AIBU to ask if heartbreak gets easier after five days?

OP. Get off the internet, stop starting identical threads and go outside for some fresh air and perspective.

The child is 16 and a clean break is absolutely the best thing.

It definitely improves with time, it’s a process like anything else. Time scales vary person to person but I’d say most people feel lighter within a few months.

The sort of person who would block a child is not worth your tears and pain.

Her son is a teenager and we have no idea why he felt the need to block him.

For all we know he could've blocked the OP and she started messaging from her son's phone.

You two are always splitting up and getting back together OP.

Your relationship has been shit for a long time and so has your mental health.

The best thing you can do for you and your child, is not to beg him to take you back this time.

Move on and work on you and your son.

I'm so sorry - obviously it is early days and it's going to take a while. As people have said, one day at a time and try not to dwell. The sort of person who would block a child is not worth your tears and pain.

@TheOpalFox this is what I meant when I suggested a move to the Relationships board. AIBU is a free for all and you're too upset for that at the moment. If you report your first post to MNHQ and request it, they can sort it.

Pull yourself together you have a child to care for dont you?

Why allow a man’s actions to hurt you so much? Get up get out and move stop dwelling.

I'd also suggest asking MNHQ to perhaps move this to the Relationships board. You've had really helpful comments fortunately but it is in AIBU..

It will get easier but not after only 5 days.

How long were you together OP? Took me 2 and a half years to get over a 25 year relationship.

Telling someone to (wo)man up is not helpful.

Consider going to see your GP and get some anti d's to help you through this difficult time OP. Otherwise you just have to give it time and lots of it and be very kind to yourself. Do you have supportive friends and/or family?

Yes it will get easier and eventually you will realise that you are much better off without him. Take one day at a time.
Meanwhile focus on your son who needs you. Look after yourself because no man is worth making yourself ill. This man has shown you who he is by blocking your son. Honestly you don't need him.
Organise some fun things to do with your son. Keep yourself busy.
Think about all the positives in your life. Do all the things that you could not do when you were with him.
Be strong , think about your needs and your sons and the future which is in your hands

Yes, it does get better with time. I am a couple of years out from traumatic separation and then death. Let yourself feel, but also keep putting one foot in front of another. Keeping busy helped me, and daily human contact, even if it was a short phone call with a friend, or a chat with the person serving you in a cafe. Make plans, till you realise you don’t need them.

You have posted about him a number of times and he doesn't sound very nice. Ultimately you will be better off with out him but it does feel overwhelming right now. Look for distractions, go for a walk, take a bath, read a book.

OP, I don't mean this unkindly, but you would get more consistent and ongoing support if you didn't keep posting multiple identical threads every day. If you stick to one people will be able to follow it and how you are doing.

Yes it gets easier but it takes months not days. Take one hour at a time.

It hurts because you are grieving. Grief isn’t just a feeling that comes with death of a loved one, it also comes with the death of a relationship. You’re grieving the loss of him in your life now, and the loss of the future you’d imagined together. It will get better. It’s true that time is the healer. It’s about accepting that right now it will hurt like hell, but each day the hurt will lessen. How you’re feeling now is completely normal after a break up, so just give yourself time, look after yourself, spend time doing things you like doing, and time with family & friends. Future you will honestly look back at this time and be proud of yourself for coming through the other side. 💐

Yes it does.

He isn’t weeping about losing you. He isn’t helplessly dwelling and moping around after leaving. You can grieve the relationship and be sad about it ending without completely caving in to heartbreak. Unless you’re a teenager or this is your first relationship ending, you know it takes a while to get back on track and it will hurt but it will also pass. Time is the only healer. Until time has passed and washed the sadness away you might as well get on with all the normal things you have going on. He’s just a man. Don’t let him interrupt your life in a big way.

Posting obsessively on Mumsnet about it really isn't going to help, what number thread is this?

The best piece of advice I know, from friends and relations being widowed and now I'm in the same boat, is get out every single day. Walk to the shops, walk round the park, let people speak to you and respond normally as far as you can. Don't sit indoors festering.

I know splitting up was one person's choice but the grief is similar. If people ask why you're sad tell them. There's no shame in it, most people have survived it, and each time you say it you heal an infinitesimal bit.