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Feeling very sorry for myself after being cancelled on

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Su1345 · 09/08/2026 11:44

I’m late 30s, single parent to one dd age 4. I started talking with someone I knew from university, a few months ago. Long story short, we were due to meet today at 11am for a coffee and brunch and he messaged at 10:24 to say he couldn’t make it as he slept outside last night after a party.

Im not so much emotionally hurt as I am just feeling a bit of, i don’t know, sadness? My lovely little girl is with her dad today and he took her out early so I could have time to get ready. It wasn’t an official date but obviously having not met a man one to one like this for years I was reasonably nervous and I took my time getting ready and choosing what to wear. We’ve also had lots of flirty messages and so on. I was on the way when I got the message.

More than anything I just feel a bit shit about the fact I’m almost 40, single and all dressed up with literally no place to go. So I’m sitting in the car for a moment where I’ve pulled over to write this. I can’t work out my feelings, just feel mostly really stupid and my child free time is so precious and I’ve let him his man do this to me.

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Fatsnowflake · 09/08/2026 11:47

I am sorry. Go and have a nice coffee and read a book. Try to enjoy the child free time and relax. He sounds like a loser especially if he really has slept outside after a party. Very disrespectful of your time, too.

ScallopShelled · 09/08/2026 11:46

I think this is exactly the kind of situation the expression ‘dodged a bullet’ was designed for.

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