AIBU to feel annoyed after a mum's sarcastic supermarket comment?

You are coming across as the most racially aggressive person on this thread.
You have a real 'them and us' mentality, which, if this comes across in real life as strongly as it does on this forum, will be the reason 'most people' have an attitude to match your own.

She wasn't watching her child and her child was in the way.

It's not your job to tell her tiny child what to do, a child that young shouldn't be alone unsupervised in a supermarket. She knows that.

She then saw the child she wasn't watching properly, was causing a very mild nuisance.

She's got two options here. The first is to admit she wasn't watching her child properly, because she wasn't, and say something like "Johnnie, over here with mummy please. Stay next to me please, you were stopping the lady from coming round the corner.".

The second is to get uppity and curt because she is too self important to accept that she's openly been caught not watching her own child. So she deflects that it's your fault for not telling her child what she should have been telling her child.

Women's a dick. They walk amongst us. Be thankful you're not one and move on with your day.

Most people see a brown person and assume we don't even know basic English

Lord almighty if that isn't a racist comment, what is? There's obviously a "white" missing as the second word.

I didn't say nothing was really wrong, I said, and I am going by the couple of posts you have aimed at me, that your attitude could be the reason, more than your colour, that you feel '"most people" treat you the way you say they do.

@JillyComeLately
Really?
You assume "my attitude" is the thing that causes what goes on? Well,
I'm not going to kowtow to assumptive persons
And neither have I ever
gone in aggressively as you're probably thinking either
But making statements like that
I find ridiculous
And your insistence that somehow I'm to blame because l have to manouvere society differently to you to get by
Shows insensitivity and unawareness
It's a pity you can't walk in my shoes
Then chances are
You'd get off the "there's nothing really wrong box"
And realise

I have a feeling, it could be your attitude more than anything else if people are 'off' with you.

@JillyComeLately
Not putting "negative feelings" onto anybody it's how things actually are
Even if its done unaware and subconsciously
Because of what some think they know
When they actually really know squat
I've read messages on here about
Same colour incidents which are bad mannered Ill-tempered interactions
But when it's a two different colour persons interaction even if they don't quite go there; it hangs in the air
You'd have to be in the second scenario as opposed to the first to get it
So stop telling me I'm wrong
And that it's all really so jolly

Your family listened to your concerns about this woman throwing a racist slur at you, and reassured you they they didn’t think it was the case @Msidontknow ?

What is odd, is you think you know what 'most people' think.

"Most people see a brown person and assume we don't even know basic English so if its possible feel they've the right to clap at you and subconciously put you in your place through a sarky comment or curdled look on their face"

That may be how you feel, but you can't put your negative feelings onto 'most people'.

So true. I was called an 'ignorant cow' recently in a supermarket, I had no idea what she was talking about....when I told her she was the ignorant one for being so rude, she accused me of not giving way to her and pushing past her with my trolley....I hadn't even seen her.
I laughed at her she was so ridiculous, as I walked away, she screeched, "get a life"....at the top of her voice.

We are both white, btw.

She was very rude. Sadly, some people are just wired that way.

Don’t blame it on your ethnicity. It happens to everyone.

That is a good philosophy to live by in general but there is an element that if poor behaviour isn't challenged, it becomes an entitlement and permeates through society like a fart in a crowd, which ultimately erodes the quality of life of everyone. Civilised society operates on people following fundamental social rules and there being measures in place to discourage people from violating those rules.

Can you read my mind right now??

If not, i think you’re a buffoon.

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I think the other mum saw you standing behind the kid waiting for him to move and maybe misread the situation, thought you were being passive aggressive and didn't like it?

If a kid is in my way for whatever reason, I just say "sorry, Kid!" or "excuse me, little man" or whatever. But then maybe some parents would get the hump with that too!

So they also thought racist?

My reply would be something like ' I wasn't expecting him to be a mind-reader,but I was expecting you to parent" 🤷

I am curious what they thought

Did you go back and tell your family you wondered whether a racist undertone to her comment?

Not at all, you sound lovely. I think most people get that glazed look on the tube, I know I do.

You can’t always know what’s driving someone’s rudeness so I just tend to ignore and not say anything, unless it’s extremely obvious.