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To wonder if anyone has a normal, wholesome, monogamous relationship/marriage anymore

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Overthinkingotter · 17/08/2026 14:10

Was talking to some friends (unknown to each other) who seem really normal/wholesome types…no! They’ve either done, or are doing, the whole swinging/open marriage thing.

Obviously, fair play to them. But just wondering, are there people out there who have a nice, normal, wholesome (boring, I suppose) monogamous relationship/marriage? Especially those with kids.

I do get it and, if it works, why not. But I like to think that monogamy is the model most long term relationships follow? Or am I very naive?

Has anyone been with their partner for a long time and managed to not be unfaithful or sleep with other people in whatever context?

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WineCharm · 17/08/2026 14:14

Yes, been married over 20 years to the same man. He's my best friend. I adore him.

Overthinkingotter · 17/08/2026 14:12

Minasama · 17/08/2026 14:11

All very normal here, thank you.
I hear the 50+ dating scene is wild though, and plain normality is not a thing there.

Normal- that’s good!

Oh wow, that’s interesting! My friend (mid-30s) did mention that the swingers tended to be older.

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Minasama · 17/08/2026 14:11

All very normal here, thank you.
I hear the 50+ dating scene is wild though, and plain normality is not a thing there.