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To think this was weird (dress code)

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Whatsyourflavour12 · 16/08/2026 07:37

The boss at my new workplace organised a 'casual clothes Wednesday'. It was very hot, almost 30 degrees and i didn't fancy jeans, but also the way I dress is probably already what most people would consider more 'formal' anyway.
I went in my outfit and noticed the boss looking. She said "Oh you've definitely forgotten haven't you?"
I tried to say, "No this is just how I'd dress anyway."
She said "No, I saw you earlier and I thought, "she's definitely not remembered.".
I just laughed it off, no point arguing with stupid. I didn't turn up in a suit or ballgown or anything.
Bit weird how she was looking at my outfit and judging from wherever she was, surely she can realise that not everyone wants to wear jeans or a tracksuit and should it matter?

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Whatsyourflavour12 · 16/08/2026 09:47

The issue isn't 'but what were you wearing??' The point is that the clothing day was optional and that everyone has a different idea of casual. Not everyone wants to wear jeans or shorts.

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Whatsyourflavour12 · 16/08/2026 09:46

What i was wearing isn't really relevant, I wore a dress but as I already mentioned i didn't come in something very formal it's not relevant as I should be able to wear whatever I like if it's optional.

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Ace56 · 16/08/2026 09:44

What were you wearing?

I’d be surprised if others came in jeans or a tracksuit in 30 degrees, more likely shorts and a t-shirt or a summer dress/skirt. Do you not wear these things? What have you been wearing in the heat?

blythet · 16/08/2026 09:41

PersephoneParlormaid · 16/08/2026 07:41

It’s weird that she mentioned it. Surely the casual clothes is optional?

It would’ve absolutely been optional. She’s probably more surprised if someone hasn’t taken up the option to dress casually in this heat. Sounds like she thought OP had simply forgotten rather than opting out.
she made a casual light hearted remark assuming OP had forgotten. She wasn’t judging or pulling her up on it

TeaFizzy · 16/08/2026 09:38

I’d be surprised if anyone chose to wear jeans or a tracksuit in 30 degree heat. Other casual clothes exist.

blythet · 16/08/2026 09:36

Depends what you were wearing?
also it doesn’t seem like she was “judging” - she was more likely trying to have a light hearted conversation. She obviously thought you’d forgot but doesn’t sound like she was annoyed or judgey about it!

redboxerclub · 16/08/2026 09:35

Nah she was just expecting at least one person to forget. I’m a secondary teacher and have done the same to student in uniform.
Also they had chosen to wear uniform that day!!
Just smiles and agree.

what were you wearing.

Whatsyourflavour12 · 16/08/2026 07:43

PersephoneParlormaid · 16/08/2026 07:41

It’s weird that she mentioned it. Surely the casual clothes is optional?

Yes that's a good point I didn't actually consider. My Dad for example doesn't wear jeans ever, would he be pulled up on it as well? I just thought she'd have a bit more common sense.

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PersephoneParlormaid · 16/08/2026 07:41

It’s weird that she mentioned it. Surely the casual clothes is optional?