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No acknowledgement 25 yr marriage

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Annie000 · 20/07/2026 23:54

25 years of marriage yesterday. 25 years. Been together over 35 years, six children, 8 grandchildren. My husband woke up yesterday and said 'ooh it's our anniversary isn't it? Fancy a quickie" . No card, flowers, no plans,no posts on his socials. Nada, nothing, zip. I admit I didn't do anything either, because I secretly hoped he would. Not that he ever does. He won't "waste" .only on cards and doesn't"go shopping '.AIBU expecting a little something, a bit of recognition for everything? All the years, all the work, raising the kids, doing EVERYTHING when it comes to holidays, birthdays, Christmas etc. I don't know why I feel so fed up and disappointed, because this is what it's always been like. Not had a dinner or date night on over 4/5 years.
What should I do????????
What are your thoughts????
AIBU?????

OP posts:
Mumblechum0 · 21/07/2026 00:00

We always plan something together for anniversaries, usually a few days away or a special meal out, maybe next time the two of you can have a conversation about it? If your DH isn’t the organising type, it sounds like you need to sort something.

i do understand your disappointment though

Naurrr · 20/07/2026 23:59

He consistently doesn't care any other year, so it would've been predictable that he doesn't care this year either.
Does he show his love every day and enhance your life?

Cheeseandolivesplease · 20/07/2026 23:56

@Annie000 But you didn't do anything either?

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