AIBU to refuse to feed the baby in the hallway?

I am baffled why neither of you want to do calls in the living room. Put a background on the Teams/Zoom or blur it if you dont want people to see it. Seems very strange altogether

Yep so you prep lunch while baby is asleep and give it to them when they wake up so as to minimise disturbance to husband who ia wfh. It is simple.

My husband would have taken the baby out for lunch when they woke up. Also simple and no drama.

Some of us don't see these simple tasks as mountains.

It isn't drama and chaos. It's just lunch. The baby woke up... for lunch.

The kitchen was needed for baby's lunch prep. No drama, no chaos. Unless of course, it's been commandeered for non-kitchen purposes.

Unnecessarily considering food outside of the kitchen just in case it gets taken-over for non-kitchen purposes is drama and chaos.

Ur house is not set up for wfh

The baby had just woken from a nap.

I can't tell you how to raise your kids without chaos if youre determined to make every act a huge drama.

Yeah right of course you have. Your posts reek of experience.

Baby won't eat any of the pre prepared food, and needs something different. Or tips the whole lot on the floor. Or gobbles the whole lot up and wants more. Or he needs a bottle before his nap whilst DH is still wittering away on his call.

What do you do then?

Anyway it's totally irrelevant, the kitchen is a kitchen first and an office very much second. The DH needs to bog off to literally any other room in the whole house.

I've done it so many times that I am able to known when I might need to prep in advance or otherwise adapt to the current circumstances.

I don't get the impression @Lexibletheflexible has ever had to actually prep a meal for and feed a toddler in their whole life.

He was already set up in the kitchen for the call, if I didn’t want to use the living room (laying something down to protect the carpet), I wouldn’t have minded the hall.

As a one off, what difference does it make, as long as she gets fed?

A cream carpet may need to get changed anyway at some point, not very practical, especially with young DC as they grow up will be stressful to try to maintain.

It’s not like you have lots of rooms, it’s your only living room, not a show room?

The baby is asleep. So you need to have bought a fridge for the hallway for the prepared lunch, and set up plates and cutlery for you and the baby in the hall. And the highchair. And a jug of water. And a shelf or cupboard for food that doesn't need chilling. And actually forget the jug of water, you'll need a sink for washing hands which get sticky feeding the baby and between different foods you're feeding/handing to the baby.

Also, how many meals is she preparing? Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks? Where's she putting the dirty stuff? Is she allowed to pop in the kitchen between meetings?

Or... don't replicate a kitchen, and just use the kitchen. And he goes anywhere else. Because it's a kitchen.

When dh started working from home I was clear it’s a home before it’s a work place

This all sounds quite nitpicking. You bith could've gone in a different room for your calls. Yes it's reasonable to want to stay in the kitchen to feed dd but I think by staying in there for your call you've made an issue whereby he feels he needs to. You need a conversation about what's appropriate for work calls and where they should be taken and rules around them.

Everyone could be more flexible. This is ridiculous.

He should not be WFH in the kitchen! What is this? Why on earth wouldn't he automatically have gone into the living room? Not only when you are feeding your child but any time he WFH, unless you and your child usually use the living room. We had this during the lockdowns... we sorted it out. Even my unreasonable DH eventually conceded the obvious point...

Or you know, you adapt to the here and now by being prepared and... flexible

It's... a kitchen.

Lunch is being prepared at lunchtime. In a kitchen.

Be more prepared so it was ready before lunch. Fuck your impractical carpet and feed the baby in the living room or hall. Not everything has to be a power struggle drama.

YANBU. How can he possibly WFH if there's nowhere quiet and private for him to do so? Sitting in the kitchen is not a solution unless you and the baby are out all day every day. Does he WFH full time? Doesn't this arrangement ruin his back?

He needs a proper desk in your living room or bedroom. Fold up one if necessary so he can put it away after work / at weekends. Or tell him to go to the office or a co working space. Soon the baby will be a toddler and working downstairs will be absolutely impossible with him or her around.

With what food?

Your living room is wasted space OP since neither of you seem to want to use it.

Yes absolutely this

Yes agree. You can't just not go in the kitchen because he wants to work there. If he needs a desk could you have a fold up one in the living room or upstairs.

Surely he should work in the living room or a bedroom (or in the hall if there is room). The kitchen is the one room everyone needs access to, eating, getting a drink, running dishwashers and washing machines, it's not the place to work. Since he's brought it to a head just no more WFH in the kitchen. If he does he has to move if he needs quiet and privacy.

I don't understand why so many of you are so combative with your family members. Jeez. Just feed the kid in the hall for a minute.

The kitchen is a totally unsuitable place to wfh. Its needed for so many things. He needs to work elsewhere.