Guests bring their own lunch

I think this must be the rudest and oddest behaviour I've ever read about on MN. They are chart topping cheeky fuckers. Please message them and tell them so.
Get well soon xxx.

I guess I’m going through similar right now, so thought id show that it is possible but it’s hard work and defo not something to do for other guests. It’s not general information.

Huh?

I get how it might be generally done.

However, this thread is about the OP so I was asking how she did it.

You just make do in any way you can. Online shop with easy bits and pieces, lots of toast,
others coming and helping, quick meals which you can do easily when you can’t stand for long.

Madness! My friend recently had a cancer op and while more mobile than you sound I brought lunch to cook for her about three times (and another friend dropped off some dinner for her to heat up). Plus she had an adult son to help (not that he seemed to be)! The idea that they would bring stuff for themselves and not for you is just unbelievable.
Come on @CatInTheRhombus and @Arlanymor - even if she had food for herself you visit an ill friend you say ‘don’t worry I’ll bring food for us all’!

Sorry should have read all your responses, I see the cheeky bastards left the washing up. That really is next level selfishness.

If the wife contacts you to meet up I would just send her a link to this thread and block her.

That’s really terrible. Wishing you a speedy recovery OP. Treat yourself to a takeaway!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I referred to the dishes as a joke. I really did not expect them to have gone without washing up.

I have a collection of “bizarre memories that I cannot forget” that I draw on on occasions such as when I have missed the bus in winter and it is raining/ when I am at the dentist having a filling. Can I add this please?

I'm now even more pissed off for you!

God how embarrassing for them! I hope this is one of them moments that pops into their head every few years when they're in bed or on the bus and makes them beet red and nauseous from the embarrassment.

I can't believe they used your plates to serve themselves up. Like if they'd brought a sandwich in a carrier bag and ate it from the pack where you were sat it wouldn't feel as bad. But to plan a full, sit down lunch at someone else's houses and not even think to bring enough for the person who you're visiting is fucking arrogant.

My brain is struggling to process how two functioning adults could think that was in anyway normal or acceptable behaviour. Even if I thought a host was sorting their own lunch out I'd have bought enough for four just to be on the safe side. If the host didn't want it for lunch I'd have left it in the fridge for them to have later.

Please tell me these deranged cheeky fuckers cleaned up after themselves?

need that laugh emoji

Did they bring anything at all? Flowers, chocolates, nice biscuits? Offer to make cups of tea?

My upbringing, at school as at home, was ‘unisex’ in its emphasis on manners and reasonable self-denial. (I mean in terms of grabbing or offering the last piece of cake, rather than in a survival crisis)
This was England, 1960s/early 70s, and my family wasn’t unusual or strangely enlightened. We were all brought up to have an awareness of others, even if this was a tough lesson to ingest for many kids. But putting yourself (boy or girl) first in a grabby, selfish way was frowned on by everyone I can think of.

Naturally Im well aware of the conditioning of girls, and that it even persists today. I’d be a bloody fool to ignore it all.
I just mean to say that a general leaning to self-denial in many a situation is not necessarily indicative of culturally learned subjugation, or even weedy self-possession. Sometimes it costs us nothing to let the other have half our sarnie. Nor is such an instinct confined to girls and women. It’s found in any decent bloke.

Well exactly. At the very least, they should have made some lunch for you too, especially as they were eating in your house over lunch. Let alone because you’ve just had surgery and said you weren’t up to making lunch for them. Pretty bloody obvious. Totally nuts. I’m also recovering from foot surgery, fairly immobile and would hate visitors right now. Let alone those that haven’t done anything to help. I can only imagine people like this can’t have had surgery before.

I actually think you should message them OP and point out how rude it was. They need to realise how awful they've been. Say how surprised you were that they came over to see you post surgery and only brought food for themselves, and proceeded to eat it in front of you. And that that's not how any reasonable person who cared about you at all would approach things and in fact it's made you realise you don't want to continue the friendship.

OP , was there even the slightest flicker of embarrassment when they realised you were just going to ear toast?
Has your friend got form for this sort of behaviour?

Hrtft

Omg! 😄😄😄 how cringe! Yanbu, theyve messed up

This is something my autistic family would've done though! I reckon they just took you literally, rather than being deliberate cheeky fuckers!

I’d actually say to continue the relationship he needs to move into his own place so you can see him progressing to adulthood. He’ll never stand on his own two feet if he moves back to mummy.
The relationship won’t progress and you’re wasting your time otherwise. Good luck.

Yes,was gonna ask re:toast!Did they actually watch as u wobbled over on crutches to make it?!!

Well, naturally I was being polite 🤣