AIBU to be upset by my partner talking about craving younger women?

The fact that he’s insecure is exactly what’s making him behave like a negging twat. He knows full well you’re too good for him and he’s saying this crap to make you insecure. He’s a dickhead.

Also the word ‘crave’ in this context is hideous.

What you don’t seem to be getting is that dating a bloke isn’t mandatory. Definitely not at 60. You have made a couple of posts suggesting that all blokes are like this. Fine, sensible women don’t want any of them.

He is usually pretty insecure and the one that sends messages every morning and evening and seems to be really mad about me. Also I have been helping him with lots of things (medical etc as we don't live in the uk and I am better at the language). He also tells me I'm beautiful every time he sees me, co I just don't understand how he could just make this remark and think it's ok? I can't actually get any younger and I think it is so creepy = when I got upset he said that he didn't actually mean himself - but men that want trophy wives? Ugh

Wake up. How many men do you think don’t still feel attracted to their original type of attraction? It’s a wank fantasy because that’s when neural pathways for sex were laid down.

No, I think it has run it's course sadly. It's not easy dating in your sixties but I reckoned I was looking good for my age. Now I feel that I'm kidding myself - even if it was thinking aloud the thought was still there in the first place - so I've no idea whay goes on in his head now - or actually, I do.

Wake up. How many men do you think don’t still feel attracted to their original type of attraction? It’s a wank fantasy because that’s when neural pathways for sex were laid down.

This was incredibly emotionally unintelligent of him. Some men are so STUPID.
Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water but let him know how insulting a comment like that is. And give him one more chance.

Yes - the previous one was while we were on holiday and met this couple and the wife said her husband could have another drink before they left as she would drive back from the airport and while sitting next to me he said 'Oh my god have you got a younger sister for me?' Yep - that hurt too

It's not one remark though, you say he has said similar several times. Up to you what you do, but he is counting on you letting it slide. Again.

Yes - the previous one was while we were on holiday and met this couple and the wife said her husband could have another drink before they left as she would drive back from the airport and while sitting next to me he said 'Oh my god have you got a younger sister for me?' Yep - that hurt too

He's old, rude, in bad health, can't speak the local language, and poor. He's bringing nothing to the table and no younger (or older) woman will want him, so he's just saying this to be mean and chip away at your confidence.

He's putting you down to feel better about his manifold deficiencies, when actually you're facilitating his life by going to the doctors and translating for him. He doesn't deserve you. Put him in the bin.

I think you have to sperate the action from the thought.

The action was insensitive and rude and should be apologized for.

The thought? Biological unfortunately. I'm sorry but it is just the way the male brain works.. they never stop desiring younger women, no matter how old they get. An 80 year old man in a nursing home will still have his attention caught by a young pretty woman walking in.

Expecting any man to only find you attractive and never think about younger woman is just deluded. Although most men are decent enough to hide it and not say it, because they love you. Just as most women are decent enough not to point out that they would rather have a fitter, taller, richer, etc. man.

As long a man's love for you is genuine though, these things are just fantasies. Most men and women fantasize but they don't actually want the reality. The reality that a young women would look at him as a disgusting old man...

So make him apologize for hurting your feelings, and tell him to keep his daydreams to himself, and just as daydreams. Because you'll have an easier time finding a younger man than he will finding a younger woman.

He obviously has an inflated view of himself and is a bit deluded - 'midlife crisis" in his sixties??

He just popped in (having his car done down the road) to see if I was ok as he has been worried about me. He asked if he could come back later and I said no - he was completely flummoxed by this but I asked him to go and he said alright and he would wait to hear from me. I am going to reflect hard on his but the way I feel I won't be able to let it go. It doesn't help that it is eleventy million degrees here in France at the mo, which is making me feel sick and even more upset.

He's old, rude, in bad health, can't speak the local language, and poor. He's bringing nothing to the table and no younger (or older) woman will want him, so he's just saying this to be mean and chip away at your confidence.

He's putting you down to feel better about his manifold deficiencies, when actually you're facilitating his life by going to the doctors and translating for him. He doesn't deserve you. Put him in the bin.