To think our DSs achievement is a lot down to me?

I get you. That’s surely true of parenting overall (step or not). Though I have found with my own children it is still 95% them though. My son was not academic, thought of school as a social club and did the minimum amount of work. No matter how much I encouraged, supported, worked out a revision schedule (with his input), printed dozens of past papers, study books, tutors… he still blew his GCSEs. My DD on the other hand needed no input whatsoever and got three A stars at A level.
But the ones in between who may need some extra support and the idea they are capable, then sure an invested adult who wants to show the possibilities that come from concentrated effort can make the difference. It could be a teacher as much as a parent. But yes, you can be quietly proud of yourself and how well your son did!

Or he'll think of the psycho that wouldn't let him have one achievement of his own OP Is like the parents on dance mums 😂

Whose first thought when a kid does well in their exams and gets into uni is “OMG, I’m so proud of ME”?? 😅

The fact OP then went on to start a thread about it seeking further validation/praise makes me wonder if she’s been told to wind in her necik in real life.

So on this basis is it actually all his teachers’ work because they taught him stuff and nothing to do with your DS 🙄?

Be proud but do not try to claim the glory/take the credit FFS!

This!!! I really really cannot stand the "its all because if my wonderful parenting" bullshit.

He went there, he sat the exams, HE DID THIS.

Yes you supported him. Thats your job. As a parent in his life.

I hope you havent said any of this to him. Let him have his moment and be proud of him while keeping your thoughts on your part in it to yourself.

I remember my dad did something similar to my brother got his A levels. "This was because I pushed him and helped him all the way through " totally destroyed my brothers confidence by the way.

In future don't do a thing for the kid or in fact anyone if it comes with unsaid strings attached.

No doubt it you were a forces wife you'd no doubt be a dependa "we serve too"

Yes I didn't need to read more than your title. If you're in a kids life you encourage them that's literally your job.

Please go to therapy to address why you need a child's achievement to be yours.

You are the only person who has mentioned care homes.

We were talking about social care because OPs son wanted to work in social care.

Care home work is not the only career in social care.

Many social care careers require further education and are well remunerated.

Read the thread and you'll understand the context.

Let’s not pretend one needs a RG degree in social care to work in a care home and let’s not pretend that this a job which will provide financial stability

I think your DSs will always remember you as a special person in his life.
Well done.

Privately of course you can.
Ignore the nasty posters.
Bottom line is lots of people rightfully acknowledge those that supported them during secondary as critical to their gaining university access, especially as they mature.
Not everyone has interested parents that push for further education.

Having someone who sees the possibilities for you beyond your background can be really life changing.

I think you are fabulous and your stepson is so lucky to have had you routing for him.

Yanbu...at all.

Congratulations on your son's achievement hun. Be sure to buy yourself something nice, you deserve it 🌹

well done OP, you did it. you are the bestest!

I went a lot further than my parents in education without an outsider supporting me, many younger generations do. Do you think he wouldn't have got further than them without you?
There's lots of research to say that it is parenting in early childhood that leads to success. Most brain connections happen before 5 and most children's academic achievements can be predicted by the level they are at aged 7. Based on research, it is more likely that his succes is based on his parents interactions with him in the early years rather than someone who started supporting him when he was 14.

you may have pointed him in the a certain direction,
HOWEVER.. his results are 100% him!
my 2 DSC had A/AS level results today one got really great grades the other didn’t they both had he same level of support, ultimately it comes down to them!
I’m proud of them both as they gave their best and that’s all we ask of them

Sorry i dont agree with some of your post. Particularly for less academic children, the self-belief, effort, resilience, work ethic has come because a parent or stepparent has supported the child to learn those skills. I think they perhaps come more easily to academic children who don't mind homework, research, reading etc because they find it easier.

I couldn't be more proud of my son who is following the career he has always wanted. He stands out in his peer group for having a strong work ethic, being polite, and wanting to do better. In fact, the best he can do I know that much of those skills have come from me. Modelling them to him.

Well done OP.

But surely you know that a stepson is never the stepparent's actual birth son?

It's like saying you're technically your husband's wife.

Well done for encouraging him. He’ll go far!

God, are you normally so self absorbed. Not everything is about you.
Your poor stepson having to share his moment with you

That's wonderful that you spent time and made the effort with your DSs.
Your DSs is lucky to have you supporting him.
Welldone to both of you.
It's clear that your DSs was academically capable so with your support he achieved his goals.
You are a great person for having helped him.
Be proud of yourself and be very proud of your DSs.