Hi all,
long time lurker, first time actually posting so go easy on me 😂
i've read this place for YEARS without making an account but i've finally caved because i've gone round and round in my own head.
Basically last night i found out my husband had been messaging another woman. I wasn’t snooping, he left his phone on the sofa and went for a shower and the message popped up
Before anyone asks, no they weren't explicit. No meeting up (as far as i know). No declarations of love. Nothing like that.
She was quite a bit younger than him, and what i can't seem to get out of my head is that she's almost the same age i was when we first got together (21) he had 2 DC already now 17 & 14 and we have 4 together, our eldest together is 11 and i got pregnant with him quite quickly into the relationship
He says it got out of hand, he's apologised, showed me everything that was still there, blocked her without me asking and has basically done everything i'd have wanted him to do afterwards.
But i still feel rubbish and was got a busy house, six kids in total and pets and it being school holidays and he's doing shifts so i'm trying to keep everyone alive until September 😂 so it's not like i've got loads of time to sit dwelling on it, but i still do. We’re due to go away on friday and i think maybe a week would do us good but I don’t know if im mad for even considering going. I haven’t told anyone which is why im finally posting here after being a lurker for years
am i making this into something bigger than it actually is because i'm in my own head too much? but also this isn’t the first time
Happy to answer questions if i've missed anything because i almost certainly have. Please be kind if you can