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Lindsay Clancy was let down

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hds873banana · 14/08/2026 10:47

For those of you who may not know, Lindsay Clancy is an American mother who killed her three children (all under age 5) then tried to commit suicide by throwing herself out of a window, and is now wheelchair bound as a result. Her defence is she was in the throws of post natal psychosis.

You can watch the full trial on Court TV. The trial is ongoing now.

She was totally let down by the system, the doctors, maybe even her husband. I’ve never watched a full trial and been so appalled at what I am seeing and hearing. Kevin Reddington her lawyer needs an award.

It is interesting to me because I have a close relative who I’ve cared for for over a decade who is regularly in psychosis. The lack of understanding of psychosis generally is wild. I My relative can slip in and out of psychosis on a minute by minute basis some days.

I really hope Lindsay’s defence lawyer gets the best outcome for her even though her life is completely ruined whatever the outcome of the trial.

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likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 17:14

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 17:07

The menopause is a time of great hormone shift. There are more women suicidal and on anti anxiety medication and or antidepressants during the menopause phase than at any other time in their lives. Estrogen plummets and for many women causes huge mental health problems. I can’t believe you have so little basic understanding of women’s bio physiological health, so I can’t help you. You seem intent on using words like annihilator which has no biological basis for this case whatsoever. It’s so strange. If you think I am projecting, which I am not, I could also say to you - do you have a murderer in your family? Because you seem extremely fixed on some weird vague ‘annihilation’ theme than anything else. Yet you are not articulate enough to be able to back your opinions up with any sort of scientific, biological, or emotional social understanding of women’s health or women’s hormones.

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You're really muddling up someone being mentally ill, such as me and someone being legally insane. They are sometimes the same. Often different

No one is in doubt she clearly had mental health problems and needed care and support. Did they mean she is not responsible for what she did? Not in my view, but thats for the experts.

Women being at more risk of MH issues during times of hormonal change, does not mean someone experiencing that is not legally responsible for what they do.

Three children lost their lives, at the hand of their mother, in the most dreadful and frightening circumstances. As someone else unfortuantely detailed, their last minutes would have been full of fear and panic with the knowledge of what she, their own mother, was doing to them. There may well be mitigating circumstances in terms of her decision making about why she did what she did, but ultimately she did choose to do what she did. She is responsible. I havent seen or heard anything to suggest she was actively insane at the time, but again thats for the experts.

So much talk about this woman, yet nothing, silence, absence about the children. They have been annihilated even by the social media furore.

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 17:09

I’ve never known a person slit their own wrists and throw themselves out of a window to be called ‘half arsed’ before. Do you have better English that you can use to explain what you would qualify as being a non ‘half arsed’ attempt at suicide?

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hds873banana · 31/08/2026 17:07

The menopause is a time of great hormone shift. There are more women suicidal and on anti anxiety medication and or antidepressants during the menopause phase than at any other time in their lives. Estrogen plummets and for many women causes huge mental health problems. I can’t believe you have so little basic understanding of women’s bio physiological health, so I can’t help you. You seem intent on using words like annihilator which has no biological basis for this case whatsoever. It’s so strange. If you think I am projecting, which I am not, I could also say to you - do you have a murderer in your family? Because you seem extremely fixed on some weird vague ‘annihilation’ theme than anything else. Yet you are not articulate enough to be able to back your opinions up with any sort of scientific, biological, or emotional social understanding of women’s health or women’s hormones.

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Gloriia · 31/08/2026 16:05

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:29

Men don’t give birth and are not exposed to the extreme brain chemistry changes that happen during huge hormonal shifts (post partum, menopause).

What has the menopause got to do with it, or are you suggesting if a woman in her 50s killed someone the menopause made them do it?

I'm sorry for what you experienced being brought up by someone with mh issues but I think you're projecting widely.

I really hope the jury listened to the experts who discounted her claims and agree she is an annihilator with some half arsed suicidal ideation thrown in.

Merryoldgoat · 31/08/2026 15:49

Bunnycat101 · 31/08/2026 15:20

I am really torn by this having followed the case. My mum is schizophrenic so I have seen her in a state of psychosis multiple times. I have seen my mum go from zombie like to extreme agitation across days but I’ve never seen her only experience psychosis for 18 minutes. When she has been off her rocker, it’s been quite obvious to everyone that she’s mentally unwell.

I honestly can’t work out whether she was failed and was very mentally unwell or she was a family annihilator trying to use mental health to get off. Either way I’m glad I wasn’t a juror on this case and I think it will be very difficult to come to a verdict.

My relative has schizophrenia. I’ve been in his presence when he was psychotic. It was not immediately apparent, he seemed quite normal until he said or did something that made me realise he wasn’t.

He perpetrated the attack on his mother which led to him being sectioned the second they got home from seeing the psychiatrist. He was still psychotic when he called for help after nearly killing her.

It is such a complex picture. I’m not sure either way but I think if it was premeditated there were times she was alone for longer when she could have had a more opportunity.

But having seen first hand people devolving and seeming normal in spite of being in a very bad way I do believe it is possible she was psychotic.

Bunnycat101 · 31/08/2026 15:20

I am really torn by this having followed the case. My mum is schizophrenic so I have seen her in a state of psychosis multiple times. I have seen my mum go from zombie like to extreme agitation across days but I’ve never seen her only experience psychosis for 18 minutes. When she has been off her rocker, it’s been quite obvious to everyone that she’s mentally unwell.

I honestly can’t work out whether she was failed and was very mentally unwell or she was a family annihilator trying to use mental health to get off. Either way I’m glad I wasn’t a juror on this case and I think it will be very difficult to come to a verdict.

Greenmouldycheese · 31/08/2026 15:13

Im so shocked at so many people supporting her. She murdered her kids. A monster.

BeaRightThere · 31/08/2026 15:00

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There's not a single lie in my post. I'm sorry that are you incapable of objectivity on this case.

likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 14:58

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:30

Don’t try to diminish my informed, educated and extensive knowledge of psychosis by using the word obsessed. I am informed. There is a difference.

You dont sound very informed Im afraid. I've had years of experience in the past working on psychiatric wards and no with multi agency MH teams. Even hearing voices does not necessarily indicate psychosis. And Im sorry but you do sound obsessed.

Tuggb · 31/08/2026 14:55

I think it's very easy to dismiss it if you haven't had the kind of thoughts she describes. I distinctly remember a "voice" that told me that all I needed to do was wait until my baby died and then I could kill myself. It was very clear that I shouldn't kill the baby though, just wait until it died. I went to the doctor and told them that I was petrified of the voice changing and saying I should kill the baby because I wasn't certain I would be able to stop myself. I wanted so badly to be dead. I was never diagnosed as having any kind of psychosis, just your standard PPD with suicidal ideation.

I feel so sad for her children who must have been so frightened in their final moments. I hope justice is served.

LabradorOwner9 · 31/08/2026 14:48

Let's try to find some common ground, so we can find a moral "backstop" to this.

Are we unanimous in our assessment that Myra Hindley is / was guilty, deserved to be incarcerated and never released, and that there are no mitigating circumstances which can excuse her crimes?

Genuinely interested, does anybody here think Hindley was a victim herself? Her background was traumatic after all.

She was a child murderer. Not her own children, but children died at her hands.

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:30

likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 14:28

Im really sorry about the troubles you have with your mum, it seems to be absolutely obsessing you in terms of this case

Someone having thoughts of harming someone, harming themselves, even suicidal ideation are not necessarily in psychosis, the thoughts themselves as distressing as they are, are not evidence that someone is in psychosis.

Don’t try to diminish my informed, educated and extensive knowledge of psychosis by using the word obsessed. I am informed. There is a difference.

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hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:29

Gloriia · 31/08/2026 13:25

I never see anyone protecting the men who murder their kids horrifically. Was the man who set fire to his kids in the loft 'psychotic' or Chris Foster who shot his wife and daughter 'psychotic'?
Men murder but this woman allegedly had a once in a lifetime unwitnessed psycho event so not her fault??

Men don’t give birth and are not exposed to the extreme brain chemistry changes that happen during huge hormonal shifts (post partum, menopause).

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likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 14:28

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:21

People only get a 1:1 after the horse has bolted eg they killed or assaulted someone. Which is why LC now has 1:1 support. No they are not in consistent psychosis. They can be stuck in it for months on end. Or they can dip in and out on a minute by minute basis. LC was in psychosis when for example, she told her MIL she was having thoughts of harming the children. Weeks before she did. She didn’t have 18 minutes of psychosis. She’d been in and out of it for several months and tried to get help. Patrick says that after she told him abc her MIL she had thoughts of harming the children, she immediately went on to act normally. A sane murderer doesn’t tell the husband a few weeks before murdering “Oh hey, I think I might kill the children soon.”

Im really sorry about the troubles you have with your mum, it seems to be absolutely obsessing you in terms of this case

Someone having thoughts of harming someone, harming themselves, even suicidal ideation are not necessarily in psychosis, the thoughts themselves as distressing as they are, are not evidence that someone is in psychosis.

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:25

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hds873banana · 31/08/2026 14:21

marle131 · 31/08/2026 13:13

But is the point not that these people are clearly in active psychosis quite consistently and evidently, hence their need for 1 to 1? As opposed to one time for 18 minutes that nobody saw?

People only get a 1:1 after the horse has bolted eg they killed or assaulted someone. Which is why LC now has 1:1 support. No they are not in consistent psychosis. They can be stuck in it for months on end. Or they can dip in and out on a minute by minute basis. LC was in psychosis when for example, she told her MIL she was having thoughts of harming the children. Weeks before she did. She didn’t have 18 minutes of psychosis. She’d been in and out of it for several months and tried to get help. Patrick says that after she told him abc her MIL she had thoughts of harming the children, she immediately went on to act normally. A sane murderer doesn’t tell the husband a few weeks before murdering “Oh hey, I think I might kill the children soon.”

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BeaRightThere · 31/08/2026 13:42

likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 13:29

Yes she was unwell with MH issues but not psychotic if the reports of her actions during the day are anything to go by

She wanted to kill herself but didnt want her kids to live without her, that is exactly the same for family annihilators, the intent might be different if we are generous (men usually do it out of control, she might be said to have done it so that the kids didnt grow up knowing their mum died, skewed rationale but it makes sense in that way) but the outcome is the same.

There's no talking to people who are forever determined to make excuses for women and blame men.

She was absolutely mentally unwell. But she was not psychotic and she knew what she was doing. I hope she spends the rest of her days rotting in a cell.

BeaRightThere · 31/08/2026 13:41

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 12:30

You are so uneducated and ignorant about psychosis it’s making me cringe with second hand embarrassment for you.

Medics often don’t see the psychosis. Because it can change, wax and wane in seconds and minutes. My mother was in psychosis on and off for several years. By the time any ambulances or medics arrived on the scene she could be perfectly normal again. I was banging my head against a brick wall for years trying to get her help. Imagine that. YEARS. I’m a strong advocate for her. I know my stuff. I know the mental health system. And still it took years to get it recognised. Palmed off repeatedly with ‘She’s just depressed’ by every single mental health doctor we came across. Most doctors have never spent any time with someone in psychosis. They just haven’t. My DM has zero control over her thoughts, actions and feelings when a psychotic episode floods her brain and disrupts the chemicals. She has done the most unbelievable things when in psychosis. I used to cry and pull my hair out and beg her not to do them. She’d apologise and do the exact same thing in the next episode. It’s like watching a slow motion car crash that you can’t control. Anybody is capable of murder when their brain chemistry is off. You included. My DM was distraught after some of her episodes and what she had done. They had LC on 17 different meds that impact your thought processes. My DM heard voices for years and told no one because she was scared she’d be locked up if she did.

I sincerely hope you never get psychosis. And by the way, it’s common in dementia, and as we are all living longer it’s likely many of us will get it. So good luck with it if you do. Just pray you have a strong advocate for you. Because you’ll need it.

Your determination to excuse a child killer makes me cringe with embarrassment for you.

Clancy lied to her doctors and refused to take the medication prescribed to her exactly as prescribed. If she had been more willing to follow the advice of dedicated professionals perhaps we wouldn't be here. She was not on 17 different types of drugs at the same time - cringing for you that you don't know this.

I'm sorry about your mother but the situations are not remotely comparable. Clancy was by all accounts, bar a brief period in college when she was on prozac for a short time, a completely normal functioning woman. She was not frequently lapsing into psychosis as your mother was nor has she ever claimed to have heard voices other that one time when, atypically for someone hearing voices, she immediately acted on what she was allegedly told to do and killed her babies. She MAY (big emphasis on may) have bipolar disorder but even that it unclear. She was depressed and suffered from anxiety. And so she chose to kill her children and herself.

The woman is just a family annihilator. You keep on cringing for me and I'll keep on cringing over you and the rest of the pink shirt brigade with their lunatic conspiracy theories.

likelysuspect · 31/08/2026 13:29

BeaRightThere · 31/08/2026 10:54

There is absolutely no evidence she experienced psychosis. Postpartum depression yes, psychosis no.

Yes she was unwell with MH issues but not psychotic if the reports of her actions during the day are anything to go by

She wanted to kill herself but didnt want her kids to live without her, that is exactly the same for family annihilators, the intent might be different if we are generous (men usually do it out of control, she might be said to have done it so that the kids didnt grow up knowing their mum died, skewed rationale but it makes sense in that way) but the outcome is the same.

Gloriia · 31/08/2026 13:25

I never see anyone protecting the men who murder their kids horrifically. Was the man who set fire to his kids in the loft 'psychotic' or Chris Foster who shot his wife and daughter 'psychotic'?
Men murder but this woman allegedly had a once in a lifetime unwitnessed psycho event so not her fault??

marle131 · 31/08/2026 13:13

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 12:55

And my DMIL is a sedated shell of a woman on the highest dose antipsychotic drugs because despite being a tiny, caring and loving mother, wife and grandmother, out of the blue, she punched someone in the face and pulled a boiling hot container of water over herself and others. She’s a risk to life for herself and others. She’s got advanced dementia.

Her locked unit is full of people in psychosis with 1:1 support staff to avoid them all killing each other.

Hope this helps.

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But is the point not that these people are clearly in active psychosis quite consistently and evidently, hence their need for 1 to 1? As opposed to one time for 18 minutes that nobody saw?

Gloriia · 31/08/2026 13:12

'Her locked unit is full of people in psychosis with 1:1 support staff to avoid them all killing each other.'

So not not living a normal life, apparently well? Total false equivalence.

Gloriia · 31/08/2026 13:11

hds873banana · 31/08/2026 12:49

Said a person lucky and privileged enough to never be that mentally unwell.

Oh I've experience of those with mental illnesses. Who hasn't these days.

The point is you can have a mental health issue and still be guilty of the planning and murder of 3 innocent children. We can only hope the jury see sense.

Sharptonguedwoman · 31/08/2026 13:00

BeaRightThere · 31/08/2026 11:36

She was depressed. Not psychotic.

Thought I'd read that she was psychotic but fair enough.

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