Was I wrong to refuse DP a lift meaning he had a £90 taxi?

I wouldn't have some that drink in my car.

You say "hate", I say "face consequences as a grown-up"

This, what would he have done for 45 mins outside the train station?

i reckon he would have wondered off somewhere and you would have to drive around looking for him or worse passed out somewhere making himself even more vulnerable

getting in a taxi and getting home was the right choice

That will really teach him to not do it again won't it 🙄

Why do women feel they should help/put themselves out for a grown man who has acted stupidly and then has consequences for their own behaviour?
Absolutely bizarre

Women getting trains late at night are vulnerable precisely because twats like the OP's partner expose themselves in public.

I certainly WOULDN'T have got him!!

FAFO.

this, but my god the cringe, OP. Unless he's younger than 18, surely someone so immature just gives you the massive ick?

Next time when he feels like being a dick he might think twice.

He also sounds like a complete knob TBH, no one wants to see that behaviour. Is he 12? Very childish.

I’d tell him I’d just had a large gin and tonic

Well exactly - and imagine being a woman having to get on the train with a drunk guy who'd been exposing himself in public. God knows what he could do in a train carriage - you might know he's safe but no one else would. Ugh, men! Absolutely do not tolerate any shit from him on this. This is entirely his fault and if he refuses to learn from it, he's an idiot and not someone to hitch your star to.

No way would I have picked him up. What a twat. He needs to learn that there are consequences to behaving like an idiot.

YANBU in those circumstances, he is an idiot and it serves him right

So so grim and intimidating for other people on the platform

You do understand that he didn't miss the train, don't you?

He was sent off the platform for indecently exposing himself, so wouldn't have been allowed to board.

I doubt that the arrangement between you and your husband is that each time one of you drops your knickers/pants to flash your arse around on a station platform the other will then go out and pick them up.

He’s lucky he’s only £90 down and didn’t get arrested. Maybe he’s projecting his anger at himself and his stupid behaviour onto you.

If he refuses a woman a lift late at night as a tit for tat, then he is being unreasonable. Women don't tend to indecently expose themselves, and get kicked off train's in my experience.

I'd think if he hadn't been so pissed, he'd have spent £15 to £20 to the next station along to pick up the train from there.

How did he drop his pants and moon at his friends other than on purpose?

Edited for autocorrected apostrophe!

Go back and change your vote. All you have to do is press the other option.

She said she’d ARGUE that he was vulnerable, as in he wasn’t.

I think by asking you to drive at night on a motorway, he is putting you into a vulnerable position. I agree, he's an adult with the mean's to sort his own way home without putting your safety at risk.

If he was drunk enough to be 'vulnerable' the police wouldn't have sent him on his way.

You are not being unreasonable.

I expected to see many x LTB here but only a couple of “icks”. There was a recent thread where some twat was apparently “mooning” at kids and the consensus was no big deal. It’s indecent exposure, the guy is fucked in the head, and as a minimum some sort of record should be kept by the police.

He was lucky not to be arrested.

No way would I have driven for an hour and a half at that time of night, when there was a taxi rank just steps from where he was calling. I wouldn't have put it past him to have thrown up in the car, to add to the joy.

If he kicked off on the phone I'd just have told him that I'd had a couple of glasses of wine, so couldn't drive.

What an arse!

There's not a chance I would have collected anyone who was unable to get the last train because he indecently exposed himself on a busy station platform. Fuck that.

I might even rethink the relationship too as I would not want to be associated with someone who could behave like that.

He thought it was just having a lark, but if you play stupid games you could win stupid prizes. Which he did - he was close to being arrested (should have been in my opinion), couldn't get his train and had to pay a £90 taxi fare home out of his own money. Serves him absolutely right. Stupid fucker.

I would have been angry he even rang. I expect an adult to make their own way home unless it’s an emergency.

play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Stupid idiot, the consequence of his actions was that he lost £90. Maybe next time he’ll think twice.
I’m not going to deny I’ve done silly things when drunk though, I definitely have! I missed the last direct train last night and got an uber home, cost me £70 - under no circumstances would I be calling dh to come and get me (this was about midnight), as an independent adult I’d find it very childlike! Plus he’d also be asleep anyway and may even have had a couple of drinks himself so it may not have been an option even if I did call.