AIBU to think 8.45pm is too early to expect quiet?

8.45 is ridiculous, why that time exactly? Depending on where you live it’s either quiet at that time or not. Normal neighbour noise, fine.

I grew up in a very quiet area and the retired neighbour next door to me would complain when I had music on during the day in the summer with windows open. I think I did turn it down a little bit, but it was just teenage music (he had 2 adult children).

Indeed. You'd think they'd have worked that out by now.

Unless your drilling adjacent to the nursery i can't see how normal household noise should bother a 4 month old.

I tend to make sure things are quiet by 9 but my children are younger.

OP says it's 9pm during term time (which seems really, really early for everyone to be in bed..but that's another thread).

OP, you need to tell us what sort of noise? Are there a bunch of teenagers playing music under the infant's window? Are they playing basket ball?

If I'm having people over in the evening, we'll use our garden but just for talking, I would let my teenager be too loud out there past about 9.30pm I suppose - just how I didn't let them out in the garden before 9am when they were little. I am in a terrace.

I would make sure they weren’t blasting rap music out

But normal summer evening noise - absolutely not

Some babies are hard work some are light sleepers - luck of the draw they can put the baby literally anywhere right now

I think it depends on what kind of noise you’re making, I wouldn’t complain that early but things like mowing a lawn/drilling/anything with a chainsaw etc in the evening would be irritating when you have young children you’ve put to bed.

If it’s just that you’re sitting outside talking and especially if it’s the weekend then they are definitely being unreasonable and that’s the sort of noise I’d hope my children would sleep through, if not I’d close their windows.

What noise are your teens making or can you hear noise through the walls? Have they got radios blaring outside or through windows? Is it general chatter in the garden? How quiet do they expect you to be?

in answer to your question, 8.45pm is too early, especially in the summer. Do you hear their baby cry a lot when it awakens?

It's ridiculous. There is still noise outside my house at 9pm . People getting in from work, people laughing in the garden, neighbours kids still playing out, my teens in the garden with friends, neighbours mowing the lawn. Inside the house In watching TV, teens often chatting with friends, playing video games, teens coming and going. That's normal noise for 9 pm. It's summer. My teens don't go to bed untill 1 am during the summer but do keep the noise down from 10 pm.

Generally quiet time
legally is 11pm to 7am in the UK.

They're making a rod for their own back expecting peace and quiet around their baby. Far better to have some noise (vacuum cleaner, music, talking on the radio etc) and the baby get used to it.

Babies wake up noise or not.

What kind of noise is it? If it’s just daily life then that’s unreasonable but if it’s huge noise I can see their point?

If you're happy to be quiet from 9pm then what does 15 minutes matter? What is the type of noise they are complaining about?

I would laugh and carry on. 8.45 pm is ridiculous to expect other people to turn out the lights and be 100% quite because of a baby. And we are not a noisy family but 8.45?

I don’t think you're unreasonable, but your post implies you’d be happy to be quiet from 9pm - not sure 15 minutes makes that much difference.

Camp sites and hostels and similar usually say either 10 or 11.

if the baby is waking at noise from next door then unless you are having a full on rap battle or something it’s unreasonable to be completely quiet from 8:45