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to think you can't understand climate science and want kids

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sensiblefootwear · 18/08/2026 18:32

Hoping that people will (gently, with good evidence) tell me I'm BU.

I love children and have always wanted them. But for the past few years and especially this year I'm finding the science on climate change and the tangible effects of it (houses on fire in nearby towns, schools so hot people's children have been sent home after fainting, looming food and water shortages, etc etc) increasingly difficult to ignore and I can't help but thinking it's an incredibly unwise decision to choose to bring another life into this world.

To be clear, I'm not talking about choosing not to have children because I think it will somehow have any impact on the climate, because of course it won't. I'm talking about choosing not to have them to spare them the horror of what's to come in the next few decades.

Am I being unreasonable to feel this way? I'd really love to hear from people who genuinely understand climate science and know where things are heading, but are still staying firm in their decision to have children in the future.

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TheCosyRain · 18/08/2026 18:46

This has been on my mind a lot lately. I have 1 child and I love her so much. I feel selfish for having brought her into this world and scared for what the future holds

Stoflinewer · 18/08/2026 18:45

I feel guilty in some ways for having had my DC - I think the future they face is going to be hard - at the moment I’m not sure they really have taken that onboard - nothing I can do about it now though other than true and prepare them to be as resilient and self sufficient as possible

GreatSave · 18/08/2026 18:42

ShittyGlitter · 18/08/2026 18:39

Gently, go outside get some fresh air and be with nature. The news is horrendous, make environmentally conscious decisions and enjoy life.

Agree with this. Children bring such joy. Why would you rule out having them over something you cannot control?

Evaka · 18/08/2026 18:40

I work on climate issues and it's the main reason I haven't had kids despite being in a very solid relationship and generally liking the idea of a family. It sucks.

anonhop · 18/08/2026 18:39

Yes the children might face a harder life than we have. But, we’ll also need educated people who care about these issues in the next generation to help mitigate the effects

ShittyGlitter · 18/08/2026 18:39

Gently, go outside get some fresh air and be with nature. The news is horrendous, make environmentally conscious decisions and enjoy life.

NuffSaidSam · 18/08/2026 18:37

Having children is always at heart a selfish choice. Understanding climate science isn't going to kill the urge to reproduce. For the vast majority of people the urge to reproduce is strong enough that it will overpower other considerations.

But if it doesn't sit right with you, then don't have kids. That's a perfectly valid decision and I wouldn't wish to talk you out if it. It sounds like the right choice for you.