To ask about your best and worst One Night Stand?

I don't really care what the man's intention is from a ONS @QuintadosMalvados

My intention when i have a ONS is to have sex because i want sex. I love having sex. I really really enjoy it. I'm seeking my own pleasure when i have a ONS.

I hope the man i meet that night enjoys it too.

Happy hunting OP

I don’t like the idea of casual sex either, but again, I don’t judge others.

I’ve only had one relationship since my divorce nearly 24 years ago, and it wasn’t something I was looking for, but we were together for 6 years before we had sex. That relationship has now ended, and I don’t want another one, not ever.

It’s just my adult DDs and me now, and happy that way. 😊

I feel the same. A bit like Rik Myall in The Young Ones, who can't snog someone because he doesn't know how many O levels (GCSEs) they have.

Thanks.
I see nothing wrong with sleeping with somebody on the first date, ironically but certain conditions should be met.

Provided they are known to you and have been for a while and others around you and they've expressed a real interest in you.
You'll know if this is the case.

I think you are incorrect about women not wanting more from a ONS.

They seem to expect the same standards of behaviour from a ONS as a relationship - look at the silliness about 'bad manners' here about the guy who wouldn't give oral sex and him leaving abruptly.

I think a guy who was normal and non-abusive would shrug that off if a woman did that.

Or the horror that a ONS was engaged to be married.

I often find that women who are OK with ONS are naive about men.
You wouldn't think it but they are.

There's no concept that this man is using them as something to masturbate into and really for them there's no moral aspect apart from consent.
Frankly, the only reason they're not straight out of there after they've come is because they're hoping for a repeat performance.

Yes a ONS may lead somewhere but that's not the man's intention.

Worst was a guy I met in a nightclub and he was absolutely gorgeous. gorgeous body everything. beautiful smelled nice but it was the worst sex ever. he just laid there and flopped like a fish it was so bad

There wasn't any best ONS

Best was a sweet, quite shy man, who had never had a ONS before. Turned out he really knew what he was doing! Should have kept him…
Worst was mediocre sex with a man who talked the talk but definitely couldn’t walk the walk. I went to the loo afterwards, starkers and ran slap bang into his mother! She’d obviously been listening at the door, he was 35 and had not mentioned he lived with his parents!!!!

It was kind of weird because I did go to his place with the intention of having sex. I guess yes, it was an assault as I was not able to consent! But the guy said I did want it. I was too drunk to remember anything. Very stupid of me have put myself in that position, to be honest.

Best and worst being the same guy, we had a fun night out and I fancied him so much, the worst as cuddling after he was telling me how much he likes the woman he’s currently dating (not me)

'Another Borderline coercive sex - these days it could be classed as rape but I don’t like to think that'- I can understand that. By definition you didn't consent though so it was SA. 💐

'one got me pissed and had sex with me when I was out cold, leaving me bruised and confused in the morning'-

This sounds like assault, not a 'bad ONS'...💐

Don't go on Pistonheads...loads like that on there from what I can see, sadly...and other male forums, I expect.

I don't judge others who have them bit I personally agree the idea is gross.

I don't mind the idea of having sex with someone I know and like, casually. But sex with a random stranger?
Alison Bechdel's comics about 1980s lesbians in Minneapolis have a character called Mo who gets teased for being prudish by her partying friend Lois. As Mo says, 'I can't exchange intimate bodily fluids with someone I don't love!' 🤣 I've always thought she had a point..
I get why women (and men) have ONS but I do find it hard to wrap my head around doing something physically intimate with a random.

This re first dates.

I think ONS are fine for women who come quickly from PIV but that's not nost women. Women who like ONS probably don't hope it will lead anywhere but do want to enjoy themselves. Safety issues remain ofc also

Isn't oral sex 'sex' too? I know you were probably using 'sex' in the sense of 'intecourse', though.

Mine ended up being both.

Great night out, met a nice looking fun guy who was on his mate’s stag do, we were getting on really well. Walked an hour back to my student halls laughing all the way, had amazing sex, all good. He lived a couple of hours away so probably wasn’t going to turn into a big thing but thought maybe we’d see each other a bit.

Then snuggled up afterwards he suddenly started crying. Turns out it was his fucking stag do! He was getting married the next week and was suddenly filled with guilt. I had such a massive go at him, not just for cheating but for lying blatantly to me too. It turned such a warm fun night instantly cold and the last I saw of him was me throwing socks at him as he left my student digs. What a prick. I was only about 19 but changed my view of men for sure.

That's OK, then.

Ha! Another tiny dick! I hope you laughed him out of the bedroom. What do these guys think they are playing at, having small dicks and everything?

Indeed it is coercive control. Correct.
And wanging on to a partner about reciprocal consideration is something that I construe as being part of it.

I'm glad you'll be ignoring me. Enjoy your reading.
I must say, though, The Erotic Review this thread is not.

It's not even Razzle.

Oh no! Throw that one back! What a fucking loser! How dare he?!

I can just imagine an abuser going on about reciprocal consideration in order to coerce a partner into something they don't want.

That's not considerate, is it? It's attempted coercive control.

Anyway, I don't want you polluting my good mood, so will be ignoring you and your sidekicks in favour of people sharing their adventures.

I understand consent.

Nobody owes anybody else any part of their body, they can leave whenever they wish at any point during sex.

That includes halfway through if they wish. Indeed at any point.
They can stop whatever sex act they're performing and walk away. At any point. At any point.

And they should be able to do so without anybody complaining to them about manners or other such bullshit.

It is people like you who muddy the waters by going on about reciprocal consideration.

I can just imagine an abuser going on about reciprocal consideration in order to coerce a partner into something they don't want.

Nobody owes anybody else their body for the sake of being 'nice' or manners. Bullocks to that.

If that's not understanding consent, I don't know what the f* is.

You and QM don't seem to understand consent.

The situation we were talking about is the exact equivalent of a blow job. Person A asks for it, B says sorry, no, proceedings continue without oral. Or they don't continue, but nobody has to force anyone or stomp out rudely.

Mutual respect is the thing - or, for those unable to associate 'respect' with casual sex, reciprocal consideration. Manners, in other words.