give a toss. Earplugs do work but I find they fall out! I think I’d notify the HA (including the car issue) in case others do too and they might see a pattern of antisocial behaviour emerging. You don’t need to be confrontational but it might make you feel better that you’ve tried something.

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 09:06

Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 09:04

Thats not true though is it

You are obviously trying to imply i have an issue with social housing tenants. You have an awful attitude as you know nothing about me and if you did, you would know my parents live in social housing. Keep your shit comments to yourself please x

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Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 09:04

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:54

Wow.. hope you are ok x there's been no negative comments on here about social housing and it was mentioned just in the same way I might have said he was a home owner or private rented, just to give extra info. I think your comment is completely uncalled for

Thats not true though is it

Imdunfer · 20/08/2026 09:02

Report the modified exhaust anonymously. It is illegal and it may well mean that the car has no MOT or insurance either.

Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:55

Macaroni46 · 20/08/2026 08:53

Nothing to do with social housing. Everything to do with this particular neighbour being inconsiderate.

Thank you for that...gobsmacked by her/his comment x

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Ereerenownow · 20/08/2026 08:54

Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 08:51

Attitudes like this around social housing is the reason successive governments have hit a brick wall when attempts have been made to increase the much-needed housing stock. “Not in my back yard”. This pushes the need for expensive private rentals and then the same NIMBYs bleat on about the ever-increasing benefits bill. Get your heads out of your arses.

Wow.. hope you are ok x there's been no negative comments on here about social housing and it was mentioned just in the same way I might have said he was a home owner or private rented, just to give extra info. I think your comment is completely uncalled for

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Macaroni46 · 20/08/2026 08:53

Whosthetabbynow · 20/08/2026 08:51

Attitudes like this around social housing is the reason successive governments have hit a brick wall when attempts have been made to increase the much-needed housing stock. “Not in my back yard”. This pushes the need for expensive private rentals and then the same NIMBYs bleat on about the ever-increasing benefits bill. Get your heads out of your arses.

Nothing to do with social housing. Everything to do with this particular neighbour being inconsiderate.

paradisecircus · 20/08/2026 08:53

The dog wouldn't annoy me (they do need to wee, and they do bark). The speaker phone would but not much you can do if he's on his own property I suppose.

Macaroni46 · 20/08/2026 08:53

Dogs barking early in the morning are bloody annoying. My neighbours have two. They chuck them out around 6am and let them bark and yelp for about ten mins. I’ve had to start wearing earplugs as it kept jolting me awake. So I’m with you on that OP.
He does sound noisy, and inconsiderate. People on MN love to criticise the OP as a matter of course. I think it would be worth talking to the housing association in this situation as the car and loud phone calls could easily be rectified.

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