To think our DSs achievement is a lot down to me?

Then what are you posting here for? How many people do you need to hear that you’ve done a good job from?

god this thread is full of nasty and bitter people

I have significant achievements on similar front and I’m proud of them but my mom made a lot of effort and made sacrifices to support me and make this happen too.

i do not begrudge her parental pride and I do not begrudge her being proud of what she did to
support me. JUST LIKE THE OP she does not shout about it from the rooftops and does not take any shine away from me but what she did matters and she can be proud of that and can be proud of me.

people who have an issue with that need their head screwed back on

well done OP your stepson is lucky to have you

They're probably trying to mollify you so you don't spoil their boy's special day with a tantram.

Unfortunately it's clear they aren't showering you with enough praise, because you're on here looking for more instead of celebrating your son's achievement.

He’s super lucky that you came along to save him from his useless and uneducated family…

You sound more and more like my toxic "she never thanked me for paying for her music lessons" mother.

She hated the attention I got when I played the piano (I played particularly well at a young age) and always tried to deflect attention away from me onto her.

She was always petty and ridiculous at music events, but she surpassed herself on one occasion when filled with frustration and impotent rage at the failure of those present to acknowledge her specialness she blurted out;

"She's never thanked me for paying for her music lessons!"

Because this is about him, not you. Don't steal his thunder.

Because it is his moment to shine, and to be recognised for his efforts and achievements. It's like insisting on 'helping' blow out the candles on someone else's birthday cake!

I'm sure that with all your talents and achievements, you have had many such moments of glory. You don't need to horn in on his. It's tacky.

You are spending so much time thinking how much this is to your credit, taking away from the energy you spend recognising and celebrating it as his.

Seriously, your reward should be his success, and not recognition for your contribution to it.
You sound quite self-obsessed and ‘pick-me’.

Wind your neck in and celebrate HIS success with HIM, not giving yourself a pat on the back.

You asked us if you are being unreasonable to think your son's achievement is down to you. You don't come across as the type of person who would keep this thought to yourself, or to think it was unreasonable.

I think it's likely you have been demonstrating in word and deed how great and benevolent you are ever since you started bestowing your great wisdom on your dolt of a step-son. That you have made a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

I'm going to guess that your mother or husband or both - fed up up with listening to you banging on about how special you are - has shot you down for making your son's achievement all about you.

So you come on here expecting a round of applause and a bucket-full of sympathy.

You are being unreasonable.

I think you should feel proud, you've obviously helped him and he will look back when older and realise this, if he doesn't already. It's nice to feel you have been a good role model and influence on him. I hope my child feels that way about me too. Even if he ends up not going to university or doing well in his exams, knowing he has a supportive parent that believes in him is the key thing.

Don’t sulk when you don’t get an invite to drop him off at the Russell Group uni, because he wants his parents to be there.
I mean, well done for being supportive (like anyone involved in a DC’s life should be), but taking credit takes the biscuit.

Only aspired to go into social care?????!

Very true. None of my family have gone to uni, all the men earn very well in construction jobs. More income than academics. It's soooo snobby.

Well done for encouraging him to do his best but that's no more than any parent should be doing.

It’s not a lot down to you. Perhaps your support was helpful.

He sat the exams. He did the work.

The ego of some people. 🙄

When your dd gives birth will you claim credit for that too?

OP you are giving MIL who wears white to her stepson's wedding here.

Who knows where he got his abilities from ? Or who has influenced him. And how much has been his own internal drive to achieve ?
Many parents step or not will think they have influenced, and many have. Some for better, some not.
But you will not be the only influencer. A teacher, a friend whose attitude is different. Fear of failing !

Yes, you will have done your bit. But others will have too.

Are you one of those parents who posts your child’s (stepchild’s) results on Facebook under the disguise of „congratulating „ them ? Because congratulating them in person doesn’t really mean much until the entire world can see it?
What next? He passes his driving test and that will somehow be about you too? Look at me with my insecurities, at least my child is a model citizen and it’s all down to me.
as someone said above you’re not the main character,
The Russel group seems to be handing out places like free candy at the moment so I wouldn’t boast about that either.
Well done to your stepson though!

Narcissistic much?

Just don't tell him that, it was all his work and I guess his teacher's would have been telling him that he was doing really well and should look at good univercities.

How do you know?

I bet he does.