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AIBU to complain after a bus driver shouted at me and my children?

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Buscomp · 07/08/2026 16:19

My DC and I very rarely use buses, however with the free travel this month I decided it might be a bit of a novelty to use local buses a little. I asked for tickets for all of us on the first two buses we got on but the drivers said “the kids are free” and let us on, so the next bus I didn’t mention them and just paid for myself assuming this was ok, that driver said nothing.

We boarded a bus together this afternoon and I did the same thing- paid for my ticket and started walking to find a seat. I then heard a commotion behind me so turned around and my 14 yo DD was saying “mum you need to come sort this”. I walked back to the front of the bus and the driver immediately started aggressively shouting at me. He said “your kids need free tickets, they can’t just get on, they were so rude to me as well, can tell how they’ve been raised, why would you just walk on? You need to acknowledge the driver- how dare you do this” etc etc.

Me being me, pretty non confrontational and calm, just apologised profusely for the misunderstanding and if anyone had appeared rude. I explained other drivers hadn’t given me free tickets so I didn’t realise this was necessary. He just said “well it is,
now take them” and printed them…

I said sorry again and feeling shaken, walked back up to my DC. I then overheard him bitching to another passenger about teenagers causing a raucous on the buses and how they shouldn’t be free etc. I assume he’s had a bad time with teens but mine were with me and also silent for the duration.

I decided to speak with him again before we got off. I explained how sorry I really was, that we didn’t use buses often and the other drivers hadn’t given us free tickets so I just didn’t realise at all. He then explained it’s for insurance purposes and I said ok that makes sense, thanks for clearing it up and sorry again. He didn’t stop though and started telling me I needed to “sort my kids out” and “they were rude and shouldn’t treat people like that”. I looked at DD confused and said I’m sorry I didn’t realise they’d said anything to you, I’ll have a word with them now and thank you then got off.

DD’s told me all that happened was the driver shouted after them “OI YOU TWO GET BACK HERE NOW” and they turned around confused and said what? Then they called for me, that was the whole interaction. Given the way he spoke to me, a fully grown adult, I’m inclined to believe them. Should I complain to the bus company? My heart was racing and I was shaking, I haven’t been shouted at like that for many years and just don’t expect to be. It’s certainly put us off using buses again!

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Pootles34 · 07/08/2026 16:41

Bus drivers in my experience are either the nicest people who would do anything for you, love talking to and working with people, or they're the spawn of satan. Doesn't seem to be a middle ground.

Buscomp · 07/08/2026 16:37

TheVeryAngryBanana · 07/08/2026 16:36

They were rude if they didn't say hello to the driver. Tourists like you who don't use public transport, expect all year users to subsidise them and the kick up a fuss are the worst. You'll have delayed everyone else on the bus by making such a fuss and not supervising your children. It's not inexperience, just basic manners and common sense.

I didn’t expect anyone to subsidise me? I paid for myself and would have paid for DD’s ordinarily but they’re free this month- the government chose to do this. I pay taxes like anyone else.

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TheVeryAngryBanana · 07/08/2026 16:36

They were rude if they didn't say hello to the driver. Tourists like you who don't use public transport, expect all year users to subsidise them and the kick up a fuss are the worst. You'll have delayed everyone else on the bus by making such a fuss and not supervising your children. It's not inexperience, just basic manners and common sense.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/08/2026 16:36

I think men who shout at women and children (or anyone vulnerable) are amongst the lowest of the low tbh

Sounds like you handled it extremely well and very calmly though, so well done you.

Katemax82 · 07/08/2026 16:36

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 07/08/2026 16:31

Don't complain. What would it achieve? He thought you were rude, he overreacted. Don't dwell on it.

I complained when a bus driver upset my daughter but I doubt anything happened as they don't tell you the outcome of the complaint

Buscomp · 07/08/2026 16:35

backformoreofthesame · 07/08/2026 16:34

So you didn’t even hear when the bus driver shouted after your kids “oi you two get back here “

so he was really raising his voice becuase you were so wrapped in your own little bubble ?

Yes sorry it’s been a really long day and I was a bit away with it, just wanted to get to a seat. We left at 6am today and had a busy one! I heard a bit of a commotion behind but didn’t realise it was the driver or anything to do with us at first till I heard DD. As I say though, driver has probably also had a long day/week and I was as kind as I could be afterwards to him.

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NewShoes · 07/08/2026 16:34

I’d complain, he sounds aggressive and I’d have felt shaken too.

backformoreofthesame · 07/08/2026 16:34

So you didn’t even hear when the bus driver shouted after your kids “oi you two get back here “

so he was really raising his voice becuase you were so wrapped in your own little bubble ?

Buscomp · 07/08/2026 16:33

Thanks all. I understand he’s probably had a tough week with it, with teens getting on and causing a nuisance. Also acknowledge I should have made them walk in front but we did all get on together at the stop so I guess I just assumed he’d know. I did apologise as I say for the ticketing misunderstanding.

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Morethanadecade · 07/08/2026 16:33

Palmtreesinthegarden · 07/08/2026 16:31

Kids are always free in London and we never have to get a ticket we just get on

That’s because London buses don’t issue tickets.

murasaki · 07/08/2026 16:32

You should have had your kids in front of you, so you could have verified if they were rude, and got the free tickets at the time if those are the rules, not just marched off first.

But it's hot, he was grumpy, they may or may not have been rude, don't let it put you off, just do it differently next time.

Don't waste the opportunity for free travel!

Palmtreesinthegarden · 07/08/2026 16:31

Kids are always free in London and we never have to get a ticket we just get on

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 07/08/2026 16:31

Don't complain. What would it achieve? He thought you were rude, he overreacted. Don't dwell on it.

MyDarlingRose · 07/08/2026 16:30

Drivers are overheated with no access to toilets on their routes and so aren’t drinking water. Yes he was aggy but it is rude to just waft past the driver.

Morethanadecade · 07/08/2026 16:27

He was very out of order. But saying that, I would always expect to have to get a bus pass or a ticket for a child, even if free, unless they are pre-schoolers. The tickets are so they can monitor the numbers of people travelling.

ApplePieCinamon · 07/08/2026 16:22

What the hell was his problem. I have younger kids but never knew that kids travel free means you actually need a ticket for that. Maybe he thought your kids were much older. Either way he was out of order saying about how they were raised