Was I wrong to refuse DP a lift meaning he had a £90 taxi?

If you don’t let people see actions have consequences, they never learn. Don't bail people out, let them feel the pain a bit and they may change their behaviour. If only parents followed these rules too!

Are you sure he gave you the full picture / explanation?
i am surprised the police close by enough to react so quickly to the incident he describes... It would seem more likely that someone would have had to call to alert them. (Which would indicate that it wasn't something quick and over before police had a chance to arrive)? Secondly, the police are so used to silly behaviour they would usually just want to get people safely on their way home so wouldn't in my experience deliberately kick someone out of the station especially if it meant missing the last train. Usually if people are in good spirits police will give them talking to and guide them on their way. The fact the police acted so strongly would make me wonder if he was rude / argumentative / aggressive / too drunk to be considered safe on the train? Of course he could have been unlucky and did it right in front of police but still seems a bit suspicious to me...

ETA: not downplaying what he says he did as others have said it would/could be considered indecent exposure, but I would have then expected him to get a fine or more serious treatment than just being removed from the station which doesn't seem to serve any purpose in the circumstances as he describes it. The only reason I've usually seen people removed is for persistent aggressive / unco-operative / disrespectful behaviour.

And there's a deeper, serious point in this situation:

If he'd - intentionally or not - exposed his genitalia when mooning, that is indecent exposure, a sexual offence. Given how the police rightfully were criticised for not doing anything when Wayne Cozens committed 3 incidents of indecent exposure, the police hopefully take such crimes seriously now.

@Bethsvint I hope your DP understands that it was gross for him to potentially expose himself to women (and children) on the train, even if it was 'just' his buttocks.

I was just going to say that the £90 was his "fine" for behaving like a pillock and he's lucky to get away with that as the only consequence and wasn't arrested for indecent exposure.

But "Stupidity Tax" is a perfect summation.

There are too many factors here to take into consideration:
Is he sorry for what he did and would he do it again?
Can you go out late, just come in and go straight to sleep?
How much £90 means to you as a couple?
How much you like/dislike driving?

He chose to drink. He’s an adult. He’s not ‘vulnerable’. That diminishes the meaning of ‘vulnerable’ for those who truly are.

He needs to feel the consequences of his actions so that he learns how to be a fully grown adult.

I would have gone, but my DH wouldn't have mooned in a train station.

I would pick my DH up to save the £90 but I wouldn't be with a man who exposed himself at train stations like a 16 year old boy with a dodgy personality.

YANBU. He chose to get drunk, he chose to behave like a twat meaning that he couldn't catch the train.

He pays for a taxi home

I made a long drive a few times to rescue my intoxicated XH. I regret being such a doormat.

FAFO.

What a dumbass.

he said he’d have picked me up in the same circumstances.

I bet you'd never flash your mates at a train station, so I think his argument is null and void.
I'd have left my DP to sort himself out too. Although my DP wouldn't do that.

I wouldn’t have gone and got him, but I’d still have taken the piss out of him at every opportunity.

Same 🤣

I'd have gone to get him. I'd also take the piss out of him relentlessly for days.
Bravo dh.

If it was my husband I would have picked him up 💁

He sounds delightful

He's in his 30s and he carries on like that in public?

So he exposed himself in public? With all the harassment women face on trains and train stations, he deserved to get arrested. I'm surprised he didn't, although you only need to look at the Simon Levy case to see the police don't give a fuck about women.

I wouldn’t have picked him up. He’s lucky the only consequence was having to get a taxi.

(and I love my DH, I’d definitely pick him up if his train was cancelled or something not his fault)

If we didn't have children at home then yes I'd have gone to get my husband.

Purely because of the infantile behaviour, I would have insisted he get a taxi. You are his wife, not his Nanny.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Can’t believe people here are acting like mooning a friend is so completely outrageous and hideous and awful. Stupid, yes. Serious? No.

Aw....are you married to a 5 year old 🙄🙄🙄

I would prefer he took a taxi home for £90 rather than behave like an arse on the way home.