Page 12 | To ban SD from my en suite?!

EasterEstherEgg · 2026-07-02T17:48:04+00:00

I’m fuming!! When I moved in with DH, an en suite was an essential on my list. I have DD12 and he has SS15 and SD17 and I don’t want to share my personal space with teenagers. They’re also not allowed in our bed. Have come back from a work trip early to find SD getting out of my bath, with my shampoos, body lotions and creams laid out and my bloody dressing gown and slippers on and apparently she often does this when I’m away! She - and DH and everyone else - are well aware my en suite is off limits. AIBU?

axolotlfloof · 03/07/2026 20:07

My kids would ask but also aren't banned from rooms or shouted at for having an overpriced bath.

axolotlfloof · 03/07/2026 20:05

ThreadGuardDog · 03/07/2026 18:53

Same could be said of DSD.

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She is a child.
OP is a grown woman with a family who wants to bin her family off over some over priced face cream.

Blondeshavemorefun · 03/07/2026 19:56

So if you split who will look after dd while you work away 2/3 days a week

TheDenimPoet · 03/07/2026 19:43

KnittyNell · 02/07/2026 19:03

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.
Hardly the crime of the century.

Thank you Mother Theresa.

SweatySpider321 · 03/07/2026 19:41

EasterEstherEgg · 02/07/2026 23:59

To be honest this is the last straw. Both SC and DH treat our house like a dosshouse and I’m tired of coming home late after working hard to find a mess.

I think I’m done.

DD and I will be much happier living separately.

In your shoes l would probably do similar in all fairness. I wouldn’t tolerate this level of disrespect and obnoxiousness off my own children. Zero chance with step children. He can go Disney Dad and cocklodge elsewhere. The current set up sounds like a nightmare, including the subsiding of everyone

Zippidydoodah · 03/07/2026 19:40

I’m confused. She shouldn’t be using your products, but I wouldn’t go mad about her using the bath in the en-suite.

RumPidgeon · 03/07/2026 19:39

In your case it would be the last straw for me. Your step kids sound difficult and your husband isn’t backing you up enough. I wouldn’t waste time living a life that doesn’t make me happy. The repeated breaches of boundaries and lack of respect would grate on me.

For the sake of you and your young daughter‘s peace of mind I’d end this misery and separate.

2O26 · 03/07/2026 19:32

AnaisVB · 03/07/2026 19:20

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable about her using your products , or even the en suite at a push. They are your things, and your space and given the situation you described I think it’s fair to have those boundaries.

However you sound like you hate her! She’s trying it on as that’s what teenagers do, she’s pushing it and being disrespectful but show me a teenager that hasn’t done annoying things . It just sounds to be like you don’t like your SC and that is not great for anyone. Blended families are unbelievably hard and complex and sounds to me like you all beed different.

"However you sound like you hate her!" It sounds like OP hates how her SC treats her (she is very disrespectful), but that does not mean she hates her.

2O26 · 03/07/2026 19:26

hahabahbag · 03/07/2026 19:10

Wouldn’t bother me, in fact dd2 usually uses the en-suite because dd1 and dsd lived with us so have “bedrooms” and dd2 if they are all here is in the extra room/study

I can understand that you are okay with DD2 using your en-suite. I assume she was respectful, though. She wouldn't wait until you were away to sneak into the en-suite, wouldn't use your expensive facial cream on her legs, wouldn't make a habit of using your bathrobe and slippers, and would leave the bathroom tidy.

LivingwithHopenowandforever · 03/07/2026 19:25

dogsarebetterthanppl · 03/07/2026 19:05

absolutely not, my db (14- large gap) knows he only needs to ask to use my skincare or for me to pick him something up (he has acne and i’m the family beauty/hair/fashion expert) but he also knows if he used it without asking he would be neutered like a hyperactive labrador🤣 i would put a lock on the door or leave a decoy for her to use……

Thank you! ‘Hyperactive Labradoor’!!!!! 😂😂

AnaisVB · 03/07/2026 19:20

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable about her using your products , or even the en suite at a push. They are your things, and your space and given the situation you described I think it’s fair to have those boundaries.

However you sound like you hate her! She’s trying it on as that’s what teenagers do, she’s pushing it and being disrespectful but show me a teenager that hasn’t done annoying things . It just sounds to be like you don’t like your SC and that is not great for anyone. Blended families are unbelievably hard and complex and sounds to me like you all beed different.

0Thatsplenty0 · 03/07/2026 19:20

Mummamap · 03/07/2026 19:15

Do the other bathrooms have a bath? If not then I would say you are being unreasonable. If she has others baths she can use then, no you are not being unreasonable

This thread has been going for more than 24 hours. Do you seriously think your question has not been asked/answered? If you click 'see all' on the bottom of OP's first post, you'll see all the relevant information.

Mummamap · 03/07/2026 19:15

Do the other bathrooms have a bath? If not then I would say you are being unreasonable. If she has others baths she can use then, no you are not being unreasonable

riceuten · 03/07/2026 19:12

You are not being unreasonable if the same rules apply to all kids, regardless of parentage

hahabahbag · 03/07/2026 19:10

Wouldn’t bother me, in fact dd2 usually uses the en-suite because dd1 and dsd lived with us so have “bedrooms” and dd2 if they are all here is in the extra room/study

dogsarebetterthanppl · 03/07/2026 19:05

absolutely not, my db (14- large gap) knows he only needs to ask to use my skincare or for me to pick him something up (he has acne and i’m the family beauty/hair/fashion expert) but he also knows if he used it without asking he would be neutered like a hyperactive labrador🤣 i would put a lock on the door or leave a decoy for her to use……

ThatLemonBee · 03/07/2026 19:03

I would ban her from even entering my room with that lack of respect ! Wow

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/07/2026 19:00

DimwittedSkater · 03/07/2026 00:19

Blimey. 😟

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Why should they need to? No doubt they have their own nice things. I'd be livid.

Ceramiq · 03/07/2026 18:58

What other people feel about this is totally irrelevant. The SD was given clear, firm and extremely reasonable boundaries and she infringed them massively. Time for a talking to and a punishment.

daleylama · 03/07/2026 18:57

EasterEstherEgg · 03/07/2026 00:02

Yes, repeatedly

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Had a similar issue at work where 6 male team used my office for weekend meetings - its a real territorial move.. at the very least, just disrespectful

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/07/2026 18:54

Ablondiebutagoody · 02/07/2026 23:40

I wouldn't care about this. Your reaction is way OTT

You don't find it strange? Also £70 cream as leg moisturiser. You are wealthy indeed.

LadyLexi · 03/07/2026 18:53

Sounds like this is the straw that broke the camels back op . I understand i frustrated and fed up you must be. Time to split i think and gain back your privacy and piece of mind .

ThreadGuardDog · 03/07/2026 18:53

axolotlfloof · 03/07/2026 18:15

Perhaps living with other people isn't for you.
Sometimes we need to compromise and accept an obsession with products isn't normal.

Same could be said of DSD.

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/07/2026 18:52

Violinorbanjo · 03/07/2026 18:35

You have to suck it up. The young girls are the princesses, we are the old queens

Weird.

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/07/2026 18:50

KnittyNell · 02/07/2026 19:03

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.
Hardly the crime of the century.

So you're ok with broken trust, disregarded boundaries and theft, before we start on the weirdness of wearing someone else's gown and slippers? Good to know.