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To think my neighbour is really passive aggressive?

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neighbourr · 26/07/2026 19:55

Couple of months ago neighbours nearly teen girl (aged 12) and 3 of her friends kept knocking on my door when I was trying to do housework. My children had gone to my in-laws. I kept walking down to answer but no one there! I then decided to check door camera and saw it was neighbour 5 doors down kid who I never spoke to or the parents at all but know by face when driving by.

I asked her not to knock on my door again and to leave me alone. Neighbour then posted on group chat someone was very “aggressive” to her kid! I told her if she’s talking about me then I have every right to tell people to stop knocking on my door. I told her to stop posting on group chat for street and we should chat in person. She was highly argumentative at me telling me she’s only a child. I told her my kids are also living on the street and I wouldn’t allow this behaviour.

This afternoon the dad has put a very passive aggressive message on group chat saying his daughter abd few friends planning on knocking on a few doors and people have responded very positively saying yes it’s do much fun we would do it as kids etc. etc. and he replied back thank you to those who allow our kids to be kids! It’s obviously aimed at me. I just find it so entitled that they feel their kid well nearly teenager has the right to annoy parents. What he did this morning to post a message and those that responded only those for his kid should be knocking on I feel. I just see how entitled this girl will grow up into. No idea if she knocked on my door as I turned doorbell and ring off. Why in bloody Sundays? My only day to clean when kids go to visit family.

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neighbourr · 26/07/2026 20:05

Restlessdreams1994 · 26/07/2026 20:02

I’m with you, OP. It’s not “kids being kids”, it’s kids behaving in a selfish and entitled way because they’ve been raised to think it’s ok.

In a few years time the mother will probably be on here posting asking how to deal with her rude, disrespectful teenage daughter!

The number of times I kept running down the stairs expecting my parcel pissed me off to but her attitude towards me when I asked her to please not do anymore really shocked me! Had she just said I’m sorry I was just playing I might have felt a little guilty being annoyed but the attitude she gave me was shocking plus her mother giving me attitude on top of this. I just feel it’s no manners in this society. I’m in my mid 30’s so not so bad walking up and down to answer the door but what about a frail elderly person? No consideration at all.

I really feel like responding to the father on the group chat

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Restlessdreams1994 · 26/07/2026 20:02

I’m with you, OP. It’s not “kids being kids”, it’s kids behaving in a selfish and entitled way because they’ve been raised to think it’s ok.

In a few years time the mother will probably be on here posting asking how to deal with her rude, disrespectful teenage daughter!

neighbourr · 26/07/2026 20:00

Nofeckingway · 26/07/2026 19:57

Don't bother replying. You can't argue with stupid.

The sheer arrogance is driving me crazy. Like the whole game has been designed to annoy your neighbours and get a laugh at their expense. Why not do to immediate neighbours rather than people they have never spoken a word to? Also in old days it might be fun but with security cameras and door bells it’s hardly anonymous anymore!

I would be mortified if my children did this and wouldn’t actively encourage it. The kid is hardly a toddler, she’s nearly as tall as me! Especially with 4 of them in total it’s hardly cute or funny

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ShetlandishMum · 26/07/2026 19:57

Couple of months ago? They did it once?
Overreacting, sorry.

Nofeckingway · 26/07/2026 19:57

Don't bother replying. You can't argue with stupid.

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