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To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?

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ForMerryPinkCat · 07/08/2026 12:57

I've been offered a job starting on May 27. My old trainer is setting up a new eventing yard and wants me as head groom/rider.

It's a fantastic opportunity to get back to the sport I love but unfortunately I had a horrible accident last year that resulted in multiple injuries and a long hospital stay.

Because of that and the medications I've been taking, my weight has ballooned up to 20 stone. I'm 5'4 so I'm massively overweight. Ideally i'd be under 14 stone when I started with the goal of getting back down to my ideal weight of around 8 stone.

I've told my family and friends it's for my wedding which is at the start of may because they're very against me riding again and I don't want to deal with the aggo if it's not even vaguely possible. My partner knows and is very supportive of me trying.

I've been eating around 1500 calories a day and walking briskly for 20mins several times a day. I've included a few pics of my diet/exercise for the past couple of days. (I will be adding more fruit/veg/protein in starting tonight when my groceries arrive, and switching out the whole milk for skimmed. I'm just trying to empty the fridge so nothing gets wasted!)

To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?
To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?
To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?
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Motnight · 09/08/2026 17:50

Sartre · 08/08/2026 13:31

Walking isn’t enough. You need to start running and doing strength training 5-6 days a week, alternate the days. Try 5:2 diet.

No need to start running unless Op wants to, and I don't think that it would be good for her at this stage.. I've lost over 9 stone on MJ. Agree walking and strength training important.

Good luck, Op 🍀

Heretohelp1111 · 09/08/2026 17:47

Congratulations on your new job ☺️ I lost 6 stone calorie counting and moving more in a similar time frame so it’s definitely
achievable. I weighed less than you’re starting weight but managed to get away with eating more calories (about 1800) and typically achieve a 2lb weight loss a week so you don’t necessarily have to be too restrictive. I use the app nutracheck as I just find it better than my fitness pal. I only do exercise I genuinely enjoy and then I don’t start and give up. I stick to a few different breakfasts and lunches just to keep things simple but I have loads of dinner options. I’m not afraid to borrow calories from a different day either to accommodate socialising etc, I just make sure to be strict when I’m on a lower calorie day. Good luck.

Singlemumsurvivor · 09/08/2026 17:45

I’ve been on Wegovy since the start of January and lost 4 stone. I had tried to lose weight myself for a couple of years and nothing was working. Even increasing my walking wasn’t helping. Age went against me I know, I’m 54 and way past menopause I went through that young. I have had very little side effects from the medication and I do exercise to maintain muscle mass and eat my daily quota of protein too. I would consider it especially because if your injury recovery.

SilenceInside · 09/08/2026 17:38

@AnnaQuayRulesis one of the weight related conditions T2 diabetes?

AnnaQuayRules · 09/08/2026 17:32

Viperregency · 07/08/2026 13:09

Can I ask why to discuss with your gp? Do you have contra indications?

im afraid to say it is highly unlikely a gp will prescribe, it is very tightly controlled, you need a bmi over forty and 4 out of 5 weight related health conditions, even then it is unlikely. You’d be referred to weight management clinic with a long wait.

so if its for the latter, then id advise just going privately now and not waiting for no reason.

That's not true. I was prescribed it by my GP with a BMI of just over 27 and 2 health related conditions. I didn't have to attend a weight management clinic either

Definitely worth asking your GP if you would qualify. If you don't I would consider funding it yourself.

TheLurpackYears · 09/08/2026 17:26

Good luck, what an amazing opportunity. Don’t be discouraged with blips over the month- my weight always goes up 3lbs when I ovulate.

hipposcanweartutus · 09/08/2026 17:16

Well done for taking back control of your life! I’m not going to knock the GLP but it looks as though you’re already on the right track without spending for the jabs. End of March last year, I was a size 22 and my BMI was 38. A year later, I had lost 6 stone through calorie counting using an app on my phone and exercise. I’ve been at target for a couple of months and I feel fabulous, infact, I am
slightly under target as I’m going on holiday and want some wriggle room! My average daily calorie intake since March last year has been 1450 calories per day. Yes I’ve had bad days but the next day, I have started again and had fewer calories for a few days to get back on track. Good luck with your weight loss!

ByCosyGreyPoet · 09/08/2026 14:07

I've also had severe complications to medications in the past. It's not something I would ever risk taking a glp1. I would do wholefoods and intermittent fasting

ForMerryPinkCat · 09/08/2026 13:55

Crumpetring · 09/08/2026 12:36

When you’re ready couch to 5k could work well 🙂

Thank you! My physio also said that!

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Crumpetring · 09/08/2026 12:36

ForMerryPinkCat · 08/08/2026 13:35

I'm absolutely not fit or strong enough to start running yet. Ten minutes brisk walking at a 7% incline leave me out of breath and elevates my heart rate nicely.

When you’re ready couch to 5k could work well 🙂

ForMerryPinkCat · 09/08/2026 12:32

Ahh something is working 🥳🥳🥳

To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?
To ask for advice and support around losing 6+ stone between now and May?
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ForMerryPinkCat · 08/08/2026 13:35

Sartre · 08/08/2026 13:31

Walking isn’t enough. You need to start running and doing strength training 5-6 days a week, alternate the days. Try 5:2 diet.

I'm absolutely not fit or strong enough to start running yet. Ten minutes brisk walking at a 7% incline leave me out of breath and elevates my heart rate nicely.

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Sartre · 08/08/2026 13:31

Walking isn’t enough. You need to start running and doing strength training 5-6 days a week, alternate the days. Try 5:2 diet.

ForMerryPinkCat · 08/08/2026 13:30

Thank you. I do work with a physio and he has okayed my plan so far.

I did my first session at the gym this morning then had a nice swim after! I'm desperately trying not to give into temptation to get on the scales just yet because I think it's too early!

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Bangerang · 08/08/2026 09:25

RonObvious · 08/08/2026 09:12

My only concern with WLI is that they can be linked with muscle loss, and that’s the last thing you need right now. Personally, I’d speak to a physio about putting together a plan to build your muscle and fitness slowly, rather than focussing so much on weight loss. If you’re recovering from an injury, building back your strength will be more important before going back to such a physically demanding job. The right plan will result in fat loss too, but lose weight too quickly, and you risk further muscle loss, which would be a bad idea.

I concur

RonObvious · 08/08/2026 09:12

My only concern with WLI is that they can be linked with muscle loss, and that’s the last thing you need right now. Personally, I’d speak to a physio about putting together a plan to build your muscle and fitness slowly, rather than focussing so much on weight loss. If you’re recovering from an injury, building back your strength will be more important before going back to such a physically demanding job. The right plan will result in fat loss too, but lose weight too quickly, and you risk further muscle loss, which would be a bad idea.

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · 08/08/2026 07:40

ForMerryPinkCat · 07/08/2026 13:02

Thank you. I have an appointment at the end of the month to discuss it with my GP.

You will probably qualify for NHS support eventually because your starting BMI is over 40 and you have other health issues. However this will definitely not happen in time for May. Before you get prescribed there is a process which varies between health trusts but usually takes at least 6 months and sometimes longer. I first asked for support from my GP in June 2025 and I have found it really helpful to have various stages prior to getting the medication and I have dropped one stone without the jabs but I only just got through to the stage of being prescribed the jabs a couple of weeks ago. The pre-prescription stages aren't just about rationing or waiting lists - the most important steps are psychological and people who just go for the meds without changing their mindset don't get as much benefit from the meds.

So if you really need to get the meds that quickly you will probably have to pay privately - but don't just take them without also trying to make sure you have permanent changes in how you balance the needs of your body so that the jabs are supporting these changes rather than being a shortcut to skipping this hard work.

ForDreamyMintHare · 08/08/2026 07:22

ForMerryPinkCat · 07/08/2026 18:08

I've had bad reactions to medications in the past so want to discuss it with my GP before I start anything like that.

The exercise calories are from my smartwatch which has my weight/height and such so should be fairly close.

I know I should swap the bread and milk and add more veggies but I currently live on my own and if I don't use it up it'll just go in the bin. I'm not wasting perfectly good food by throwing it away when I can eat it in moderation until it's gone.

Unfortunately if not eligible on the NHS then as a GP we can't do that. See a private GP.

youplonkerrodney · 07/08/2026 18:20

Way to go OP!
Looks like you’re off to a great start! 10 months to lose 6 stone - I’m sure you can achieve it, or at least come very close 😊. Try setting mini goals, that’s what I’m doing at the moment to lose weight. The road looks long when you look at it in its entirety, but when you break it down to weighing X weight in 4 weeks time, it is far more motivating!
Also remember - it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being consistent.
There will be days when the diet or walking don't go to plan - but that’s OK! Just keep going and don’t give up when that happens!

likelysuspect · 07/08/2026 18:15

GPs cant really comment on medications they dont prescribe. Mine refuses to discuss anything with me that I get privately or think I want

On 1500 cals, you'll do fine until the lower ranges, but the consistence will be hard unless you have medical support in my view, humans are designed to seek out food. I would get on the jabs asap

ForMerryPinkCat · 07/08/2026 18:08

I've had bad reactions to medications in the past so want to discuss it with my GP before I start anything like that.

The exercise calories are from my smartwatch which has my weight/height and such so should be fairly close.

I know I should swap the bread and milk and add more veggies but I currently live on my own and if I don't use it up it'll just go in the bin. I'm not wasting perfectly good food by throwing it away when I can eat it in moderation until it's gone.

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BranClaps · 07/08/2026 16:23

That reads like a really poor diet to me. Stop eating bread and add some vegetables.

scrambled eggs and vegetables for brunch, a healthy home made meal with lots of beans/vegetables.

Scarlettpixie · 07/08/2026 16:20

If you are counting calories, make sure you weigh everything and don't add on your exercies calories. You say you have been eating around 1500 calories but on the 2 examples you give, 1 is closer to 1600 and the other over 1800. Little tweaks you might want to try to cut a few calories - do you really need 20g of butter on your toast? I scrape it on and off so it is no more than 5g per slice. To do this, weigh your bread, add your butter and weigh again. Your butter is the difference. Switch whole milk to semi, have 1 bagel rather than 2 bagel thins (likely less calories, although tbh I haven't checked). Otherwise looks fine to me. I also recommend taking a GLP-1. It makes it so much easier to stick to a calorie deficit long term. Before I went on it I would loose 10lb, loose interest and put on 12lb. That said, having a goal, both the job and the wedding are good targets. You may or may not loose 6 stone in that time but you will be a good way there.

ForDreamyMintHare · 07/08/2026 16:12

Almost no one has genuine access to glp1 on nhs if not diabetic. If you can afford it start them now privately.

MissIonX · 07/08/2026 16:11

ForMerryPinkCat · 07/08/2026 13:02

Thank you. I have an appointment at the end of the month to discuss it with my GP.

I was a similar height and starting weight to you, i've been doing slimming world for 11 months and have lost 4 1/2 stone