Guests bring their own lunch

This so completely self centered that I'd struggle to keep a straight face. It's probably not even intentionally malicious, they're just so thoughtless that they didn't think of you and the possibility that you may also want to eat food.

Most people would leave you alone to recover in comfort and not impose or at least bring you servings of a few different things to keep in the fridge if they did come over.

I’d have asked what we could bring for you? Anything you particularly fancy? begore i even got in the car to come and see you . No way would I have not made a meal including you and if you’re not well I’d have plated up something for you to have in the evening too after we’d gone. Nowt as strange as folk.

They are horrible. Block and move on.

Why on earth would you sit there and not say anything?. When she asked if you were going to get yourself something the only logical answer is ' yes I'm going to get my self a plate and join you'

But as OP wasn’t up to hosting, how did they think she was going to manage to make her own lunch? Very thoughtless of them imo!

Not at all. They were rude as fuck, but if they had a lot of individual plastic containers like OP said, and OP have problems moving, then you’d at least hope they didn’t just fill up her bin with crap and then leave. Get it?

To be honest, I can’t remember my exact words on the phone … but I definitely made it clear I wasn’t mobile enough to make a meal for myself or anyone else!

How do you normally eat during the day?

People are bizarre.

Whatever the detail of what was said or not said the normal thing to do, to my mind, would be for your friend to bring something for you all to share.

Mn introduces me to a new level of batshittery every day.

I really hope they see and read these messages. I am sure you must have felt so shocked. Mean is an understatement. Next time they visit do NOT make them anything, but have your own little picnic ready on the side so you can eat it when they are visiting you.

JFC. No, This isn’t a “lack of communication” this is fucking rude people in your house!
There are no circumstances, absolutely none, where I would do that, it’s unthinkable.

Blimey. They are very rude indeed.

Lol, this question is almost stranger than the thread.

How bloody thoughtless they were.

That’s some self centerdness!

Id be the same as you - so shocked I’d be amused.

If I had a friend laid up I’d have morning brought lunch I’d have brought some meals for them morning the freezer to simply heat to make life easier.

How odd!! I know other people may say it’s a miscommunication but it’s just so inconsiderate! I wouldn’t dream of not bringing plenty for everyone especially the host who had just had surgery! My friend had surgery recently, not too serious but struggling to walk, I took flowers, drinks and treats with me.

Nutcases.

Normally I would be really taken aback by this kind of behaviour, but i'm not surprised.

One of my closest trends, I did a massive favour for her. Gave her free professional advice and work to her partner who was involved in a legal dispute.And I am a solicitor. Sat up one night draughted, all the documents for them filled out the court papers.They didn't know how to do and emailed it all to them.It took a good couple of hours and bear in mind my charge outrate is over £500 an hour excluding vat.

I want to want to make it clear.I did not ask for any reward.I was happy to help my friend. She insisted on me coming over to her area and she would take me for dinner and then drive me home as a thank you. When I arrived, she drove me straight to Sainsbury's to buy my own food to be heated up in her oven. And then she withdrew the offer of driving me home and dumped me out at the closest station where it took me nearly two hours to get home.

I was actually deeply hurt, because I did it out of the kindness of my own heart.And I would rather be offered nothing than the appalling behaviour she displayed that night.

She offered to take me out for dinner and I got to buy something in sainsbury's to heat up in her oven.And then get myself home. I would have rather, she just said.Thank you.And left it at that.

Sadly, I am not surprised at the shocking behaviour that was displayed, but I would be reconsidering my friendship with them.

I would have asked you first if you were up to having me as a guest.And if you weren't, I would have accepted that, and I absolutely would have brought food for you and cooked it for you.

YANBU

I don't think they did it on purpose - I think they genuinely thought you just meant for them but its awful behaviour. Even if that was true once she saw you didnt have anything she should have offered you some.

I would be mortified if I had a whole picnic set up and someone whos house I went to was eating toast. I would probably have offered you mine and gone and made the toast for me.

So odd from them. I don’t think miscommunication covers it. I’ve been to countless friends houses who have just had a baby or surgery and always offered to bring lunch over (for me and the friend, obviously). It’s just a basic when someone is knackered or laid up to offer and to be the one to plate it up, plus make cups of tea (unless they prefer not, of course).

The fact they forced themselves on you when you are not up to hosting makes the rest of the post completely unsurprising.

That's very bloody peculiar behaviour no matter what way people try to slice and dice it with 'lack of communication' 😂

Without wanting to sound like some outraged Daily Express etiquette columnist wtf is going on that people don't know how to act like a normal guest?! I'm embarrassed on behalf of those weirdos and I wish you a speedy recovery

I can see why they did that, you didn't ask them to make you anything. They could of genuinely thought they were being easy going etc.

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