AIBU to expect the adult to address that playground behaviour?

That’s not bullying, op.

This is typical 'girl'behaviour . It goes on until they're around 15 ! It's horrible but this is what they do usually to one child when they're in groups . Ask one school friend over for a play date and tell her these girls are not nice and to avoid them .

You are being very over sensitive and dramatic about this, you need to save your energy for adolescence - you’re going to need it.

This forum is forever going on about how rude children are these days, lacking manners, blah blah blah. Crying when a child “disrespects” them with basic development stage behaviour. But now we are talking about a child bullying another child most of you are good with it and expect 6yo to be to just suck it up when most of you can’t even take getting cussed out on an anonymous forum. The wonders will never cease.

The issue here is with the adults. Yes your child calling over kids names is just six, but that mum is grown. Everyone talking about how it’s OP’s job to guide her children to defend themselves (I don’t disagree) as though it isn’t also child A’s mum’s job to rein in that type of behaviour.

My 4yo was at the playground, minding her business when some other kids asked her to play. Was okay until one of them started blocking her from playing chase with her brother. At first I waited to see how my baby handled it but when I then saw the girl spit towards there I was in there fast. When they explained what their issue was I gave them other ways they could express it, which they tried to copy, but my little was the one to say she was done with the foolishness and march me away.

It’s hard to discourage your child from playing with others without protecting negativity, but for next time, I would decline a parent making their kid play with yours when they don’t seem keen. I would also do some work on what friendship looks like and giving her the tools to recognise company that’s good for her, and I don’t say this to demonise the other kids.

Also, while it’s important to give your child tools to stand up for themselves, it’s also good for your children to see that they have parents who will defend them as well. The right balance so they aren’t always being rescued can boost their confidence as well.

Oh come on a 6 yr old saying poo head isn't bullying.

It’s life isn’t it. The kid is going to have to deal with a lot worse I’m afraid.

There are some very odd comments on here. Bullying is any bullying behaviour, it can be sustained and part of a pattern, it can be one off bad behaviour.

This is my understanding too.

No, you are not wrong. There's just been a pile on with the lack of empathy brigade this evening.

They followed tou child to be cruel to her. They are only young, but so is your daughter. It sounds like parent A tried to make things better, but the other parents did not.

Glad you took her away from the situation. Perhaps avoid the group, but potentially if parent A and child A are usually kind.look to strengthen that relationship away from the others.

Be clearer in your opening posts then as not what you originally said happened.

Wallowing in self pity isn't going to help your child.

Oh lord, do people really have time for this? Is this your only child? I couldn't work myself up to get too cross about this. Just tell your child to play with someone nicer and keep her self respect by not hanging around with people who say mean things. It's not that big of a deal.

At no point have you suggested Parent C was around. I don't think Parents A and B should be jumping in to police silly 6 year old talk about poo poo heads.

Parent A saw your child was being excluded and tried to rectify that. You are aware of the awkward dynamic for your daughter when A&B are together, and you let things carry on.

This is not bullying. Calling it such is an overreaction and will only feed into your daughter's insecurity.

Did you have a tough time as a sensitive kid, OP? I think we often have more pronounced reactions to our children's social situations when they touch a sore point from our own childhood.

I’m trying to get my head around this. Was Child Cs parent there? Are you saying you expected Child Cs parent to step in and discipline them?
Or is it that a parent of another child was there and you expected them to step in? Is the issue here that the other parents (although not sure who else’s parent was even there) didn’t step in and you had to defend your child yourself?

Also, it’s not nice, but it’s definitely not bullying.

Was parent of C even around? Maybe I have got lost but from what I can see parent A was trying to encourage their child to play with the OPs daughter (maybe realising they were left out/noticing the need to be kind). Not sure where Bs parent was. And C is a random child who presumably latched on to A and B and may not have been supervised at all.

I agree. The other parent should have stepped in to say hey that's enough we don't call our friends poo heads etc. and I think that's why OP is upset.
But.... sometimes these things do happen and there will be plenty more times ahead so if you feel the need to step in then do so. Just say that's not being kind so we are going to play over here now.
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It can be tough when you get answers you weren't hoping for. If you're mainly looking for support and reassurance right now, it might help to ask specifically for validation instead.

Imagine standing watching all this happen and only stepping in after your child was clearly upset.

You’ve said already you know when all the girls are together she is excluded. They were playing as they usually do, 2 together, excluding her. They are not her friends, they never have been, she is simply a warm body for them when the other isn’t around.

When I spotted this happening to my daughter at a similar age, I stopped being around those girls and their parents. If I’d been watching this play out in front of me, I’d have taken her entirely away from the situation and gone to do something fun with her.

You cannot ignore berate the other parents as much as you like, but you haven’t covered yourself with glory either.

Yes I agree but the other parents still should have corrected their children. I've a 6 and a 10 year old. My 6 year old isn't always kind. I don't always get it right and he's a spoiled monkey but I would step in if I saw/heard him saying unkind things to another child and they were getting upset. I think that's what the OP is upset about. That the other parents didn't step in when they could see OP's child was upset and the reasons why.

They absolutely didn't. Poster just saod their experience with their own children! Stop the drama, your child will pick up your energy. The more deal you nake out of it, the more your child will as well. There is nothing here, child saying silly things don't want to play woth yours, take your child away and find something else to do. That's all!

She was called a poo head not a cunt!

I think we can see why DC has trouble

You are being absolute ridiculous and you are taking what people are saying and twist it. No one and I mean no one said your child should call them names or be horrible. Be the kind of parent that teaches your child resilience and how to navigate social situations like that, not the kind of parent who throws a strop when people do not agree with them. You are more immature than your child.