To ban SD from my en suite?!

Oh come on!

There’s no way your DH should have allowed this. They are both taking the piss, I’d be leaving and buying a house of my own. And no I’m not joking. Living with other peoples teenagers is hell.

I couldn’t be like this, I wouldn’t have an issue with sharing a bathroom and products, if I have something particularly expensive to treat myself then I keep it in my room.

I'd rather have a good relationship with her than have a major issue with this. She loves your stuff obviously, it's really nice that she does IMO. You sound very insular, do you not feel she's part of your family? If she wasn't taking care of your things or wasting it then that's different, but you didn't even notice. Would you really not share your shampoo with your kids? I wear my mums dressing gown when I'm at hers.

It's literally just a bathroom, most people only have one for the whole family and do just fine. I think you need to get over yourself.

Me neither. I really don’t get why people would be so enraged I’ve never heard of it.

The use of the room itself wouldn’t bother me much. My kids use our en-suite.
Using your products and cloths though is absolutely not on. That’s invasive.

Sympathies OP, been there too, although at least mine didn't wear my slippers (AFAIK) but she'd go through a bottle of my expensive shampoo in under a week without replacing it. I'd read the riot act and ban use of the en-suite. I'd also read the riot act to DH if he knew this was going on!

Just for info: does the other bathroom have a bath?

She absolutely shouldnt be using your stuff. But I might not mind her in the bathroom with her own stuff were it the only bath.

How well do they get on with you. Maybe sounds like the SD doesn't like you

I'd read her the Riot Act and put a lock on the bedroom door. What DH says to his daughter about her cheek and lack of respect would determine whether he got given a key.

It could be a bonding thing but the wearing of the OP’s dressing gown is just weird! I don’t think I’d even have put my own mum’s dressing gown on at that age let alone a step-mum’s. It’s rather strange.

To me, it sounds like a territorial thing - purposely using your bath, your products, and your dressing gown. She waited until you were out so maybe she gets a kick out of crossing your boundaries and using your products. Your DH needs to give her a talk - or, as a PP suggested, you could pretend to do the same to her to get the message across.

She shat in your kettle....its intentional and you need to be smart about your response. Be the grown up and express how invasive this is. How would she feel if it was her bedroom/stuff? But make it about learning respect and being thoughtful for others...oh, and she's definitely got to clean ensuite.

Oh here we go!

what a pile of rubbish

@EasterEstherEgg id go postal on this, at the SD and at your H for allowing this. Be VERY clear that your bathroom is off limits as is all your stuff.

rockets. Send multiple rockets up ‘em.

That would fuck me right off. Entitled little sod using up all your stuff!!!

I hope you protected your deposit. Let me guess - he wouldn’t be able to house himself if you weren’t around to finance it.

Read her the riot act. And your DP too for being an arsehole.

My kids use my en-suite, and my daughter uses my stuff, I also pinch her expensive makeup, win win

I’d be furious. Cheeky mare. Get a lock.

I would make them replace my things.

If I use my personal spends/birthday money etc to buy a specific bath oil or face cream for £50 or £100, I don't want someone else using it! I bought it for me, for a treat, for me.

If it was a bottle of Dove or Pantene that was bought on the joint account at tesco, that would be fine.

If she wanted a bath and that was the only bath in the house, I would be okay with that too.

But for goodness sake, she can use her own slippers and bath robe!

I’m honestly surprised at how many people would be bothered by this. My teenage daughter can use my en-suite and any of my toiletries, I just buy more when they are done. I don’t have any step children though if that’s what changes things.

I think you have a DH problem here. He knows you don't like it but let her do it anyway....

Why do people say this?
Let alone SDC?
they are a blended family living in same home. All the DC have equal rights I hope

Kids need to learn boundaries, it is a lesson in life. You do have a DH problem though as he is clearly enabling her. My own children know my en-suite is a no go area and they also know that in our house if you want to use someone else’s products you ask them first. It’s basic manners and respect.

I’d be fuming too. I don’t live with DP and he has a teenage DD, I kept a small make up bag at his and realised she’s been using it. I binned everything quietly, informed her dad I need new make up and also asked her if she wanted her own make up bag, she said no. DP couldn’t see the problem and was miffed I chucked it. He got it when he had to fork £130. It’s his fault for not parenting his own child. He won’t let her touch any of my stuff, in fact he goes ballistic.
Maybe try that?

Teenage daughters do this….
and make up
and perfume
tweezers
hair spray
etc etc

this has been going on since the dark ages.

pick your battles.

if this really annoys you that she is using your stuff lock it away.

My dc were allowed in my room or bed but not my en-suite, because if they used my shower they would pour on half a bottle of whatever it was, in one go.