To ask how I can time my abortion?

Have you been through it?

I ask because I had a medical management of a retained miscarriage early on, so has my sister and a good friend who all suffered recurrent miscarriages. It is nothing like a heavy period?

I had a series of contractionss on a par with early childbirth followed by extreme pain while passing an intact gestational sac the size of a large walnut. Yes the fetus is about 5-6mm long but the sac passing is excruciating if all in one which it more frequently is on my experience.

It's appalling that noone is properly warned that the 'clots' can be as big as the palm of your hand and extremely solid tissue. Barbaric how under warned people are infact.

Op I hope you recover well and your husband is understanding and sympathetic and honestly he needs a vasectomy and not to touch you until it's proven.

Tough for him, it's his pregnancy too and his kids too I assume? You're already going through a medical procedure he can take a day off

Have you looked into how effective your contraception is if this is your second termination? You don’t want to keep going through this.

I had one at 6 weeks. Normal period, normal period pains. Slight increase in clots but otherwise everything was normal.

It was about an hour of sitting on loo while pregnancy passed, some clots and things. Pain was that of a normal period but quickly less because they had prescribed codeine which I took. Was back to normal next day, with just normal period-like bleeding.

Best of luck, OP.

Glad you got a plan sorted OP with the kids and your DH. Take care x

I have had two, one at that gestation and one a couple of weeks later.

Both times I took the pills about 8pm so it would happen overnight so didnt have to sort kids and husband was there. All happened around 4 hours after taking pills.

Both times I was up and doing relatively normal stuff the next day - school run with husband, light housework etc. No pain, just like the heaviest point of my period in terms of bleeding.

Hope you're ok

Thinking of you and hoping by it is all over soon. X

I used to work in an NHS gynae clinic, and we gave the second dose on Saturday mornings. The later-stage pregnancy patients all suffered much more pain than the stage you are at. It will be cramps and like a heavy period. Being at home, you can get into a nice warm bath to ease it, and take some of your usual pain relief. Good luck.

Hope all goes smoothly. I had an abortion at a similar gestation and was absolutely fine, but i appreciate we are all different

Really, a woman reaches out for support and you answer like this!
No wonder we are still stuck with this outdated, judgemental attitude towards abortion.

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Sounds similar to me. Just avoided calling the ambulance.

Going to be honest I had a miscarriage at roughly eight weeks. It was incredibly heavy. I would get the biggest pads you can get. Some may say it is like a period but I didn't find that. Not to scare you but maybe just be prepared.

Hi OP Boots do a codeine/ paracetamol tablet ~ its only 8mg codeine but it helped my DD.

Take care of yourself honey - hope all goes smoothly

I had one at 8 weeks, I stayed in bed for a day or two as it took it out of me but I don’t remember it being particularly painful. Just like a heavy period. I got prescribed Cocodamol and maybe that’s why x

I had one at 5 weeks. There was 0 pain. I thought there was something wrong due to the lack of pain. On day 4 I had some mild cramping for 30 minutes but it was less painful than a standard period. I bled for 9 days but it was like day 2 to 3 of my period. I actually spent 2 days camping on days 3 and 4.

This may or may not be a helpful suggestion depending on location and dates your DH is off work, but I had a surgical abortion at 7 weeks. Local anaesthetic only, and without sounding flippant I’ve had more painful smear tests. And you know when it will happen, and then it’s done and there was (for me) just some very light bleeding for a few days.

I found that a far less stressful thought when deciding, but appreciate for others it might seem much worse.

Had one at 7 weeks. Had it on the Wednesday afternoon. By the evening I had strong cramps but they passed by bedtime. Thursday I was at work, travelled to London, doing normal business. It isn’t too bad at all, your husband will need to call in sick if you need him. Take care of yourself!

I also think your DH should call in sick.

But if this is literally impossible or he'd lose wages that you can't afford - how old are the kids and do they have special needs? I'd be planning activities they could do while I rested. At home cinema with snacks. New/borrowed Lego sets. Board games. Art challenges. Screen time. Get in food that requires minimal preparation or order take away pizza. If they aren't bathed for one day, no one will die. Your not trying to parent at your best, you need a plan that lets you parent at a safe minimum.