AIBU to be annoyed guests announced vegan diets on arrival?

Why will your dd need their help in the not so distance future??

Vegans don’t eat eggs.

I made a full Thanksgiving dinner once. My sister-in-law showed up with a bowl of limes. That’s all she ate. I wasn’t told in advance, but at least she provided her own meal.

Your guests have been incredibly rude and thoughtless

So they one of those who think since they had made the effort and spent on travelling to you, once they’re there they no longer have to put their hands in their pockets, eh?
you’ve done well asking them to figure their food out.

Yes they should have told you!! Put what you can in the freezer so you don’t waste any meat/dairy. I would use what I have to make meals up and expect them to buy items to top up what you already have available.

Vegetarian meals are not too difficult but vegan meals add an extra layer of difficulty if you are not prepared!

That is really shockingly bad manners. It happenened to me at just one evening meal when I had asked the guests for any special likes or dislikes and one announced this when they arrived! I made her an omelette as she was not vegan but it was extra work and irritating. Why are they staying with you as in a hotel? Sounds very uncomfortable to me unless they are great friends and it's reciprocal in some way. Best work out some way to share the shopping and cooking. If they don't have a medical reason and you both can compromise that is best. After they have left review whether or not you want to have them stay so long again or perhaps not at all.

We will make this work as my children are going to need these people in their lives for support in the not too distant future
I know this isn't the theme of the thread but it seems to hint that something very sad is likely to happen, I really hope you are going to be okay @Wtafdidido

You sound incredibly tolerant, hope they turn out to be great godparents to your children and sending you loads of support x

No it doesn't. She's speaking factually.

Yes I have done this a few times too. Lifelong vegetarian, but when an elderly friend of my grandmother had made me a shepherd's pie I was not going to be rude enough to say I'll just eat the mash... The stomach cramps after weren't great, but still better than upsetting someone who had tried really hard to do something nice for me.

Edited to say I'm sorry to hear about your ill health. I'm recovering from cancer treatment at present and it really isn't fun.

"oh ok, I am not really used to preparing vegan food/recipes, so unless you want to survive all week on the veg sides I have bought, perhaps best for you sort out some shopping for the ingredients you need and you can prepare for yourself"

Sounds like they wanted to eat out and so did it on purpose.

They could have just said upfront they’d rather eat out.

They are massively taking the pxss. Do you deserve the sort of punishment and disrespect they are providing? I bet you don't. It takes courage to challenge people like them, but use them as practice and see how it feels, you'll get better at it and then you'll stop attracting this particular life lesson in future.. The guests sound extremely thick skinned and insensitive and I'm sure they can take whatever you dish out to them.

This is totally unacceptable behaviour from your guests, especially knowing your health condition. I would not be putting myself out to cater for their latest fad.

Who actually goes and stays with someone for a week knowing they are ill and then expecting all food provided? It’s extraordinary! They might not be suitable to help dd if needed. They are too self absorbed.

"To accommodate them my child has to vacate her bedroom and spend the week on an airbed in our room" is neither here nor there if that's what you suggested/agreed to.

It's relevant because preparing for and hosting guests is work. And this is part of it. Along with planning meals and shopping for and preparing them. It's very rude to have a sudden significant dietary change like this and let your host waste a load of time, effort and money on food you then refuse to eat.

OP, sounds like you've steered a sensible course between flounce and doormat. My sympathies.

Rude rude rude. Do not let them stay again. Is it too late to give them the blow up bed???

yup, you can get vegan chocolate and vegan cake....vegan wine and spirits, vegan white sugar....

This

Well done for sending them to the supermarket. Some people are idiots. Sorry to hear that you are undergoing treatment, if I was visiting you I would be bringing the food myself and doing all the cooking in order to give you a break!

We have guests coming who invited themselves with a sob story about family problems and they need a break. They have difficult dietary requirements for medical reasons, and although they will say oh don’t worry about the food, they bloody will make a fuss if it’s not right. And it’s for 10 days stay. At least I know before they stay. But it won’t be easy.

I would tell your guests that they should've told you and it’s too late now, they will have to fit in.

people are such a pain !

Given your update, they are absolute bastards. Let them buy and cook their own food.

tell them they have to feed themselves as you did not plan for specialised diets.

I would just tell them what you are cooking each day and if they want to add to anything, they'd best pop off to the supermarket.

She did tell them that!

'I have suggested they look at the meal plan I have made and make a list of what they need to adapt it to their needs so they can go to the supermarket and buy what is needed. I think they were a little surprised.'