AIBU to think 8.45pm is too early to expect quiet?

rather than come on here i suggest you talk to your neighbours
explain your point of view

Tell them their child will have to get used to normal household noise or
they had better go and buy a house next to a graveyard. Then block their number.

Bollocks. Only one, "alot" is used like this and it could still be a typo. I'm a lawyer and writer and I make a ton of errors on here at times because I'm typing fast on a phone touchscreen, and I have brain farts and make stupid grammatical or spelling errors where I've known the correct form since I was six. But you know, it's Mumsnet and I don't give a shit other than when it impedes understanding. The OP writes well, it's really easy to tell when someone is less literate.

Come on, it's becoming pretty common to see those words spelt that way, they're not typos just lack of knowledge.

YANBU, but equally I think you could ask the teens to hang out inside between 9pm and 10pm without it costing you anything.

All this rubbish about 'encouraging confidence and socialisation'...your 16 year old son isn't going to have his confidence or socialisation impacted because he's been asked to come in from the garden at 9pm and hangout with his mates indoors for an hour! That need to over justify your position comes from you knowing at heart that you could do your neighbours a favour and ask them to come inside at 9pm instead of 10pm. I don't think you're being unreasonable, but maybe you think you're not operating at peak kindness either?

Oh give over. Obviously typos.

They are nice neighbours so be considerate to their request.
Drawing the curtains and keeping the noise down by 8:45 pm is not hard. Your kids can keep to low noise easily enough.

Tell neighbours that you will do your best but that it is Summer with teenagers. Warn neighbours in advance when you' are having a party.

Honestly? I think you should say that you are already considerate of noise due to living situation. You would understand their request if you were regularly holding loud parties, but you are not. Legally everyone is entitled to “quiet enjoyment” of their home. This translates to “reasonable” everyday noise within specific times. Their request is controlling and unreasonable. You know they are tired, but their baby will soon be sleeping through the night. Recommend white noise machine, vacuuming, music, etc to desensitize baby to normal household noises.

You're a teacher? I wouldn't normally post about people's spelling, but I hope you're not teaching kids to make up words by smooshing two together the way you do (e.g. alot, atleast, infront).

I think your neighbours are being unreasonable if your kids are indeed as quiet and considerate as you say they are. I wonder if they've thought of getting some white noise going in baby's room; that would probably help a lot.

Your kids are fine. The neighbours are entitled and are going to have to get used to living in the real world, or move somewhere with no neighbours. That's a them problem, don't let them make your children's lives smaller and more miserable than they have to be,when your children are doing absolutely nothing wrong.

You and your DC are doing nothing wrong. You’re being good neighbours by not playing loud music. People chatting can be loud but there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s summer and you’ve got every right to sit in your own garden.

It doesn't actually help babies who wake at the slightest noise to keep quiet, as they never learn to sleep through noise.

I suspect that it's parents who have wakeful babies and who need to be undisturbed themselves that request quiet. They can think that if it's quiet, the baby may stay asleep and they need the break from the baby.

Live your life normally (your posts make it clear you are doing absolutely nothing wrong).

Ignore them completely. Get used to absolutely ignoring them and pretending they do not exist, because they will continue to make unraesonable demands.

I think there's a difference between a one off and what happens day to day. As a one off or temporary thing, later is fine. But if it's an ongoing normal everyday thing, I think it's reasonable to expect them to come in at 9ish, perhaps leaving doors and windows open so the noise is muffled but not silenced.

I would try and be a good neighbour otherwise you might find they start standing in their garden at 5am with the screaming baby.

They are new parents and probably want to be in bed by 9am with the window open but can't sleep due to 6 teenagers chatting and laughing in your garden.

They are making a rod for their own backs. Silence isn't reality - baby needs to learn to sleep with ambient sound or they need to use white noise.

I would respectfully reply saying that whilst you do already try to be mindful that they have a baby, you have two teens who are on summer holidays and have a social life, and that their request is not reasonable.

One day they will remember this request and burn with the embarrassment of it when Baby is 17 and playing fucking drill music and 1am.

The baby is their problem. It's ridiculous for them to expect the neighbourhood to accommodate them. If they need absolute silence then they need to move somewhere else.

They're not lovely, by the way. They've moaned about you staying up past 8.45 and about your dogs. Lovely people don't do that.

6 teenagers chatting outside is quite loud if it’s a terraced house at whatever time especially if they’re laughing and have deep or high pitched voices. But 8.45pm is a bit early. I do understand though that the parents are probably exhausted and just want their child to sleep.