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Was I wrong to refuse DP a lift meaning he had a £90 taxi?

208 replies

Bethsvint · 16/08/2026 12:50

DP got the train to a nearby city with friends yesterday (a day drinking basically).

He was expecting to get the last train back at 10.30pm. Shortly after this, he called me to say he’d been told to leave the platform by the police. Reason being that he thought it would be a good idea to try to wind up his friends getting a train on the opposite platform by dropping his shorts/boxers and bending over in their direction. This was spotted by police who told him to leave the station or he’d be arrested.

I told him no. It was late, a 45 minute drive each way including the motorway. He got a taxi but is off with me as it cost £90 and he said he’d have picked me up in the same circumstances.

We help each other with lifts usually, have a good relationship and no issues etc.

Was I wrong to have refused?

OP posts:
TFImBackIn · 16/08/2026 12:53

If that was purely his money then I'd let him get a taxi. If you share money, I'd go to get him and yell at him for the 45 minute return journey!

craigth162 · 16/08/2026 12:53

Nope his own stupid fault. If train had been cancelled etc I'd have gone to get him but not for this reason

MiceSpiders · 16/08/2026 12:53

10:30 isn't that late, if he'd never done anything like that before I probably would have although I'd be expecting him to feel very embarrassed, a huge thank you and maybe brunch today. If he does stuff like this all of the time no I wouldn't but I also wouldn't be with someone who repeatedly behaves like a child

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 16/08/2026 12:53

If he really did drop his pants in a public place, he deserves worse consequences than a £90 taxi

Coronaperona · 16/08/2026 12:53

I would have left him to it.

perhaps he will think of the £90 the next time he is thinking of being a dickhead.

NotMajorTom · 16/08/2026 12:52

I was going to say you were, but having read why he needed a lift I think it serves him right

SchnitzelAgain · 16/08/2026 12:52

I’m not going to vote because I can see both arguments but I would have picked up my husband because he was very drunk and therefore vulnerable.

ABoldStatement · 16/08/2026 12:52

No. It's his fault he couldn't get the train home, and you had valid reasons - time and safety - for refusing.