To think this was weird (dress code)

This is what I wondered along with why does the OP keep going on about jeans, like they're the only form of casual clothing.

This really wouldn't illicit more than an eye-roll from most people.

She sounds like an idiot. She had got it in your head that you'd forgotten, there was no need for her to make a thing out of it whether you had forgotten or just don't like ultra casual or her idea of casual. It is entirely irrelevant to your ability to donyour h
job. It's a her problem, she must be a fairly rubbish manager if she is giving it this much headspace to be thinking about who might forget, then noticing who forgot (or not), hasn't she got any actual work to do?

Why are you so bothered about a light hearted passing comment?

People can be really weird about clothes. Competitive and jealous.

i always dress well, my clothes tend to the expensive, my bil always comments, like ffs why are you wearing that, how much did that cost, I don’t tell him, and “why do you need expensive clothes” , and then refers to himself, “i don’t need expensive clothes” etc. for info, I never talk about the brands or cost, I never talk to him about my clothing full stop. I’m always dressed in my opinion appropriately and comfortably . Usually in midi dresses or wide leg trousers and a silk top or cashmere slouchy jumper. I do wear jeans, but occasionally,

he wears really old jeans or crap his wife bought him from temu, cheap t shirts and hoodies. Always done in as none of it lasts long. They are not short of money, but tight,

i just don’t get it, there is no prize for looking like a hobo , I never comment on his clothes. I love him to bits , he’s such a lovely guy, but for some reason how I dress drives him to comment, and occassionally when he’s coming over I consider wearing jeans and a t shirt just so I don’t get comments, but I don’t as I am who I am and I’m not going down that path.

his wife is worse, as she eyes me up and down and makes a cats arse mouth,I’m sure she talks about me behind my back to him, which could be driving it, but I’d never dream of commenting on someone’s clothes past you look lovely,

... Maybe she needs to organise a 'mind your own business Wednesday' next 😂

Who wears jeans in this weather? Also, your boss needs to be careful commenting on people's attire, it's an HR liability minefield.

I agree with you it was a bit weird and unnecessary of her to comment. Also most work places aren’t that smart these days. I’m more than happy wearing my summer dresses to work and wouldn’t change for a “casual” day

It is a bit about what you were wearing. If you stood out from everyone else and weren’t dressed any differently to how you’d normally dress. It would be easy to think you’d forgotten.
It’s not really a big deal though either way.

Presumably others weren't wearing jeans in 30 degree heat? There are loads of casual clothes options that arent jeans, and many dresses arent particularly formal or workwear

Side issue about school mufti days - please don't judge kids' home lives automatically. Both my boys chose to wear normal uniform as they have some very black and white thoughts (not diagnosed but a couple of autism symptoms) and in their minds school=uniform.

Their secondary has now made blazers noncompulsory and younger ds still wants to wear his as he likes it and it has lots of pockets.

Just felt a bit defensive there!

What a weird non problem to start a thread about 🥱

This makes your post a bit redundant.

I completely agree. Any non uniform days at school I just prefer to wear work clothes. It’s easier and involves less thought. Plus I prefer to teach in my work ‘uniform’.

you are not the only one who doesnt wear jeans i agree

I think it was a strange comment. As a fully grown adult you can wear whatever you want to work. I have specific work clothes that are more on the smart side (loafers, smart trousers, shirts, crew neck jumprs etc). I don't wear any of it outside of the office. Outside of work I wear loose jeans, trainers and t shirts. I dont know what it is but the two world's can't collide! You don't need a manager policing whether you're taking advantage of a casual clothing day!!

What you were wearing is relevant though? As if you’d been wearing a formal suit or something what she said would be understandable even if you didn’t like hearing it

But why does that matter to you? Like at all?

You can wear what you like. She didn’t arrest you and force you out of the office did she? She made a comment.

Is there another reason you’re so furious that she made a lighthearted comment?

My mother worked in a munitions factory during the war.
She always liked to dress nicely and some of the other girls used to tease her.
She told me a couple of her responses to the usual question "Why don't you wear your old clothes to work?"
Response 1: "I haven't got any old clothes"
Response 2: These are my old clothes.

Don't know if you could engineer either of those in to the conversation if it happens again?
Obviously, changing "old" for "casual".

I've certainly only been wearing loose dresses in the heat, even trouser waistbands feel uncomfortable.

Or they (and their mother) forgot! It happened to my DS once, and we just laughed it off. He said to everyone, "well it would have been worse to come in mufti on a normal day"

I am usually fine wearing jeans or casual cotton trousers but at the moment I’m recovering from knee replacement surgery ( two replacements 4 months apart) and both my incisions are incredibly sensitive to most fabrics. I went to a garden party last night where I knew there would be a mini “Olympic games competition” with games like giant jenga, attaching pegs to a clothes line, welly throwing, jumping through the rungs of a ladder etc, silly but fun after a couple of drinks!

I would probably have worn thin cotton trousers but even those irritate my knees after a while so I wore a dress. I was totally over dressed but no one commentated even though not everyone knew about my surgery. I had a great evening, kept cool and joined in with some of the games - luckily my friends are not rude!

I find the same on mufti day or inset days at school.

I’m not a jeans person so everyone thinks I’ve forgotten. Some people don’t seem to get that we wear what we’re comfortable in, whether it’s a dress down day or not.

IME students that arrive in their uniform on non uniform day have something bad going on -

They either don't have the appropriate clothes to keep up with their wealthy counterparts or
They are between two houses with one of the parents playing silly buggers and refusing to send clothes across.