AIBU to be annoyed guests announced vegan diets on arrival?

I had a colleague come to stay once who had a very restricted diet - no tomatoes, no meat, etc I'd planned and prepared for meals that met her requirements, were healthy and tasty, and satisfied my hungry husband. When she turned up she said: "Oh I've been eating all kinds of things off-plan, so while I'm with you I'm going to re-set and just eat fruit 😱I was blunt and told her how much effort I'd gone to and that she was welcome to 're-set' 4 days later once she was home.

Glad I did since she was happily scoffing crisps and cider in the pub that evening.

This!! Don’t let them freeload anymore!!!

I would just tell them what you are cooking each day and if they want to add to anything, they'd best pop off to the supermarket. Such as you're doing a roast dinner, they can go get a meat substitute if they like that kind of thing but have all the vegetables, ditto BBQ or whatever. I am vegetarian and I would a, tell someone in advance and b, if allowed sort out my own. I would hate to put anyone out.

It is really rude, esp when you've cooked things from scratch, a quiche is very good!

OP as you have seen most people see them as CFs, the vast majority as very inconsiderate. It absolutely SHOULD annoy you. They can go and buy some vegan food to fit with your plans.

You handled it perfectly. No need for more input! I will say though: not sure if rage bait, but it isn't a fad. Humans were slowly conditioned to eat more and more food to make the food industry owners richer. We're kept fattened up and dulled with chemicals to keep us docile and obedient. Just facts. We eat too much meat and not meant to have dairy anyway. It's positive that they made this change and will massively support their health. Especially as they get older.

I think they were a little surprised.

But not half as surprised as you were @Wtafdidido

How inconsiderate not to give you the heads up. I can accommodate every kind of diet, but I still need to be told in advance.

I hope the treatment is successful 💐

Given what you are going through they should be round at yours helping out, not expecting free accomodation and food that you are expected to cook for them, I don't think they're as nice as you think they are going off what you've said about them.

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I've only just read your update. So sorry to hear you have cancer. With that in mind, it's even more horrendous that they're expecting you to wait on them! Are you sure they will be a support to your kids in the future? They sound more like lead weights than air balloons.

pasta chips and potatoes are all vegetarian options (vegan, even)... let s not make mega assumptions on the healthiness of their diet.

dairy-free is rarely "healthier" without a clinical reason, depending on what is used as a replacement.

Yes, I'm vegan and would never dream of doing this. (So please don't blame all vegans 😆). They sound awful. You don't sound as if you like them much though, so probably just don't invite them again.

I doubt I'd bother paying for a stamp for a Christmas Card after this.

No, you laugh and tell them to leave.
Now.

I like this, clear and decisive without being dramatic (which you'd have every right to be OP) and controls the options for sorting it out.

And yes, this would be the last free stay of any duration they'd have from me. A big fat "No, we're not doing that anymore" if they're cheeky enough to ask/assume again.

Edited to add I get the reason they are there etc. but in the circs (your health OP) they are coming across as even more inconsiderate. They really should have booked proper accommodation.

They are extremely inconsiderate and selfish. They buy and prepare their own meals. In fact kick them out. I know you won't. Total cf's.

I can’t believe some people think you are being unreasonable.
It’s perfectly normal to go shopping before guests come so you have food to offer them.
Dairy free means if Op has picked up some treats like a packet of chocolate biscuits or a cake to offer they can’t have them. I’d buy more milk etc assuming cups of tea and cereal.
It’s such a waste and so rude especially if money tight.

Then the bill goes in the bin

Another post with unreasonable guests today. Yes OP tell them exactly as per your post. They didn't have the decency to inform you about change of diet so they can eay your food or buy their own meals elsewhere. Why are you accommodating non relatives for a week free of charge?

I can’t believe they’re staying when you’re not well 🙁 And sorry, but if they haven’t got the brain to tell you well in advance that they’re bringing the week’s shopping and will do all cooking and are actually staying in an Airbnb, given they’re now vegan (yeah, right, wonder how long that will last!) then they sure as heck aren’t going to step up and care for your daughter. Who has custody if the worst comes to pass?

We will make this work as my children are going to need these people in their lives for support in the not too distant future.

I see where you're coming from here, but I really hope you have better people involved in your childrens lives than these almost strangers. They don't know your DD that well and I'd guess she's being very polite to them.

They have no children and are lacking quite a lot in self awareness so have form for thoughtless behaviour

Godparent or not, they sound completely out of touch and self-absorbed. Being "nice" once or twice a year isn't enough. Your DD needs real support and not a flake.

💐

Or baked beans on dry toast, that's all they deserve the CFs. They should be cooking for you and DD.

Do them an omelette at every meal

Maybe they didn't think of it? I'm not particularly organised so I probably would have done that too. At home i don't plan meals and only think of what to eat at the time or say a few hours ahead. If someone did that to me it wouldn't have made much difference.

Isn't it a bit presumptious to be expected to be fed? So saying "I'm vegan" ahead of time has the expectation that someone wil cook for you?

I have a sneaky suspicion that if you don’t solve this problem for them (by going shopping WHICH YOU ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT!) they will suddenly revert to eating meat and dairy. I.e if you do the work they will keep to their diet, but if it’s on them it won’t be worth the effort.

They're taking the piss. The fact they've told you after they arrived is a disgrace. Even telling you beforehand would be a pisstake with the extra expense, but at least you'd know. But to rock up and then announce it. Ugh. And not even family.

I can't believe 2% think you're being unreasonable.

Op, kick them out.