AIBU to want us to move to Australia in later life?

YANBU to want to go at all, OP. But your DH is't being unreasonable not to want to go. I hope you can change his mind or find a solution you're happy with.

Eh? You NEED your Visa in place before you go otherwise thousands of people would all be there “waiting” for a Visa for 30 years or am I missing something??

He's 75, why would he want to work on a farm when he doesn't want to go anyway. And I sense that OP would not want to be working, especially in ag work.

There is a lot of agricultural work available in Australia. You and DH could make sure visa allows you to work seasonally.

This - could you do winters over there and summers here for eg? 50/50 - then you’d get to see everyone.

I think you missed the part that to be eligible for a parent visa (not necessarily get it) the parent needs to have at least 50% of their children living there. So your second daughter would need to go first and get settled (2 years?).
Anyway, I am getting really frustrated by your responses.
You say you are happily married (despite him being 'selfish' etc). He doesn't like travelling and certainly doesn't want to migrate; he doesn't even understand your wish to move out of the farmhouse. You cannot see how daunting the prospect would be for him to leave the only place he has known. It doesn't sound like a happy relationship to me. Where is the compromising?
I think you are severely underestimating the process. It will cost a fortune (but that doesn't appear to be a problem for you), take a long time for you to be eligible, require near excellent health - as someone said, even being overweight is cause for refusal. I thought your reference to a 30 year wait was a typo/3 years. You're dreaming if you think you could sit out - overstay - a temporary visa until you die.
Once you retire you could go there for several months of the year on a visitor visa, then return and resort to FaceTime.

It’s totally possible at your age with the right visa, sponsorship and funds. I live in Australia and my good friend, English, recently did the same thing and her mum (older than you) is now well settled here. Good luck OP- it’s a great place to live.

No way will you be able to get anything but a tourist visa. Sorry op - you can be as optimistic as you like, but your fantasies are just that. We moved back to Australia again last (UK) summer. We really regret it. It has changed so much in the ten years we were away, and not for the best imo. The COL is crazy and the homelessness situation is just horrible, even in country/rural towns. People (young and old) are living in cars, caravan parks, skanky motels and houses of multiple occupation with strangers. I could go on but i won't. We are planning to return to the UK.
You will never qualify for an aged parent visa, the waiting lists are astronomical. Your daughter may say otherwise, but the Oz government is stopping these parents/family visas due to certain countries, namely China and India, abusing them. They are also stopping lots of other visa routes due to fake degrees from overseas countries, visa overstayers etc.
The summer's here are unpleasant, so your best bet is to come over here on a tourist visa for a few months during the Australian winter or cooler months.

I think wanting to emigrate to be closer to two out of three of your kids is entirely understandable at this stage of life. I am not there yet, my sons are mid to late teens, but I can 100% empathise with wanting to be near enough to my children and to their children in my later years. I say that as someone who hasn't lived in the same country as my parents for decades due to difficult relationships. This means I value the closeness my DH and I have with our children because it is so unique for me, never having experienced it myself with my own parents.

OP, if this is truly something you want to undertake and are happy to start from scratch in a new country, I say ignore the naysayers and do what you need to do to make it work. Wishing you the best of luck.

YANBU, especially if 2 out of 3 dc are in Australia! Good luck OP. Tell dh you'll visit him still 🙂

I sincerely hope that you can get your husband there for a holiday and then he sees how lovely it is/how happy you are etc. Don't give up. Find out all you can about the Visa situation. You sound like an amazing lady having lived overseas and travelled lots - you are an inspiration. Try your very best to move and be with your family. Sending very best wishes...

I don't have any advice/knowledge on emigrating to Oz but I just want to say I really, really love your positive attitude and cup half full mentality, it’s refreshing! Good luck with all of this, I hope it works out for you :)

Trying to persuade him to make a move that big is wrong. He's never even wanted to visit, if he agreed to go it would be under duress.

You need to decide whether you want to stay here with your DH, or leave him to live near your daughters.

OP I love your energy. I hope it all works out for you .

No i don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Of course you want to be near your daughters and your grandchildren plus you love Australia too! I think you just need to persuade your husband i bet if you could persuade him to come on holiday first he would love it. My parents went to visit my sister and they were older than you. They loved it and given half a chance they would have stayed!

Isn’t there lack of accommodation issue in Oz as bad or worse than the UK because of high COL and high rents.

Young people are living in their cars because either lack of availability of rental accommodation.

Having lived in Oz , getting older I would worry about climate change - floods or baking heat or plagues of mice, a few years ago now.

As a fellow farmers wife I am surprised you even asked your husband. A lot of farmers have roots deep in the ground and will refuse to move from the their farm

Pack and go for a long.........visit
It might just shift him

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. A couple I know did this recently. They have adult kids and grandkids there and didn't want to keep doing the long flights. They wanted to rent their house out here in case it didn't work out but ended up having to sell as Australia wanted more £s in their bank. I think, maybe as one of them developed an illness whilst waiting for the visas. Health checks are part of the process. This couple were in their 70s. I was thrilled for them.

My daughter and her boyfriend live over there on a student visa, they’ve been there 4 years and have just had to fork out over 8k in Aussie Dollars to extend it for 3 years. She has a good job and her bf has just finished a PhD over there but neither field is on the skills list so they are struggling to get pr. They are fearful that the new immigration laws coming in will prevent them from ever living there permanently.

You can’t emigrate there at your age! My son is out there. It’s not possible and would take years. Also no free healthcare