Avoid In-laws because of jokes about my appearance

I think your DH needs to speak directly to his mum and sister and tell them to stop the jokes and comments, it isn't funny and you don't like it.
Do it before the teen comes to visit.

yep do this!

identify their most horrible facial or bodily feature or behaviour trait and bloody well give them some lip back. Bet they won’t find it so funny then, especially if any of them are fat

oh and if the teenager makes any comments whilst in your house! You tell him he can march his arse back on out , he’s not welcome and slam the door on him

Seems an odd thing to get so worked up about though.

Why though?

She has taken it for 10 years.

Which means, she has been the butt of the joke for ten years.

Which also means, laughing at her unites them.

They need to stop.

I think the dh should say something - land it once making it very clear that they need a new family joke.

If they disregard, I would refuse a few invites, but jog back once or twice to give them a chance.

After all, it will take a while to undo ten years of behaviour.

That's the point though, isn't it?

I would bite back without being rude: "Isn't it time you came up with a new 'joke'?", "Hilarious as ever Bob" with an eyeroll.

I would extend the teenager some grace if they make any rude remarks, as they have been brought up to believe that it's acceptable. But this is the time to show them that's it not. I'd say, pleasantly and as kindly as you can "you are a guest in my house and comments like that are hurtful. Please don't do it again." There may be fallout, make sure your husband has your back.

We have one of the kids (teenager) coming to visit soon and I don’t know how to respond if any comments come up

One of the in-laws children? So your niece/nephew? If that’s right, get DH on board and make it clear you’re not tolerating that in your own home. One strike and they’re out, back to the bus stop or train station or however they got there. And you don’t actually have to attend anything at all, ever. Why hasn’t your husband backed you up in ten years? Is he, in fact, a massive part of the problem?

I am 5ft too - to be honest I don't care if people make jokes about it, but nobody does really!

I can wear heels.

Can you not be a cunt ?

God how bloody rude and obnoxious! The devil in me would want to say well at least I’m not fat and hold a stare!! The angel in me would go with well the best things are in small packages.

Lol! I wish you'd said this.

I'm the same height and I quite LIKE all the short jokes. I'm sorry you don't because that must be bothersome.

The toddler thing is more an observation, rather than something rude. Are you sensitive about your height?

I tend to refer to everyone else as 'Lofty' and worse.

Counter every remark with
"Did you intend to be so rude?"...every. single. time.

Over 10 years?? They sound awful!!

I suggest you get a t-shirt printed with the words ‘yes I’m short, but at least I’m not a tedious fuckwit like you’ and wear it every time you see them.

Love it 😁

My BIL did this. I called him ‘Cunty McFatCunt’ and he went purple and never commented again 😂

Are any of them fat or ugly so you could turn back and say well at least I’m not fat or ugly!
Or the best things come in small packages

That's really not so uncommonly short that I'd expect people to make a thing of it, but it wouldn't matter if you were three feet, you don't like it and they should stop.

I think you need to talk to them directly and just say you know it's gone on a long time and you haven't really said anything, but actually it upsets you so please can they stop. I'm sure they'd prefer that to you actively avoiding them and if they don't, avoiding them is the answer. But you should give them the chance. They probably truly don't realise how much you don't like it because it's not really been consistently communicated to them. Once they do know, their reaction will show their real character. Most people don't set out to be hurtful.

They're very rude. Can your DH have a word?

Good lord people! This is totally unacceptable at any height. Stop asking OP how tall she is. Its not relevant.

As for your in laws I would never bother to go again and I would’nt encourage dh to go if he is too lazy or frightened to go without you as his meat shield.

If your last point is that one of your nieces or nephews are coming to visit and you think ghey will start making fun of you I would either disinvite them or hsve dh have a frank and direct tslk with them in an age appropriate manner : “ There will be no personal comments on my family, friends, or guests while you are visiting. It is disrespectful and unpleasant. Please do not joke about anyone’s personal characteristics while staying with us.” If SIL complains just be matter of fact “ your family are always rude to me when I visit and I have tolerated it but I won’t tolerate it in my own home.”

My family has all sorts and I can't imagine us all finding one particular feature like shortness something to joke about? This is not ok, but then you know that. Every time you must call it out or it will never stop.