To think our DSs achievement is a lot down to me?

She's not muscling in. She's just quietly celebrating her own contribution somewhere where he will never find out about it. Well done, OP, you're perfectly entitled to give yourself a quiet clap on the back.

Well done to your step son. I love hearing about young people doing well and achieving.

Of course you should be proud. Children are a reflection of their environment and you have helped create a wonderful one for him. Obviously it's down to the individual child but children who have support usually do better.

Quite agree. I think you can be pleased with the positive effect you've had on his life and knowing that he is where he is partly because of you.

You have to think it silently though and not take his shine away, although I am sure you won’t do that.

Haven't read the full thread but my goodness the batshit brigade are out in force tonight.

I get it, OP. You're proud of him and I imagine that knowing you played a part in his success by opening up his horizons and coaching him is rewarding, maybe the way it is for teachers.

You need to read the OPs recent threads.

Then you'll understand why people are pushing back on this narrative.

I don't know why everyone is leaping on you OP. I too know that my kids had better educational outcomes because of the support I provided. I live in a deprived London Borough and very few of my children's friends have had the educational outcomes that they have achieved. Both DC's realise that they are unusual and have said so. I won't take their achievements for myself, or ever say it out loud to anyone, but I know had I not advocated for them and supported them, their outcomes would have been entirely different. I am proud of them both, their successes are their own - and I am happy to have been able to be a part of it along the way.

plus, I also sat with him checking a lot of his course work too. One of his A levels is on what I have my MSc in.

Seriously? Did he make the declaration that it was all his own work? "Checking a lot of his course work" is criminal.

You may be correct that you contributed to his success, in an unquantifiable way. But if you want to claim credit for success, you should be equally keen to accept responsibility for things that go badly in his life.

If you do feel responsible for things that go badly, it's not great for you or him. And if you don't, then you'd be saying your success is mine but your failures are yours (a parental attitude that is almost universal in the culture I was raised in and very annoying).

You can lead a horse to water.....

It's like people who say they got someone a job. Yes, but if the person doesn't perform well, turn up on time and been an good employee, they would be out.

He put in the hard work, so it is on him.

Wow, you're bad mouthing his mother when your husband was recently doing coke and paying for online sex workers!!!

You really do have main character syndrome that's for sure!

Yes I think you can privately be proud of yourself.

For your own sake I wouldn't tell your DSS how proud you are of yourself in relation to his achievement. Or anyone else for that matter.

It's rare to read something so blatantly narcissistic. Kudos, I guess. 🤨

Wonder where your daughter gets the overconfidence from 😆😆

Exactly what I thought.

My daughter graduated from a RG university this year and I can honestly say it’s all because of her own work ethic and intellect. I’ve only ever encouraged my kids to do what they want and what they feel capable of of course I’ve always told them they can achieve anything

Your disdain for those who “just finished secondary school” is out and out snobbery.
Get over yourself, he did the work, HE deserves all the glory.

I'm sorry this happened to you as well. 🥰

Main character syndrome

I think you should be focusing more on your DHs substance abuse and cam girl fixation instead of trying to take a victory lap.

Have you got your mental health support sorted because you were having quite disturbing episodes weren't you OP? I'm guessing attention seeking is a huge part of your condition which would explain why you keep starting bizarre threads that cast you as the martyred hero.

Do you want a medal. What's your point.

My child passed their driving test this week. My partner. Not child’s dad took them out and taught them in between lessons. When congratulated by my father he was embarrassed and wants everyone to know my child achieved this themselves not that he aided it. Thats a lovely attitude. Ultimately the child achieved on the day not the adult.

It’s ‘coasted’. Dreaming of becoming PM? She sounds a chip off the old block

What do you want OP? A night out with DSS and his mates to celebrate their exam success?