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Scared to swim alone

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Dontwantsummertoendreally · 19/08/2026 10:21

Is anyone else?

We live near the beach. I’m starting a new job mid September, so I have a couple of weeks to myself at the start of September when Dc are back at school.
Very excited and decided to make the most of it and do some things I really enjoy.
These include going to the cinema alone, coffee at the beach, reading at the beach and morning swims in the sea.
I do this when we all go to a beach as a family. Dh sometimes comes in, but if not, is still there on the sand.
Lifeguards don’t start until 10, there will probably be some people around, but not many.
Would you swim out in the sea alone? Am I being a big baby?!
Did all these things when younger, without even thinking about it.

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ifonlytheydlisten · 29/08/2026 23:03

Check out SAS app - tells you when sewage pumped into sea and rivers

Flamingojune · 29/08/2026 16:03

Not everywhere has riptides or the need for life guards

abracadabra1980 · 29/08/2026 15:56

LadyBug2022 · 23/08/2026 08:00

I think wind is huge factor, have wind - you get bigger waves.

And rip tides. I live in a coastal area and we were not educated about them which we should have been. The only kids educated around here are surfers.

CappelloDaSole · 29/08/2026 15:46

If it is was beach resp. part of the ocean I knew, I would go swimming. however, whenever I go in any open waters alone without any lifeguards nearby I take one of these ‚dry bag tow floats with me. Some are more dry bags thst float and create visibility, others are more buoy- like. For example:share.google/D4AOTQLkWM8PTDdE1

cheziebabe · 27/08/2026 19:37

after 10 when the lifeguards start is still a morning swim just switch your activities around

blossomsnow · 25/08/2026 08:14

DraigCymraeg · 24/08/2026 09:20

A simple moment on Google my dear:

"The UK has over 70 Blue Flag and hundreds of Seaside Award-winning beaches recognized for high environmental standards, clean sand, and excellent water quality."

Also I soggest you check this: https://www.gov.uk/quality-of-local-bathing-water

You're welcome.

If you read up on this properly, you will realise that Blue Flag beaches are definitely not immune from disgusting pollution

Follow surfers against sewage

And if you are swimming in any English sea or coastline you need to be cautious. Definitely don't swim if anyone is at all vulnerable health-wise

DallazMajor · 24/08/2026 15:13

Oh I don’t trust that kind of data. I follow Surfers against Sewage.

And no need to be condescending is there “my dear”.

DraigCymraeg · 24/08/2026 09:20

DallazMajor · 23/08/2026 21:10

Where?

A simple moment on Google my dear:

"The UK has over 70 Blue Flag and hundreds of Seaside Award-winning beaches recognized for high environmental standards, clean sand, and excellent water quality."

Also I soggest you check this: https://www.gov.uk/quality-of-local-bathing-water

You're welcome.

Check the quality of beach and bathing water in England

Find out how clean the water is on beaches and in other bathing areas in England, and if there is a problem with pollution.

https://www.gov.uk/quality-of-local-bathing-water

TheDevilWears · 23/08/2026 21:28

i swim in the sea with a group every morning. It’s a strong no to swimming alone. As a group we keep an eye on each other but I’ve seen really strong swimmers unknowingly be turned by the tide and unwittingly be pulled out of their depth. One group member was caught in a rip tide and very nearly drowned. Many swimmers swim with a tow float even in group …

DallazMajor · 23/08/2026 21:10

DraigCymraeg · 22/08/2026 13:59

There are plenty of places with clean water.

Where?

Namechangedididittoo · 23/08/2026 12:28

Namechangedididittoo · 20/08/2026 18:10

Previous to last year I’d have said yea go for it.
I’m a strong swimmer, my boyfriend can’t swim.
I went swimming in the sea on my own on holiday, the conditions changed and I was sucked under and it was horrendous i genuinely couldn’t find the surface and felt I was drowning, my boyfriend had to wade in and drag me out of the water.
later i discovered three people drowned in that same area on the same day

Following on from my previous post, I wouldn’t say any beach is safe and also it being busy counts for nothing. The beach I was at was a popular beach which was quite busy but most other people won’t notice you as they are concentrated on their own people.
after my fright I refused to go back in the water but made myself as I didn’t want to be put off totally.
I also wasn’t out very far could still touch the bottom (just). A few days later I saw a little girl of about seven in quite far alone with her dad sat a long way up the beach. People including myself ( previously) are quite blasé and don’t treat the sea as such a dangerous place

EBearhug · 23/08/2026 11:41

I swam alone at the beach last night. There were quite a few people about, but no one with me. I'll do the same this evening if the conditions allow.

I'm single. If I didn't do things alone, I wouldn't do anything.

crackofdoom · 23/08/2026 11:27

LadyBug2022 · 23/08/2026 08:00

I think wind is huge factor, have wind - you get bigger waves.

This is so true, and I see so many holidaymakers down here not really accounting for it. "It's hot, so we're going in the sea", regardless of whether it's force 6 and there's crashing surf.

Wind=waves=undertow and rip tides.

It seems that most of the drowning deaths down here occur on windy days in the summer. There were a couple on Fistral Beach a few weeks ago (adult father and daughter), although in this case it seems at least one of them fell off the rocks, and it the sea was really rough.

I remember a case a couple of years ago where a rip tide developed at an east facing beach known for being very safe, after days of prolonged easterlies. Several people standing in waist deep water were dragged off their feet, but happily they got rescued.

EmilyStar · 23/08/2026 09:43

EBearhug · 23/08/2026 08:03

I would also consider how safe the beach is. There are loads of beaches in the UK which don’t have lifeguards because they are very safe - calm, with no currents. If a beach has lifeguards, it suggests it is hazardous. So I would be even more careful to stay within my depth on one of those.

That's not how they choose to lifeguard beaches. There are generally lifeguards at the most popular beaches with lots of visitors, snd therefore more people likely to get into trouble. Many of these are at British beaches which are comparatively safe in terms of swimming conditions.

All beaches are hazardous - it's open water. If there are no lifeguards, it's most likely because it's too dangerous to swim or because it's a small or remote beach where it's difficult to get lifeguards who want to work there, and there won't be funding for it.

Seconding this.

There’s no national regulations about whether lifeguards must be provided on beaches, or how to choose which beaches need lifeguards, regardless of whether a particular beach is safe or whether people have drowned there.

When councils decide which beaches to provide lifeguards at, or whether to provide lifeguards at all, they’re going to be prioritising the beaches that attract most visitors.

EBearhug · 23/08/2026 08:03

I would also consider how safe the beach is. There are loads of beaches in the UK which don’t have lifeguards because they are very safe - calm, with no currents. If a beach has lifeguards, it suggests it is hazardous. So I would be even more careful to stay within my depth on one of those.

That's not how they choose to lifeguard beaches. There are generally lifeguards at the most popular beaches with lots of visitors, snd therefore more people likely to get into trouble. Many of these are at British beaches which are comparatively safe in terms of swimming conditions.

All beaches are hazardous - it's open water. If there are no lifeguards, it's most likely because it's too dangerous to swim or because it's a small or remote beach where it's difficult to get lifeguards who want to work there, and there won't be funding for it.

LadyBug2022 · 23/08/2026 08:00

I think wind is huge factor, have wind - you get bigger waves.

canuckup · 23/08/2026 03:05

No, I wouldn't. I'd stay in my depth, only with a lifeguard present. And even then I wouldn't go much past my shoulders.

Minglingpringle · 22/08/2026 23:01

I would happily swim in the sea, as long as I didn’t go out if my depth. I’m not a strong swimmer.

I would also consider how safe the beach is. There are loads of beaches in the UK which don’t have lifeguards because they are very safe - calm, with no currents. If a beach has lifeguards, it suggests it is hazardous. So I would be even more careful to stay within my depth on one of those.

If I was a strong swimmer, I’d happily go out if my depth on a calm beach.

HopeHelpCompassionforAll · 22/08/2026 21:49

Dontwantsummertoendreally · 19/08/2026 10:31

Was so ready to be told I was being over the top!
I don’t go out far and would only go in when water is calm, but probably best not to.
There are some people around and walking/sunbathing on the beach, but still makes me a bit unsure.

My mom warned me not to go past my lower legs when we were at the beach. At the time I didn't understand it as I was an adult, but she told me a drowning story which put things into perspective. And feeling the waves rock you, I learnt that one moment of lost focus can be a problem, especially if you panic while under. I would take precautions: let people know where I was going, maybe even have a friend or stranger buddy on the beach, or just avoid being alone altogether or wait for a lifeguard if possie. It is nice to experience the beautiful waters alone, but do take care out there :) Whatever you choose, I hope it works out.

Boodahh · 22/08/2026 20:44

TunnocksOrDeath · 22/08/2026 18:53

The tides in the Med are quite weak, whereas the UK coastline has some of the largest tidal ranges and fastest tidal streams in the world. For example with the ranges, the difference between low and high tide at Faliraki is less than 40 centimetres for most of the year, in Cornwall it’s anywhere between 2 metres and 8 metres. At Weston Super Mare the difference can be up to 15 metres. Also the water is a lot colder here. It’s just not comparable.

This makes sense. In my 20s I'd swim way out from the beaches on Greek islands (and on picnic cruises) and never felt any current . Just swam out and then back.

The UK is different.

Spiderx · 22/08/2026 20:11

Dontwantsummertoendreally · 19/08/2026 10:21

Is anyone else?

We live near the beach. I’m starting a new job mid September, so I have a couple of weeks to myself at the start of September when Dc are back at school.
Very excited and decided to make the most of it and do some things I really enjoy.
These include going to the cinema alone, coffee at the beach, reading at the beach and morning swims in the sea.
I do this when we all go to a beach as a family. Dh sometimes comes in, but if not, is still there on the sand.
Lifeguards don’t start until 10, there will probably be some people around, but not many.
Would you swim out in the sea alone? Am I being a big baby?!
Did all these things when younger, without even thinking about it.

As a ' swimaholic' ( i could swim in a damp sponge!) ..and having done wild swimming in the UK, USA , Oz and N.Zealand the answer is no. Have , at the very least , someone who could call for help . Even very fit people get into trouble if they immerse themselves in cold water too quickly...and that is just one of the dangers you may face...

HaveCreditWillShop · 22/08/2026 20:08

I’d count myself as a strong swimmer. For example I do open water swimming and can comfortably do a 5km stretch and train 3km’s in an Olympic sized pool. Personally I wouldn’t swim in the sea without a lifeguard or loved one on the beach.

HurricaneG · 22/08/2026 19:49

I have swim alone on our local beach but usually around 11 am when there are people about. I know the beach and stick to less than shoulder height water within my depth. Just bobbing about rally I'm not a serious sea swimmer.

MySharp · 22/08/2026 19:45

Peonies12 · 19/08/2026 12:15

I wouldn't even think twice about swimming alone, I'm so surprised by the replies here. went on holiday last week, first thing down to the nearest rocks alone and jumped in. Go for it.

Absolutely. I m 77 and have been swimming in the sea alone or otherwise since I was 10. We can be respectful of water without being terrified of going in it. Just be cautious.

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