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AIBU?

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Original poster

Husband blames Mumsnet

214 replies

Howtorespond · 05/08/2026 23:30

if I challenge my husband’s bullying, or disagree, I’m told “here we go, it’s Mumsnet again”, or “f*ing Mumsnet”, or “what does Mumsnet say”. I’m really worn down.

OP posts:
Velvera · 06/08/2026 08:08

Stop telling him you are posting your problems on MN.

TY78910 · 06/08/2026 08:01

OneFunGreyFish · 06/08/2026 02:35

Oh my God, never tell your husband you are on Mumsnet, none of his goddam business.

Tbh, this. Have you posted about him on MN before and then used the responses to confront him?

Wordsmithery · 06/08/2026 07:40

Hundreds of people on MN with one opinion versus one of him with an opposing view... The numbers should tell him something.

(Although, to be fair, if I thought my DP was sharing our problems with complete strangers I'd be mortified.)

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/08/2026 03:20

He wants to separate you from any support structure he can. Do you have friends to support you? Family?

OneFunGreyFish · 06/08/2026 02:35

Oh my God, never tell your husband you are on Mumsnet, none of his goddam business.

fridgegrazer · 06/08/2026 02:20

You're right Colin, and I've just asked Mumsnet and they said LTB.

ClayPotaLot · 06/08/2026 02:16

This sounds like it's probably quite a long term lack of love and respect. Just from what you've said here I'm wondering - why are you trying to argue with someone who bullies you rather than leaving them?

mathanxiety · 06/08/2026 01:33

What @VimesandhisCardboardBoots said.

DawnBreaks · 06/08/2026 01:31

My Dad used to say similar to my Mum, only it wasn’t Mumsnet, it was Woman’s Realm!

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 06/08/2026 00:54

I'd start listening to Mumsnet if I were you. Why are you still with someone who bullies you?

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 06/08/2026 00:37

Is he joking? Sometimes my husband says “Right post it on AIBU and see what they say” but he’s doing it as a joke to diffuse tension.

JustSawJohnny · 06/08/2026 00:22

ohsosomething · 06/08/2026 00:19

Just tell him, MN says LTB! 😂

Or hit him with an ODFOD 😆

JustSawJohnny · 06/08/2026 00:22

'Are you really that insecure that you have to blame all your own shortcomings on the imaginary opinions of strangers?'

Followed by a tinkly laugh and a small head shake.

ohsosomething · 06/08/2026 00:19

Just tell him, MN says LTB! 😂