Guests bring their own lunch

Yes I get that it’s hot but is their car not air conditioned?

Awful behaviour! You think they'd have said, we'll bring lunch and laid on a nice spread for you. Can't imagine sitting in someone else's house eating food without inviting them to join!

Thought so.

(Sorry for the weird question as someone pointed out it was.)

My face reading this 😐😱🤬

You didn't exactly invite them the last time either! 🤣

Ahh OP this is just awful. I never say anything to anyone but in this case I would have to say something in a text to point out how ridiculous they have been. You aren't going to see them again anyway so why not. Soooooooooo cheeky.

Wow OP honestly your friend has been really shit here 😩

So salad, sandwiches, yoghurts, nothing that's going to break the bank if you buy extra for one person.

Can also be transported home easily if not used!

So even if Op had meant that she would feed herself it would be easy to take for her & no big deal if not needed I would have thought.

One of our close friends had an operation immediately post covid when we were finally allowed to visit people. We called and said we would like to do a day visit even though it was a 3hr drive for us and we had a one year old and a 4 year old. Similarly we were warned that they were not up to sorting lunch. We said not to worry we would just come for a short while and bring lunch. I messaged my friend who had the operation to check what she felt like eating. She said would love some pork curry and fish curry. I made both and we drove down and picked up some pizzas, couple of desserts from M& S and flowers. We put the fish and pork curry in their fridge for them to enjoy later and we all ate pizzas together. And then had dessert. We talked for a while and left soon so as not to tire my friend out. Before we left, I helped her husband with sorting out the kitchen while my husband entertained our children. I cannot imagine someone turning up without cooking few bits and bringing lunch! Those are not your friends.

Haven't read the whole thread but that actually made me lol. People are very strange aren't they? It's when things like this happen you realise the differences between us.

I hope they bought a lovely bunch of flowers to cheer you up (bet they didn't!)

Cheeky buggers!

It's so strange how many women on here dislike confident women.

They seem to be far more comfortable reading about women who are 'too gobsmacked' to stand up for themselves or even answer the door to a stranger.

Odd.

Lol! This reminds me of the classic quote from Kitty (Patricia Routledge) in 'Victoria Wood As Seen on TV':

'I'm so popular now that people hide in shop doorways when they see me coming because they feel inadequate.'

Wow! I cannot get over how inconsiderate your friends were and then the sheer audacity to leave the plates without washing them! Sometimes people show you who they really are and this is one of those times. I hope you heal quickly. Hobbling around on crutches is no fun, it is impossible to even carry a cup of tea so I really feel for you. Feel better soon. 🙏

In the grand scheme of things it's ACCEPTABLE. BUT SEEING AS YOUVE JUST GOTOUT OF HOSPITAL then it's an insult. What an inconsiderate bunch.

People really are strange. That's so cheeky you almost can't get mad. It'll go down in family history as an hilarious anecdote. It reminds me of the time we had family visiting from overseas when I was little. They brought an enormous jigsaw to do with us kids, and we all worked diligently on it with the guests. Unfortunately it wasn't finished by the time they had to leave...so they packed it up and took it home with them. This still comes to mind over 40 years later whenever those relatives are mentioned.

I posited this to my DH (not known for being a social body) as a theoretical situation and his first comment was "I would never impose at that point, I'd rearrange for another time when the OP was recovered FFS!" We made the assumption on the theoretical sitch that you'd said it was fine and had told us you weren't up to providing food he said "Fine, what would you like to eat? We'll bring enough for all plus some leftovers so you don't have to worry about later or we can do takeout on us, up to you" so frankly if he can manage it, others bloody should be able to! I told him they'd not washed up either and he was thoroughly disgusted! Honestly, they're cheeky fuckers and I'm so glad you'll not be engaging further. I hope you have a speedy recovery 💐

They are not friends.

You're immobile after surgery. If they were friends, they'd have thought about your wants / needs, in your time of need, and brought food, as well as asked what they could do to help you while visiting / did you want anything bringing.

Major surgery tends to be the Great Revealer of friendships anyway. It's really in times like these you see who cares and who doesn't.