AIBU to be annoyed guests announced vegan diets on arrival?

They're not just thoughtless. They sound like entitled users ... the staying with you is one thing, but you funding their meals for their holiday, too? Fuck no!

Goodness me, they're treating you like a bed & breakfast! Have they brought some special food/presents/ treats for you all? Or even wine ...

Wow OP. So you’re having cancer treatment as well and they still thought it was okay to expect to be hosted you for a whole week? That’s too much even without their thoughtlessness about springing the veganism on you and then making a face at being told they will need to do a shop. They sound awful to be honest. Please don’t spend a week running around after them.

They are unreasonable not to have told you of course.
But you're unreasonable hosting people you resent and who are not really welcome.
Your two options are also unreasonable. People who don't eat meat don't eat 'minimal meat' and I cant see why you think wasting all the food you bought to have them buy and cook more for sll of you is a good idea.
Surely the reasonable options are, this is what I'm cooking. You can have the elements that don't contain meat and dairy, or I'm happy for to use the kitchen to prepare stuff for yourselves if you want to pop to Tesco.

We are all cross for you, because real friends would pitch up with bags of food ready to look after YOU for the week, given you have cancer! They might offer to help with the garden, or take dd out, do stuff that needed to be done around the house. The whole point of friendship is to be a decent mate when your friends are experiencing health problems or other life events. It is utterly unthinkable that they are adding to your load like this.

They have no children and are lacking quite a lot in self awareness so have form for thoughtless behaviour but it’s generally not deliberate just related to how they live their life.

Having no children is no excuse whatsoever. I’m childfree & vegetarian & would always warn the host & offer to cook for myself if necessary. Also turn a blind eye if someone kindly cooked for me & used chicken stock or non-vegetarian cheese or something.

It’s just good manners.

They will have to take what they are given. They are only doing it because it’s healthier and it’s extremely rude

Tell them to get the fuck out of your house and go home.
Im vegetarian and I just eat what Im given. Bloody hell.
Freeloading piss takers.

They would go hungry in my house in that case.

I'm happy to cater for vegans, but I'm not vegan and would need prior notice.

@Wtafdidido I think your response was perfect

What is with "you don't sound like you like them very much", "you begrudge them the space and effort" comments. You can be happy to welcome guests and accept a degree of inconvenience associated with having more people than usual in your house AND be really bloody annoyed that someone with specific dietary requirements failed to communicate that with you before they arrived.

Meant to click yanbu x

So when you dished up lunch and they said 'we've decided to be fussy beggars this week (probably change next week' - what did you say?

I probably wouldn't have known what to say but would have liked to say
'Oh dear, you'll need to sort yourselves out for food then'.

This is why I rarely have 'guests' other than family who know the rules in my house which are 'don't be assholes'

This is really unreasonable of them to expect you to be able to cater for them without forewarning. I'm a vegan, but I'd never expect anyone to prepare meals for me without them knowing well in advance what I do or don't eat. And because not everyone will feel comfortable cooking plant-based meals, I'd either be offering to take my hosts out for meals or cooking for them, especially if they were kind enough to provide me with free accommodation. Your "solution" was very generous on your part.

I suspect they will suspend their veganism for the duration of their stay with you OP.

It’s even worse knowing you’re undergoing cancer treatment and they expect you to be their hotel. They should be arriving with BAGS of shopping, making most of the food, taking you and daughter out, offering petrol money.

She has told them that.

I would tell them your not a hotel and to go out and buy their own dietary requirements.

How ridiculous!

"It's a pity you didn't tell me in advance - I'm sure you can find places locally to accommodate, if not I can offer you an apple or a tomato!"

And I am a forty year old veteran vegetarian and would never ever behave like this!!

Even though you know your daughter will need extra supportive people in her life in the future, guests who spring burdensome dietary requirements on a woman with cancer, at the last minute, and who are "surprised" when their host (who has cancer!) cannot afford to meet their last-minute expenses, may not have the social skills or generosity to show up for your daughter when needed.

Can you tell us why they are even staying for a whole week sponging from you? And treating your house like a hotel and your family like staff?
Why on earth do you agree to your poor dd being stuck on the floor?

I will never ever understand why anyone would ever agree to this in the first place. The shopping, catering and cooking alone must be exhausting during a working week!

Put them in a tent in the garden, they have free use of the outside tap for washing facilities and drinking. A small BBQ to cook their own vegan food and suggest they book a five star vegan hotel next summer. FFS CFs!!!

Just seen they are godparents, so what! That makes it even worse in my view. You are being taken for a ride op. You are not a control freak or unreasonable, this is genuinely incredibly rude and obnoxious. Leave them to cook vegan specials for YOU every night, at least salvage something from this CFuckery.

Sorry, @Wtafdidido, I didn’t see your reply before I finished my last post. I guess the fact that they are godparents does complicate things for the future, however, it doesn’t sound as though they are very close to you, or even considerate towards you anymore (people do drift, it’s natural), so I do hope your dc have other support available. But, by the by, I actually think that now you’ve mentioned the cancer treatment, I actually think this makes their thoughtless behaviour even worse! They know you’re not well enough to work, yet still want to stay for the week and for you to cater for them! I know you say that they’re just wrapped up in their own world, but bloody hell! If - and it’s a massive if - I was going to visit a friend that was unwell then id be doing everything I could to actually make their week less stressful and wouldn’t even expect you to be cooking for me. I’d only stay if explicitly invited to, and I’d make meals and whatever else I could do to help. The fact that they know all this and have still invited themselves and expect you to cook for them makes them seem even more thoughtless! Do you genuinely want people who put their own needs first being the support for your children? I’m sorry if that sounds a little blunt. But they should be doing everything they can to make your week easier. Or staying elsewhere and visiting you/taking you out for meals etc. have they offered to do any cooking, or to take you out for any meals?

I'm sure that OP liked them well enough until they sprang their new dietary requirements on her after she had spent a load of money on food for their stay!

YANBU I'd be handing them the take away menu, or serving them veg and sides. Sod that!