AIBU to be annoyed guests announced vegan diets on arrival?

Defo not unreasonable.
I'm GF by choice and either let hosts know when things are arranged or just bring my own food depending on who it is and the situation. I've never expect someone to change a plan because they didn't know / i forgot to tell them.

To add to this, I always let people know if they don't already (rare, as I've been vegan longer than I haven't been) and if going for dinner and staying over I usually take pudding, bring my own bits and bats for breakfast etc and take something for the host too. I would do more than that if staying for longer! They sound very inconsiderate indeed.

I thought it was bad enough when my DSis mentioned the night before coming for dinner that she was now vegetarian! Fortunately we'd been planning stir fry anyway, so could just leave the meat out of her portion, but if it had been something harder to change she'd either have just ended up with vegetables or told to bring her own.

YANBU. I wouldn't make any effort to accommodate their diet. It's only a week and only a recent choice (not a medical diagnosis or even a mild, self-diagnosed intolerance). Since it's not an actual allergy or sensitivity, it won't hurt them to change their diet for a few days. When you stay at someone else's home and expect to be fed, you make the best of what they provide, eat around things you don't like, or take responsibility for your own food by shopping, going out to eat, etc.

I'd also reconsider allowing them to stay again, if I'm honest, because I don't enjoy hosting at the best of times, and if you make yourself a nuisance, I'll take that as an excuse to put an end to the inconvenience.

'Oh, I don't know how to cook vegan... but you're welcome to sort your own food.'

I respect food intolerances - I'm gluten free myself but I TELL people - but if it's just faddism, you usually find they're tucking into the quiche by Day 2...

That is awful. I am vegan and there is absolutely no way I would ever turn up anywhere without saying this (and bringing stuff with me) and then expect someone to cook me food without knowing this. They sound very entitled. I think I might ask them to go shopping for the food they can eat and suggest they might want to cook it themselves.

‘Great, we aren’t though, so you’ll need to sort your own food if you can’t eat what we have planned’

I had the same a friend id known forever was coming to dinner with friends, i told everyone i was cooking lasagne from scratch and she turned up and said shes veggie, i was furious so she ate nothing as i had nothing in to feed her in was so bloody angry...she said i thought you knew, i said if someone is cooking you dinner you remind them that youre veggie

I would cook them what you’ve already bought that’s vegan —and don’t try to make it interesting— so pasta and tomato sauce, mushroom risotto, baked potatoes with beans. While you eat the lovely food you’d planned for them!

They really are spectacularly rude. This should be their last freeload visit to you.

@Wtafdidido I see a lot of dry toast in their future!
Very rude.
I had this late announcement a Christmas dinner one - they did not eat any vegetables and told me on the day
Suggest they do a shop that goes with what you have in - for example some more mushrooms, non dairy milks and cheeses etc, hopefully your planned stuff will adapt a bit
If it does not it is on them for not telling you!

How old is your dd? She might be able to save this situation.

When i was about 4, my dm agreed to have an old school friend to stay but didn't stipulate an end date. I overheard my dm whingeing to my sister after about a week than she didn't know when the friend would leave. (Dsis and I had also given up our bedroom for her).

I boldly marched up to the woman and simply asked "When will you leave?" And she sort of tittered and said "oh why aren't you enjoying my visit?" And I simply said no. She left later that day and my dm showered me with praise, it's one of my proudest memories.

Depending on your dd's age, she could do the same for you?

I say this as a vegan: cheeky, entitled fuckers. You must be fuming.

That's completely unreasonable and they should've told you in advance. I'd be very clear and show them the food you've already bought and the meals you've planned.

They'll have to sort themselves out.

'oh right, I'll put the meat I bought I the freezer for later then. I'm fine with you getting your own food, don't worry about it at all'

Then never have them back.

What will you actually do? Surely we're all too polite to tell them to piss off? Sounds like they eat eggs. Could accommodate for breakfast and lunch then do their own dinner or go out (and they pay).

Crazy they didn’t tell you. I have v specific dietary needs for health reasons and always tell hosts well in advance and often take some of my own food for an overnight stay.

I have friends who are vegan and also nut allergic and always cater to their needs but I have to know in advance. Now your guests can buy some of their own food.

That's terrible behaviour.

I would tell them that, say that you had no idea their food preferences had changed so dramatically as they didn't tell you prior to arriving, you've already shopped, they are welcome to join you for the meals you will be making but if they are unsuitable, they will have to sort their own food out.
It so cheeky of them to expect you to feed them for a whole week anyway ... maybe this will make them staying a bit easier for you.

They can sort themselves out then. You need to stop letting them stay as they are entitled, disruptive and it doesn’t sound like you like them anyway.

As a 'faddy' vegan of 25 years YANBU! What inconsiderate guests.

As many have suggested, 'This is what I've planned, do you want to go to X supermarket and get some alternatives that could work instead of the (meat/dairy component)?

Yanbu op and I'm sorry you have to endure them.

But... I love a good cheeky fuckery story. Guaranteed, this is not the only way they are unreasonable guests. People like this leave the bathroom a mess, borrow your stuff without asking, are noisy at night, and absurdly critical about everything.

Dh and I haven't had anyone stay the night since before lockdown. Life is so peaceful!

I'm puzzling over what you can do?

I think you probably need to say to them you'd shopped and meal planned so could they help in re-planning the meals as most of the things you'd planned wouldn't work? And would they be OK to maybe take a turn at cooking a few of the meals themselves as it's a bit outside your comfort zone good meals that would work for everyone (ie: including your own family)?

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Way to miss the point completley

Of course YANBU.

Just say oh thats a shame as I've already done the meal planning and food shop.

Serve exactly what you were planning on serving anyway then some bread and margarine. They can eat the bread and margarine if they

“What a shame you didn’t mention it before I shopped and cooked for your stay. I’m afraid I can’t afford to do another shop, so would you like to just avoid the bits you don’t want to eat, or go to the supermarket yourselves?”

Outrageous not to mention it and still expect to be catered for. Ridiculous, who are these people!?